A phrase to consider..

Nothing helps delineate stages in your life like the death of a loved one. My life is in the 3rd stage after the death of my mother then after the death of my wife.
Death is a clean break from what came before.
And growing past these life changing deaths is a great growing and learning experience. You come to realize what really matters in life.
 

I don't know how to break down all the stages of life.

My favorite part was during the middle years, 30-50 - a family, a career, a full life, vacations. After that came more careful planning for retirement, but that did not go as hoped for in my case, due to the loss of my wife.

In recent years, I often feel I'm just sort of drifting, but still thankful for decent health, and there are still good days.

In my mind, the final stage will be when / if I'm stricken with a serious illness, and it does me no good to think on that, so I generally don't.
 
gruntlabor said:
The stage in my life of being needed, essential is over. I am responsible for no-one but myself.
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And how do you feel about that?

Some days i wish for less responsibility towards others even tho i don't feel responsible FOR anyone but myself. But then i spent so much of my life being more concerned about the feelings, needs, wants of others--not sure i'd know what to do with myself if i had that 24/7/365. i would hope i take proper care of myself and also indulge a bit more in pleasures that have often been constrained by 'must do' things involving others.
 
feywon said:
And how do you feel about that?

Some days i wish for less responsibility towards others even tho i don't feel responsible FOR anyone but myself. But then i spent so much of my life being more concerned about the feelings, needs, wants of others--not sure i'd know what to do with myself if i had that 24/7/365. i would hope i take proper care of myself and also indulge a bit more in pleasures that have often been constrained by 'must do' things involving others.
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:) I'm okay with it, not complaining at all,. it's just the way things are.
 
Not sure if Jace is talking about any of the formal 'stages of development' as outlined by various psychologists. Or if just things like working, partying, seeking relationships?

For myself i find Maslow's Hierarchy of needs more helpful than Erikson's stages of development. In part, because it acknowledges that because of differing environments and our own natures we all move thru the stages of life differently. That while certainly physiology plays a role as well, our mental/emotional development may be slower or faster than others in various aspects of life.
 
feywon said:
For myself i find Maslow's Hierarchy of needs more helpful than Erikson's stages of development. In part, because it acknowledges that because of differing environments and our own natures we all move thru the stages of life differently. That while certainly physiology plays a role as well, our mental/emotional development may be slower or faster than others in various aspects of life.
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:) I like Manslow and Erikson okay, but I'm a bigger fan of George Carlin's "Life in Reverse" ideas. I can't find the video but he said that life should begin with the agony of death and get all that pain and suffering over with. Then life should continue in this happy reverse trajectory and end as we all began, with the ecstatic culmination of the socks act.
 
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