A substitute for grandchildren ?

I have three children and took it for granted that I would be a grandmother, but it hasn't happened. Whatever people say, animals can't take the place of humans. I have pets and wouldn't be without them, but they are not a substitute. I live on the edge of countryside, near a large park and there are lots of lovely places to take children and teach them about nature. I feel a bit cheated, to be honest!
 
I've started collecting stuffed dogs to have and cuddle instead of a real dog when no longer able to have the real thing. (Shouldn't have gotten the dog we have now--I knew we were too old--but too late now to give her back. But oh, wow, do I dread the time when she dies...I wish I wouldn't keep putting myself through this with my dogs, sigh.)
 
Rosemarie said:
I have three children and took it for granted that I would be a grandmother, but it hasn't happened. Whatever people say, animals can't take the place of humans. I have pets and wouldn't be without them, but they are not a substitute. I live on the edge of countryside, near a large park and there are lots of lovely places to take children and teach them about nature. I feel a bit cheated, to be honest!
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Much as I adore the furkids..I kinda feel cheated out of grandchildren as you do..just a touch .. although I only had one child, I just presumed I'd get grandchildren or one anyway , but I never pressured her in any way knowing this world really isn't somewhere I wanted to bring any more children into, so I respected her decision not to have children, but instead to be the carer of animals.. however I do have that pang of loss..somehow..
 
jujube said:
Grandkids are the reward for letting our own kids live through their teenage years..... Parents of teenagers understand why some animals eat their young.
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"Insanity is hereditary. We get it from our children." Unknown

I have one granddaughter. I was in my 60's before she came along.
If I didn't have a grandchild, I might leave things to a niece/nephew or a friend's child, though.
 
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Don M. said:
Grandkids are the "reward" we receive for the frustrations of raising children.
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Well, I loved my children having children. Every time my children complained about their children I was able to say “remember when you” 😂. My children were not saints and their children were just short of being devils. 🤓

But the great grandchildren are true blessings. So glad I have lived long enough to see, love, enjoy them, PLUS watch them drive their parents and grandparents crazy. In this respect, life is just great!! 😂
 
Lee said:
No kids or grandkids here. Sometimes I get a pang of sadness but only when others proudly show off their pics but it passes. Did I miss out, not sure 🤔
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I know how you feel. No grandkids for me either. It took a long time for me to come to terms with that. I have one child, a daughter, and she is adamant about not having children. One of the hardest things has been not to push her into doing just that. When she was married, her then mother-in-law tried the pressure tactic and it got her nowhere.

Yes, sometimes it's hard to see other's grandkids. Sometimes I get my grandkid fix vicariously :)
 
Capt Lightning said:
None of my children are married (not that that matters much these days) so no Grand kids to spoil. My elder daughter has a collection of 'collectable' and 'limited edition' critters.
This is Walter Minky in his Captain Lightning special custom roadster going for a drive outside our house..

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It must be hard to avoid dropping hints you'd like some, and perverse as it sounds telling them not to bother with having kids would probably do more good I'd guess! :)
 

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