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fuzzybuddy

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My brother had a problem. He was invited to a 90th birthday picnic type party in Massachusetts. There were about 40 couples. They had a bar with two kegs. Two of the guests went to the corner of the property and smoked some weed. In Mass. recreational weed is legal. Another of the guests smelled the weed, and went ballistic. She was yelling and screaming and causing a scene. Some pro-weed relatives told her to "chill out", which lead to "you can't talk to my wife like that ". Things were getting out of hand, my brother was asked to help throw" them" out, but he didn't know who. Things settle down, but it wasn't a very happy birthday. Who do you think was wrong or was anybody?
 

First, legal or not, if it was me, I would've asked my hosts if it would be alright if my friend and I went to the back corner and smoked some weed because I wouldn't want to make the hosts or other guests feel uncomfortable. That said, because it is legal, yelling and screaming and causing a scene about it was uncalled for.

@fuzzybuddy How did your brother feel about them smoking? Was he OK with it or would he have preferred them not to have indulged at the party?

Bella ✌️
 
Hum, there is a list of virtues on my wall, how about tact, tolerance, humility, friendliness, courtesy, and peacefulness?

It looks like we all agree the woman who made a scene was in the wrong. Personally, I don't like being around people who have altered their awareness and my reaction is to pull away. I have always been a prude and not a very good party person, except if it is volunteers getting together to get a job done. I love work parties.
 
Bella said:
First, legal or not, if it was me, I would've asked my hosts if it would be alright if my friend and I went to the back corner and smoked some weed because I wouldn't want to make the hosts or other guests feel uncomfortable. That said, because it is legal, yelling and screaming and causing a scene about it was uncalled for.

@fuzzybuddy How did your brother feel about them smoking? Was he OK with it or would he have preferred them not to have indulged at the party?

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I'm not "supposed" to know my brother is an alcoholic, but he was probably at the bar. he said he didn't care about "some pot heads".
 
Bella said:
First, legal or not, if it was me, I would've asked my hosts if it would be alright if my friend and I went to the back corner and smoked some weed because I wouldn't want to make the hosts or other guests feel uncomfortable. That said, because it is legal, yelling and screaming and causing a scene about it was uncalled for.

@fuzzybuddy How did your brother feel about them smoking? Was he OK with it or would he have preferred them not to have indulged at the party?

Bella ✌️
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I have seen people behave badly because someone was smoking legal cigarettes or had too much perfume on. They have breathing problems and can get quite hysterical. I don't think that is necessary but it was my first thought when I read of the explanation of what happened.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
My brother had a problem. He was invited to a 90th birthday picnic type party in Massachusetts. There were about 40 couples. They had a bar with two kegs. Two of the guests went to the corner of the property and smoked some weed. In Mass. recreational weed is legal. Another of the guests smelled the weed, and went ballistic. She was yelling and screaming and causing a scene. Some pro-weed relatives told her to "chill out", which lead to "you can't talk to my wife like that ". Things were getting out of hand, my brother was asked to help throw" them" out, but he didn't know who. Things settle down, but it wasn't a very happy birthday. Who do you think was wrong or was anybody?
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As long as it was outdoors, and the smoke not affecting anybody else other than the smell, I think it should've been between those two guests and whomever was hosting the party.
 
The woman yelling & screaming was wrong. If she was not comfortable, just leave.

The two separated themselves from the main group. Good thinking.

Only positive I can see in all that is even though the woman was wrong her husband defended her.
 
Vida May said:
I have seen people behave badly because someone was smoking legal cigarettes or had too much perfume on. They have breathing problems and can get quite hysterical. I don't think that is necessary but it was my first thought when I read of the explanation of what happened.
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Agreed. No hysteria. Simply vomit on the lawn and leave. And yes, I AM one of those with breathing problems.
 
Why do some want to create a scene when it is simply not needed....
legal and they went off to corner.....
I think many who throw a fit might be surprised that their partner could care less but feels obligated to defend them.....
 
Jeni said:
Why do some want to create a scene when it is simply not needed....
legal and they went off to corner.....
I think many who throw a fit might be surprised that their partner could care less but feels obligated to defend them.....
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Tobacco is legal too, but non-smokers don't want to smell it, and usually make it known....loudly..
 
fuzzybuddy said:
My brother had a problem. He was invited to a 90th birthday picnic type party in Massachusetts. There were about 40 couples. They had a bar with two kegs. Two of the guests went to the corner of the property and smoked some weed. In Mass. recreational weed is legal. Another of the guests smelled the weed, and went ballistic. She was yelling and screaming and causing a scene. Some pro-weed relatives told her to "chill out", which lead to "you can't talk to my wife like that ". Things were getting out of hand, my brother was asked to help throw" them" out, but he didn't know who. Things settle down, but it wasn't a very happy birthday. Who do you think was wrong or was anybody?
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No smoking of anything inside... and anyways the smell of weed is revolting...it sticks to everyone else's hair and clothes...
 
I have no idea what proper manners are these days, but I would be uncomfortable if people brought their own liquor and drank it themselves, it would be okay to bring liquor to provide for the general refreshments of the party I think, assuming it was presented to the birthday person (or whoever the host/hostess was) first and they added it to the refreshments.
So I'd think marijuana would be similar, it should be presented to the host and up to the host to decide whether to put out with the other refreshments. Unless it was a byob type party.
But in all cases wrong for some guest to make a scene about it.
 
I wonder what the poor 90 year old thought of the whole thing. Maybe he or she was just the excuse to have an “anything goes “ party. I don’t understand why with all the actions to try to limit tobacco smoking due to cancer, & public condemnation of tobacco smokers , that smoking any other substance is considered acceptable.
if that happened unexpectedly at a party I was attending I would just leave quietly,(hopefully not depending on anyone else for transportation).
 

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