Adjusting to A Move

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Lon

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A move is a completely different thing when you are younger and have a family but in your very senior years and single, it's a major chore. I sold my home where I had lived for 23 years in 2014 and moved 200 miles back to a town that I had lived and worked in for over 30 years. Downsizing and renting an apartment with all the good amenities was my choice and I am happy with my choice. One thing that I discovered is that you can't go back and pick up friendships where you left off. Old friends have died or their lives have gone on to the point you no longer have anything in common, and thus, you must make new friendships. Getting all new doctors was a major accomplishment. Although it's nice to be 15 minutes away from where my daughter and my adult grandchildren live, I see them infrequently because they all lead busy active lives so my social activities are mine alone to plan and I have no problem with that.
I must say, that this Forum has been a help with my moving adjustment, as it gives me a outlet to express my thoughts on so many things and to discover that the things that I have gone through are not unique, but shared by others.
 

We sold our home and moved 10 years ago, and I can understand what you are saying , After selling our home we purchased a block of land ,200 km from where we had lived for some years ,( main reason we moved was due to my sensitive lungs due to growing up in a dry dusty mining area,as a result the pollution of living in a city was effecting my lungs and I was suffering from really bad colds i couldn't shake off which would result in me getting pneumonia nearly every winter)

One thing we didn't change was our doctors who we had been going to for 20 + years , sure I established a doctor here for any illness that may catch me out like a dose of the flu but other than that I prefer to stick to my City doctor ( hubby has never been to a doctor here)

We are in a country area and we get many doctors passing through here while training it's uncomfortable having to see a different doctor each time ..

This area I particular is hard in a sense to make friends at "our age",most have their friends, I have been told here a couple of times you will never be classed as a local unless you are born here, or you attend a church , which we don't ... But we made our own way and take part in ballroom dancing, rarely attend locally, as they also have their " clicky" groups.

Grown children/ Grandchildren are all so busy now , I remember going to visit my grandparents often not the other way round.
We have great bunch of " friends" on this forum with a great deal of experience in most fields ,who we can rely on for answers, advice on most subjects ...
 
Lon said:
A move is a completely different thing when you are younger and have a family but in your very senior years and single, it's a major chore. I sold my home where I had lived for 23 years in 2014 and moved 200 miles back to a town that I had lived and worked in for over 30 years. Downsizing and renting an apartment with all the good amenities was my choice and I am happy with my choice. One thing that I discovered is that you can't go back and pick up friendships where you left off. Old friends have died or their lives have gone on to the point you no longer have anything in common, and thus, you must make new friendships. Getting all new doctors was a major accomplishment. Although it's nice to be 15 minutes away from where my daughter and my adult grandchildren live, I see them infrequently because they all lead busy active lives so my social activities are mine alone to plan and I have no problem with that.
I must say, that this Forum has been a help with my moving adjustment, as it gives me a outlet to express my thoughts on so many things and to discover that the things that I have gone through are not unique, but shared by others.
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Hi Lon, I am planning a similar relocation. Down sizing has been an enormous chore because a lot of stuff is just too unusual to easily sell. When I say unusual you would have to have known my wife who was the acquisitions officer in our family. Today I struggled with a 19th century bed warmer, the kind where you put fireplace coals in an ornamental metal contraption and insert it under the covers half an hour before retiring, and then there's the beer thermometer........My gay son is taking some of it off my hands. I'm sure his connections with the gay community in Minneapolis will prove very useful. Well I sort of got off the track about relocating, but I'm sure we'll have more thoughts to exchange. Anyone need a cobbler's bench?

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Josiah---------I think you and some of your antiques would be a great candidate for that TV show that gives estimated values. People always seem shocked at what some of their items are worth. Apparently the folks that put on this show travel to different parts of the country. Can't remember the name of the TV show.
 
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