Alone but still married

No - no animals - they have an office with a TV and have gone down there but they are so busy either working in the adjoining shed or in the field so I just sit there alone too - but that was a good suggestion. Thank you for that.
 
If your wife does do diamond art tell her to get an Art Dot light pad - it is about the size of a legal size of paper - mine has 3 setttings light, medium and bright and you put it under your project. It is cheap - around $20 - you can buy it online and you just plug it in. I use the brightest setting and it really helps - you can use it over and over - wish I could figure how to post some of my projects - they are pretty and fun - right now waiting on my next one - I chose a humming bird with pretty pink and raspberry blossoms with a light background but haven't figured who to give it to yet. All your wife has to do is google diamond art projects and wow you will be amazed. If she likes Van Gogh you can do some of his too - Starry Night and Sunflowers, etc - have fun.
 
welcome aboard from rural Kentucky...

SF is an active and friendly place with a global membership.

post and participate, you're sure to meet a lot of like-minded folk.

hope to see you around the threads...
 
I grew up in San Francisco but 7 years after I married we moved to Kansas where my husband is from. It was a big shock culturally - took me 7 years to adjust but under the new circumstances of our country I am glad I live here - I do feel safer when I am alone.
 
kssf said:
If your wife does do diamond art tell her to get an Art Dot light pad - it is about the size of a legal size of paper - mine has 3 setttings light, medium and bright and you put it under your project. It is cheap - around $20 - you can buy it online and you just plug it in. I use the brightest setting and it really helps - you can use it over and over
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Thanks, I'll remember that.
 
9bf0b27f-21f1-4ffa-adf6-6fbc25c335cb.jpeg @kssf HAPPY you found SF. Farming is a whole different way of loneliness, there People around you, but, still feeling lonely. Can feel for you, somewhat, on the farm for 28 years, would get very short conversations if i was lucky, and for some other reasons, loneliness was a everyday feeling.
Kssf.....this a great place full of caring people.....a lot of us deal with loneliness in one way or another.
Feel free to open up, post as much as you want......think SF may lesson your loneliness. ENJOY your time here.Will look forward to your posts.
 
kssf said:
wish I could figure how to post some of my projects -
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I think new members have to wait a week or so, before they are allowed to post photo's, so yours probably cannot work yet.

Every time you come to this site, after you sign in,
look at the small bell symbol, in the upper right of the screen to find Alerts that people left for you. Left click on it, and scroll down, and click on each one, so you can find and read posts that members quoted you, or tagged you.
Ask us questions, whenever you have any.:)

I enjoyed reading your posts here, and look forward to seeing your pictures, too. When you get to doing that, perhaps you will start a new thread about it, in the Crafts section of our forum. :geek:
 
Welcome to the group. I understand how you feel and your concerns are valid (eg: driving distances alone). At least you still have a social life but I understand that isn't fulfilling all your needs. Would it be feasible for your son who lives only 30 minutes away to pick you up at least once in awhile so you could attend your grandson's games? I don't feel you wrote too much...you are expressing how you feel and asking for feedback. One of the reasons this forum exists. I think many of us experience loneliness at least some of the time. I love being alone but sometimes I do get lonely. I hope things improve to your liking.

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Welcome kiss and Howdy from Spring, Texas !

I retired this year at age 61 and ms gamboolgal is 59.

I am sorry for your loneliness.

ms gamboolgal will not drive unless it is an absolute necessity.

This is a nice Forum and you will get some good responses.

Sometimes it just helps to write it out on a anonymous forum and get feedback from folks...
 
Welcome to the form. As for going to grandsons ball games. Are there any other parents that you could ride with? I agree do not drive alone in a big city.

I now understand what your saying since I lost my wife 6 years ago. I never knew how lonesome she was as I was about the same as your husband. I worked no less than 10 & most times 12 to 14 hrs every day 7 days a week at our plant.

She did have girlfriends that took her with them to many places.

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OneEyedDiva said:
Welcome to the group. I understand how you feel and your concerns are valid (eg: driving distances alone). At least you still have a social life but I understand that isn't fulfilling all your needs. Would it be feasible for your son who lives only 30 minutes away to pick you up at least once in awhile so you could attend your grandson's games? I don't feel you wrote too much...you are expressing how you feel and asking for feedback. One of the reasons this forum exists. I think many of us experience loneliness at least some of the time. I love being alone but sometimes I do get lonely. I hope things improve to your liking.

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That was a neat idea about my son taking me except he is so busy with farming - remarried 4 years ago - adjusting to a new wife and 2 stepchildren so he has too much on his plate. Thanks for suggesting it.
 
Hi, kssf, I keep the loneliness at bay by doing a few odd jobs for other elderly people roundabout. the last few months I've been mowing folk's lawns, and I usually drop hints galore about how hungry I am, then the lovely ladies spoil me with tasty lunches. You are probably a very good cook, which is a pity that you are so far away, or I'd be wanting to mow your lawn. Welcome aboard. ;) ;)
 
I do mow my front and backyard - have a self propelled mower and told my husband I think this is the last mow for the year - I don't mind it but it's been 6 months now and time for fall and winter to take over. Hope we don't have a harsh winter. Hate the cold.
 
kssf said:
Hi - just joining now so not sure how this works. I am 77 years old almost 78 in a week. My husband is 82 and helps our son on the farm. I am alone all day - weekends sometimes he works too on the farm. He loves his farm. We do live in a community of around 4,000 people.

I do have girlfriends and belong to knitting groups, scripture group and rosary group and go out every Friday for lunch with friends. But, am still very lonely not having someone here. I do have a daughter who lives 2.5 hours from here and a son who lives 30 minutes from here. I have good kids - they are very busy - daughter has 3 kids and son has 1 son and 2 stepchildren.

I know and I feel very badly and very guilty about not going to my grandson's track games - not because I don't want to but my husband wont come with me due to the farm and I am afraid to drive alone in a big city. I only drive a distance of an hour and am just afraid of car trouble, etc and don't feel safe driving alone. I hate this about me but it is the way it is. My husband doesn't like to drive too far anymore either - so we used to go to Kansas City for 3 or 4 days and relax but he told me no more as it makes him nervous driving in a city now, so anyway this is my life.

I hope I am not writing too much about myself but thought I should introduce myself with a little bit of detail. I do enjoy diamond art and have made several and given a few for gifts but am always struggling to get over my loneliness and I don't know why I feel this way - hope it is ok to post here - not sure how I know if someone posted but will ck my email and maybe there is something in there to say I have an email? Not sure how this works. Well, anyway, here's my first post.
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WELCOME ABOARD!!!!! You definitely did not write too much....helps a lot when we get to express how we feel. I can only imagine how hard it is for you not to attend your grandson track games. This is one of those times you may have to accept what you cannot change. Have you express these things to your son/daughter regarding you and your husband no longer feel safe driving long distance? You mentioned they are good kids, therefore, I am assuming they will understand and visit you guys when they can. Sending you a (((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))
 

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