Alone with no family at all...can anyone relate?

Ive quit procrastinating and started looking at my options. I dont want to be scrambling around at the last minute.
Prepare for the worst. Hope for the best. And all that. :D

Heres some of my general rambling "research". This info is in no particular order. Its just info. I havent researched any of it yet.
A lot of this doesnt apply to me but Im tossing it out there for those it might.

Original Medicare (Parts A & B) will cover transportation only in certain situations, but generally it doesn't cover expenses when it's a routine trip from home to your doctor. Part A may cover emergency transportation services, and Part B may cover transportation if it's deemed medically necessary.

Uber/Lyft: You can use these apps to request a ride at any time. If you need special assistance, some services offer accessible vehicles. Uber Health and Lyft Pass may even be covered by your insurance plan in some cases. The hospital will not release you to an uber.

Uber Health and Lyft Pass: These are specialized services that allow healthcare providers and health plans to arrange and sometimes cover rides for patients, including those with disabilities and wheelchair users.

Non-Emergency Medical Transportation (NEMT): You can pre-arrange for a specialized service that provides transportation for medical appointments. NEMT services are often required to have drivers with basic medical training, including patient safe handling. In many states, Medicaid covers these services, but check with your provider..

Local private medical transport companies: These services specialize in transporting patients to and from appointments and are equipped to handle various needs. A quick online search can help you find companies in your area

Hospital social worker or discharge planner: If you are leaving the hospital after a procedure, staff can help arrange for transport. They often have a list of approved providers or can give you a voucher for a taxi service.

Hospitals have RN administrative staff called case managers who will set up medical transportation at your request. Ask to speak to the case manager and also social work may be able to assist with discharge transportation if not the CM. I have worked for many hospitals
The hospital CM was very helpful to us getting the husband settled.

Area Agency on Aging (AAA): If you are over 60, your local AAA can connect you with senior transportation programs that provide low-cost or free rides for medical appointments.

211: Call 211 to be connected with a specialist who can provide referrals for health and social services in your community, including transportation.

Volunteer services: Some non-profits, churches, or community groups have volunteers who provide rides for people who need assistance

Your state department of aging. gov

Check your local Yelp for best medical transportation near your location.

Ask the hospital if they have a patient transport service to take you home. Usually low cost, sometimes covered by insurance or Medicaid. It's fairly common for seniors

Home-care companies: Agencies like Visiting Angels can provide staff to transport you to and from the hospital. Some may require payment for a minimum number of hours, as this may include post-operative assistance once you are home.

Local nonprofit groups: Community organizations such as the National Volunteer Caregiving Network have local affiliates that may offer free or low-cost transportation for medical appointments. Many churches or other religious groups also have volunteer networks that help with rides.

The American Red Cross and The Salvation Army: These organizations have special transportation services in some communities for seniors, people with disabilities, and others who need a medical ride.

Contact a home health care agency and hire a CNA or other home healthcare worker for the day. They’ll drive you in, drive you home, and make sure you’re ok while you finish recovering from the anesthesia. And if you need more help (drains, wound cleaning, showering, etc), that’s literally their job. My insurance pays for some home care. Not sure about transport. Will look into it.
 

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Thank you for this thread. It has opened my eyes and made me think. Perfect timing too.
I have plenty of family who stay in contact daily. But I've been super busy until now and had several health issues until...right now.

Now I'm feeling called to do something...to reach out to others. There are mostly folks my age on this small island. The church members across the street are very involved in helping the older folks, regularly checking on them, bringing meals, flowers, visiting, etc. Even for those who aren't members of the church. I'm 75 myself but healthy and strong finally and have a good car, so no excuses.

We have "Visiting Angels" here but I think you have to pay them for visits.
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I just turned 70, have no children and I live with my dog and kitty. I don't get out alot anymore but that's okay. Family is in a world of there own.
So I live alone with God to speak to.


You are not alone. I am 72 yrs old. There are several of us with no immediate family.

This is a good site to meet people not so unlike yourself. There are people from all over the world. There are some very interesting people on here.

When I feel alone, this site helps cheer me up knowing there are people out there that will read and respond to whatever is on your mind. I'm glad you have your dog and cat to help keep you company.

I love animals. The last one I had was a 17 1/2-year-old dog that I had to put down in 2017. I don't want any animals right now. I've thought seriously of getting my fix volunteering at a no kill shelter, if my heart can take it. I want to take them all which realistically I can't. Anyway...welcome!!!
 
I didn't mean literally live together. :) I've often envisioned a type of community where everyone has their own private residence, but people are close by to help if needed.

That would be wonderful, wouldn't it? There are senior communities like that I believe. I haven't got to the point where I've delved into that. I think my next step will be an assisted living if I can afford it and if I need that extra care. The trouble is that most assisted living facilities are so expensive.
 
I didn't mean literally live together. :) I've often envisioned a type of community where everyone has their own private residence, but people are close by to help if needed.
Me too that kind of place sounds wonderful to me (wish it did to my husband).

The trouble is that most assisted living facilities are so expensive.
They are around here too unfortunately.
 
I think it all depends on my physical health condition, if I have a serious health problem and struggle to live a normal life. I would definite check myself into an assisted living home or a nursing home.
It's true that assisted living or nursing homes are expensive. But you can just let your bank account run out, then the government MediAid will kick in. It won't be a pretty picture. That's why I am also open to the idea of a trip to Switzerland.
If there is a sudden change (emergency) to my health condition such as a serous stroke or heart attack, then my healthcare directive instructs to stop any life supporting measures, every effort should be made to facilitate a fast and comfortable death.
 
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I think it all depends on my physical health condition, if I have a serious health problem and struggle to live a normal life. I would definite check myself into an assisted living home or a nursing home.
It's true that assisted living or nursing homes are expensive. But you can just let your bank account run out, then the government MediAid will kick in. It won't be a pretty picture. That's why I am also open to the idea of a trip to Switzerland.
If there is a sudden change (emergency) to my health condition such as a serous stroke or heart attack, then my healthcare directive instructs to stop any life supporting measures, every effort should be made to facilitate a fast and comfortable death.
I don't know where you live but if it's the US or Canada you don't have to go as far as Switzerland.. that's really for us... in the US there's a few states which allow death in dignity ( assisted suicide) ..including Oregon ..


As of 2025, 12 jurisdictions in the U.S. allow for death with dignity: California, Colorado, Delaware, Hawaii, Maine, Montana, New Jersey, New Mexico, Oregon, Vermont, Washington, and Washington, D.C
. These laws allow terminally ill adults to obtain a prescription for medication to end their life, though eligibility requirements are stringent and must be followed, such as being a state resident and having a confirmed prognosis of six months or less to live.

  • California: The End of Life Option Act.
  • Colorado: Physician-Assisted Death is legal.
  • Delaware: Medical Aid in Dying is legal.
  • Hawaii: Medical Aid in Dying is legal.
  • Maine: The Death With Dignity Act allows for Medical Aid in Dying.
  • Montana: Physician aid in dying is permitted based on a Supreme Court ruling.
    • Oregon: The Death with Dignity Act is the first such law in the United States.
    • Vermont: The Patient Choice and Control at the End of Life law allows for Medical Aid in Dying.
    • Washington: The Death with Dignity Act was approved by voters.
Unfortunately here in the UK they don't permit it even tho' we've been campaigning for it for a long time .. so if it comes to it..I'd have to travel to Switzerland ..or any of the US states ...that's if I was physically able to ...or if some lunatic driver doesn't take me out first which seems to be on the cards :(
 
I don't know where you live but if it's the US or Canada you don't have to go as far as Switzerland.. that's really for us... in the US there's a few states which allow death in dignity ( assisted suicide) ..including Oregon ..


As of 2025, 12 jurisdictions in the U.S. allow for death with dignity: California, Colorado, Delaware, Hawaii, Maine, Montana, New Jersey, New Mexico, Oregon, Vermont, Washington, and Washington, D.C
. These laws allow terminally ill adults to obtain a prescription for medication to end their life, though eligibility requirements are stringent and must be followed, such as being a state resident and having a confirmed prognosis of six months or less to live.

  • California: The End of Life Option Act.
  • Colorado: Physician-Assisted Death is legal.
  • Delaware: Medical Aid in Dying is legal.
  • Hawaii: Medical Aid in Dying is legal.
  • Maine: The Death With Dignity Act allows for Medical Aid in Dying.
  • Montana: Physician aid in dying is permitted based on a Supreme Court ruling.
    • Oregon: The Death with Dignity Act is the first such law in the United States.
    • Vermont: The Patient Choice and Control at the End of Life law allows for Medical Aid in Dying.
    • Washington: The Death with Dignity Act was approved by voters.
Unfortunately here in the UK they don't permit it even tho' we've been campaigning for it for a long time .. so if it comes to it..I'd have to travel to Switzerland ..or any of the US states ...that's if I was physically able to ...or if some lunatic driver doesn't take me out first which seems to be on the cards :(
Nope. In all states where the medical assisted death is legal, the requitlrement is the prognosis must be terminal and less than six months life remaining.
 
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Nope. In all states where the medical assisted death is legal, the requitlrement is the prognosis must be terminal and less than six life remaining.
..but not in Canada....


Eligibility criteria

To be eligible for MAID in Canada, a person must meet the following criteria:

  • Have a serious and incurable illness, disease, or disability.
  • Be in an advanced state of irreversible decline in capability.
  • Experience enduring and intolerable physical or psychological suffering that cannot be alleviated in a way the person finds acceptable.

Expansion and future changes

  • Eligibility was expanded in 2021 to include people whose natural death is not reasonably foreseeable.
  • The law was slated to be extended to those with mental illness as their sole condition in March 2024, but this has been delayed.


Oversight and safeguards

  • MAID requires a rigorous assessment process, including approval from two physicians.
  • For those who are not terminally ill, there is an additional 90-day assessment period.
  • The law has been evolving, with ongoing efforts to ensure appropriate safeguards are in place.
 
That's a good idea hiring someone through an agency. I bet it could be done. The only problem is that it would probably cost an arm and a leg.
I have done that. Was having a procedure in a different city. Got a hotel room, hired a nurse assistant from an agency who drove me there, waited, signed me out and drove me back. It worked out great! Don't remember the cost but I did have to pay out of pocket for that.

Edit to add: This was when I had private insurance, not Medicare.
 
I don't even have any cousins. I'm in Los Angeles, age 74. I'd love to meet others
in the same boat. Thanks.
Hi Rosemary. I am living in Missouri I am 73 and live alone and in the same boat.
No family other than Sister and Brother who I am not really close with. Trying to make
the best of it but it is lonely. I am a Christian though not religious. I am physically fit, workout 3 X
a week at the gym. Good health as far as I know. Not a fan of seeing Doctors.
 


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