Am I The Only One Who Doesn't Have, Or Want, Grandchildren?

Medusa

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The subject of grandchildren, or a lack thereof, came up briefly on a thread of a different subject and it's made me curious about others' opinions.

I am sixty years old and I have three children. One of them wants children, but is very unlikely to have them at this point as she is older and has some other issues, the other two want nothing to do with having children.

The thing is that I am genuinely happy, and relieved, about my children not having children.

I devoted my life to being a mother; it's what I did and I did it with my whole heart. And I'm very glad I did because my children exist in the world.

However, I wouldn't want that life for my children. Having children is hard; once you have a child all your wants and desires are subjugated to those of your child. For me, it was worth it, but again, I'd rather see my children living for themselves, contributing to society in other ways.

Also, I must admit that I, personally, simply don't want grandchildren. I just don't. I think maybe this is because I put so much into raising my children I simply have nothing left in that way.
 

hollydolly said:
Me too..and I do..I love those dogs..and they love me...... but I don't go and on..and on..and on about them...lol
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I suppose I should be grateful that only one person in my very small social circle has grandchildren and he doesn't go on about them. Seems he's the exception.

But, absolutely, you can talk to me about your dogs (or horses) all day long. ;)
 
One daughter had four, One had 3 - and the other still has none, and has never wanted any. ( step daughter) Military person since high school . She prefers her dogs and pet dove. Still I have 11 great grand kids I have never seen or very rarely seen.
I made sure I had no more than two kids. That was more than enough for me as I had to raise them alone.
 
RedAlert76 said:
One daughter had four, One had 3 - and the other still has none, and has never wanted any. ( step daughter) Military person since high school . She prefers her dogs and pet dove. Still I have 11 great grand kids I have never seen or very rarely seen.
I made sure I had no more than two kids. That was more than enough for me as I had to raise them alone.
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yes I raised mine alone also ...from when she was 8 years old.... she was 2 before I remarried...so well and truly grown and with her own home
 
Timewise 60+ said:
Well to each their own!

We have three grown up married children. They have blessed us with six grandchildren so far. We are expecting our first Great Grandchild soon. We enjoy and love all our grandchildren...they are the blessings we have in our lives for having and raising our kids...
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...and rightly so, and they maybe the best kids in the world in the universe even to you... :love: . ... but people who don't have or want grandchildren are not interested in yours...
 
Medusa said:
The subject of grandchildren, or a lack thereof, came up briefly on a thread of a different subject and it's made me curious about others' opinions.

I am sixty years old and I have three children. One of them wants children, but is very unlikely to have them at this point as she is older and has some other issues, the other two want nothing to do with having children.

The thing is that I am genuinely happy, and relieved, about my children not having children.

I devoted my life to being a mother; it's what I did and I did it with my whole heart. And I'm very glad I did because my children exist in the world.

However, I wouldn't want that life for my children. Having children is hard; once you have a child all your wants and desires are subjugated to those of your child. For me, it was worth it, but again, I'd rather see my children living for themselves, contributing to society in other ways.

Also, I must admit that I, personally, simply don't want grandchildren. I just don't. I think maybe this is because I put so much into raising my children I simply have nothing left in that way.
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Perfectly acceptable. I didn't necessarily want grandchildren but was happy when they came and I love them dearly.
However, If they weren't born my life would not have been less. You can't know someone that doesn't exist.
Two of my sisters have no children and they have had good lives. One of my daughters has no children and she has a good life too.
"Life is like a box of chocolates........."
 
Paladin1950 said:
Never been married. Never had children. I have no problem with children. I just didn't want my own. I travelled around to often to put down any roots.
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exactly and that's how my daughter is... she puts everything into her career, she travels, she has her animals, she never wanted children , she likes other people's enough , but she never wanted her own

If I had my time over again..I probably wouldn't have any.. not this world as it is now......
 
Medusa said:
The subject of grandchildren, or a lack thereof, came up briefly on a thread of a different subject and it's made me curious about others' opinions.

I am sixty years old and I have three children. One of them wants children, but is very unlikely to have them at this point as she is older and has some other issues, the other two want nothing to do with having children.

The thing is that I am genuinely happy, and relieved, about my children not having children.

I devoted my life to being a mother; it's what I did and I did it with my whole heart. And I'm very glad I did because my children exist in the world.

However, I wouldn't want that life for my children. Having children is hard; once you have a child all your wants and desires are subjugated to those of your child. For me, it was worth it, but again, I'd rather see my children living for themselves, contributing to society in other ways.

Also, I must admit that I, personally, simply don't want grandchildren. I just don't. I think maybe this is because I put so much into raising my children I simply have nothing left in that way.
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I and my ex did not want children. It worked out well for both of us, and neither of us ever had second thoughts.
 
I find this creepy and disturbing. I had 3 kids but only one has a child himself. It bothers me because there is no higher purpose in life.

Excuses seem to boil down to a mix between child intolerance and selfish inclination. Biologically there isn't supposed to be a choice, and "choice" may well be the end of us all.

Elon Musk Predicts POPULATION COLLAPSE And Its HAPPENING NOW, Society Is Beginning To BREAKDOWN

"Civilization will die with a whimper in adult diapers."
 
Medusa said:
The subject of grandchildren, or a lack thereof, came up briefly on a thread of a different subject and it's made me curious about others' opinions.

I am sixty years old and I have three children. One of them wants children, but is very unlikely to have them at this point as she is older and has some other issues, the other two want nothing to do with having children.

The thing is that I am genuinely happy, and relieved, about my children not having children.
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My one & only child, my daughter, has no kids. It may be partially because she's been a bit fearful of where the world is heading. Or, there might be subconscious insecurity about long-term family. Her mum went off on her own when our daughter was 21/2, got into another relationship a couple years later, had another child, then left that family too.😒

My daughter, however is monogamous in her habit, and very faithful... so is her partner. She really enjoys children, has fun with them whenever one or more is around, but hasn't wanted to have them. I've been completely okay with that.
 
dilettante said:
I find this creepy and disturbing. I had 3 kids but only one has a child himself. It bothers me because there is no higher purpose in life.

Excuses seem to boil down to a mix between child intolerance and selfish inclination. Biologically there isn't supposed to be a choice, and "choice" may well be the end of us all.

Elon Musk Predicts POPULATION COLLAPSE And Its HAPPENING NOW, Society Is Beginning To BREAKDOWN

"Civilization will die with a whimper in adult diapers."
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Seems there may be a negative generation.
 
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