Any advice for a lonely widow?

Jackie22 said:
Seems there are quite a few of us 'widow ladies' on this forum...a lot of good suggestions here. I've been a widow for three years, the first year, I was busy with all the things you have to do after the death of a spouse...paperwork, will and just finalizing his affairs, then I like to killed myself trying to stay busy busy...remodeled the house, working outside..just anything to stay busy..lol..my problem is living in a rural, remote area...there are no places to volunteer, I'm not a church goer..there is a local senior center and I've been there and played the games...its ok I guess....maybe I'll find a part time job or maybe I should move to the city..lol
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It is sooo hard to meet people in your situation, Jackie. I totally understand the trying to keep busy and fight depression, as when there were several of us laid off from the law office, I thought I was going to have a complete meltdown. It took a major toll on me, as I live alone and all my friends are married. Everyday was the same and I was contributing nothing, felt worthless. I tried the Sr Center and had nothing in common w/anyone the times I went. They were much older and not interested in doing things together like shopping, movies, eating out, etc. I stopped going after a few times. And when you live in a rural area, it makes it so much harder. I'm wondering if a part-time job would work for you as it has for me. I have a whole new outlook on life and it helps my self esteem so much, gives me something to do that I love and keeps me busy. I wouldn't trade it for anything, tho I definitely stepped out of my box in becoming a Nanny! I would have never believed I would enjoy it, but I love that boy as if he were my own, and he and his mom & dad have become extended family to me. It is such a blessing.

I hope you'll consider part-time work, much easier than moving, if it's something you even remotely enjoy. Best therapy ever! Good luck, my dear!
 

Yes, each one of us has to find our own way in dealing with what life hands us.

Katy....was joking about moving, thats really not practical and I'm not physically up to that..I read with much interest about your job as a shopper for others...sometime when you have time, I'd like to hear the particulars on this....thanks
 
Jackie22 said:
Yes, each one of us has to find our own way in dealing with what life hands us.

Katy....was joking about moving, thats really not practical and I'm not physically up to that..I read with much interest about your job as a shopper for others...sometime when you have time, I'd like to hear the particulars on this....thanks
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Sending you a PM.
 

LOL, Jackie. I know you didn't really mean you'd move to the city, and that's a good thing. Lonely in the city isn't a bit different than lonely in the country:)
 
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