Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

I have met many new friends on the dating sites. Three of them have become room mates in later years. I am never the first to initiate romance or sex talk. We write a little, talk a little and then maybe breakfast at a local mom and pop cafe. If there is magic then we meet again if not I have met a new person that may become a friend.

I have also done home repair and remodeling since I quit building homes in 06 and most women keep my number for my trustworthy mr. fix-it skills even if there was no flame. I am still on a dating site and honestly rule someone out when they start listing their health problems.
BE OPEN TO HAVING FUN, MEET NEW AND STRANGE PEOPLE IN PUBLIC PLACES.
 

When I was a younger busy career woman, I joined a dating site to meet an intelligent man who could communicate well and carry on a conversation. I didn't want my photo all over the Internet so didn't post one but said in my ad I would send one privately to anyone who interested me before we planned a meeting. All the responses I got just said "Send a pic". My only response was "Send signs of intelligence". I never met any of them.
 

TabbyAnn said:
When I was a younger busy career woman, I joined a dating site to meet an intelligent man who could communicate well and carry on a conversation. I didn't want my photo all over the Internet so didn't post one but said in my ad I would send one privately to anyone who interested me before we planned a meeting. All the responses I got just said "Send a pic". My only response was "Send signs of intelligence". I never met any of them.
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How would you feel if after sending your picture the guy ghosted you or said "sorry, no attraction"? I understand being reluctant to post a picture but when it comes to dating sites I think a picture is a must.
 
C50 said:
How would you feel if after sending your picture the guy ghosted you or said "sorry, no attraction"? I understand being reluctant to post a picture but when it comes to dating sites I think a picture is a must.
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I don’t think I would be offended, but I’ve never had a man say that. Pictures aren’t a must on a dating site. All scammers post handsome pictures (stolen from someone else), but they have trouble keeping up an intelligent conversation. I never posted an ad again, but I did respond to a man who posted an ad without a photo. Like me, he didn’t want his professional colleagues to know his business on the Internet. We had a long correspondence, exchanged photos before we met, and have had a long term relationship.
 
TabbyAnn said:
I don’t think I would be offended, but I’ve never had a man say that. Pictures aren’t a must on a dating site. All scammers post handsome pictures (stolen from someone else), but they have trouble keeping up an intelligent conversation. I never posted an ad again, but I did respond to a man who posted an ad without a photo. Like me, he didn’t want his professional colleagues to know his business on the Internet. We had a long correspondence, exchanged photos before we met, and have had a long term relationship.
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Congratulations! Regardless of our difference in approaches I'm happy things turned out well for you.
 
Lookyloos are quite simply just people who look but don't take any action.
In real estate, a lookyloo is someone who looks at a bunch of houses but never buys anything.
They're just around to look but not buy.

People who slow way down on expressways to look at accidents are lookyloos.
On dating sites, people who only look at photos but never send any messages would be lookyloos.

I would consider any person on a dating site who doesn't post their own photos to be a lookyloo,
because anyone serious about finding someone suitable would certainly post their own personal photos.
 
John cycling said:
Lookyloos are quite simply just people who look but don't take any action.
In real estate, a lookyloo is someone who looks at a bunch of houses but never buys anything.
They're just around to look but not buy.

People who slow way down on expressways to look at accidents are lookyloos.
On dating sites, people who only look at photos but never send any messages would be lookyloos.
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A very common term in Canada. A friend was a lookyloo at every real estate open house. She became friendly with all the realtors. Sometimes she was the only one who showed up so at least they had a name on their registry.
 
John cycling said:
Lookyloos are quite simply just people who look but don't take any action.
In real estate, a lookyloo is someone who looks at a bunch of houses but never buys anything.
They're just around to look but not buy.

People who slow way down on expressways to look at accidents are lookyloos.
On dating sites, people who only look at photos but never send any messages would be lookyloos.

I would consider any person on a dating site who doesn't post their own photos to be a lookyloo,
because anyone serious about finding someone suitable would certainly post their own personal photos.
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People who slow down on roads to look at accidents are called Rubberneckers, Here.....and those who view cars with no knowledge of what they're buying or with no intention of buying are called Tyre Kickers..
 
bobcat said:
I suppose you could just skip the dating site and go to a singles Meetup group activity (hiking, dinners, dancing, or whatever your interest). That way you're not going to meet anyone specifically, just going as a group that shares your interest. No expectation. If there aren't any possibilities there, at least you get to do something you enjoy, and there is security in numbers.
I think here is a link: Find Events & Groups in United Kingdom (meetup.com)
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Oops that's where I went wrong installed the Meetme app instead of the Meetup app. Recently widowed and my neighbour had told me it was a good way to find local walking groups so installed and signed in to meetme, put the fear of God into me 😀 Will ho have a look at meetup
 
Phantom Quilter said:
Oops that's where I went wrong installed the Meetme app instead of the Meetup app. Recently widowed and my neighbour had told me it was a good way to find local walking groups so installed and signed in to meetme, put the fear of God into me 😀 Will ho have a look at meetup
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Yeah, not familiar with Meetme, but it sure sounds like a hookup site. I think Meetup could work for you, if you are near a sufficiently populated area. If not, there may not be any close-by activities.
 
Putting your photo on a low cost dating website exposes women to all the gawkers, stalkers and entitled men who feel they are entitled to a good looking woman without any mental effort on their part. Wealthy folks use expensive dating services where required resumes are vetted and photos are exchanged privately between those who have expressed an interest in each other’s written descriptions. It’s understandable that low cost sites can’t verify resumes of all members, but they could require them and let the members check them out before sending photos privately.
 
hollydolly said:
Thanks folks... I'm not altogether stupid.. I hope.. I do realise that caution is the watchword.. first meetings away from home in the daytime, and just for a short time, for a coffee and chat.. also don't give out any personal details

I've seen some of these guys on the dating sites.. and some of them would scare me off just looking at them or reading their Bio...

I did a little test ad a few months ago..... I wanted to get a feel for the reactions of various people on those sites.. .. I put a small ad on with Basic details, but my profile photo was just the back of me.. facing away from the camera... there was several genuine enquires.. but I was stunned by the 4 guys who were extremely abusive.. !

Immediately I thought, that those guys would be ones to stay well clear of.. but the innocent women who met up with them wouldn't have any clue about that dark side of those men..

I haven't replied to any of those ads.. it was just a test... and I may not go with that dating site when or if I put a real ad on..... anyway,

... but it just goes to show just how easy it is to be fooled into meeting a psycho..
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Personally I think it would be safer to see what you can meet in person and observe in real life as opposed to a website. Especially with human trafficking now a days and never knowing what you're going to get off these sites.
 
MarciKS said:
Personally I think it would be safer to see what you can meet in person and observe in real life as opposed to a website. Especially with human trafficking now a days and never knowing what you're going to get off these sites.
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Human trafficking elderly women?????????
 
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