Are Diamonds Suitable for a New Friend?

Been There

Been There

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I have been dating a woman 2 years younger than me for just over 3 months. I really like her a lot, but can’t say that I am in love with her yet. I think a lot of her, which means I respect her and appreciate her kindness towards me. She has introduced me to her 2 daughters and a few friends. I think she is as I am. We really like each other a lot, but we haven’t said the words, “I love you” yet.

In 2 weeks is her birthday. I went to the mall nearby and looked through the different stores trying to get an idea for a gift. I saw a really nice necklace in the window of a jewelry store, but it had diamonds in it. Do you think it’s too early in our relationship to buy a gift for this lady that has diamonds? I asked the clerk and she was being very honest with me, which surprised me because I think they sell on commission.

I explained my situation to her and she thought it may be a bit too early to give a gift with diamonds. She suggested a nice gold bracelet, which I also liked. It wasn’t a thin piece of metal that looked cheap. What do you guys think? BTW, I know she likes jewelry like necklaces, bracelets, earrings and finger rings. I assume this because she wears a moderate amount of it.

She looks like a model when we go out, except a month ago when I took her to a rodeo that was in southern Virginia and she wore jeans for the first time, along with 1 necklace, 1 bracelet, 1 finger ring and a pair of gold hoop earrings. She took it easy on the makeup, but still looked like a million bucks. This is as close as I could come to the bracelet. I should have asked the clerk, but this is for a female, isn’t it?


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I think you should save the diamonds for a more significant occasion. If you're still with her after a year, a piece of diamond jewelry to celebrate the anniversary perhaps. Something really special. You seem to like her a lot, but still, I'd wait awhile.

Or maybe a different gem set in a necklace. Her birthstone?
 
Good for you. That's not my life, even in my richest inner fantasies.

I don't mean any disrespect, but it sounds like diamonds aren't that especially special in your world. So I'm not sure why this should be a tough decision. I suppose I'm like a fish being asked about breathing air.
 

if it were me i'd wait on the diamonds until i love you's are exchanged. but i also think you should do what your heart tells you to do. i agree that maybe a necklace with a birthstone would be a little more appropriate. i got some itty bitty diamond rings from a guy i dated and it was kinda awkward.
 
I'd say a definite no to diamonds after 3 months of dating. If the relationship continues for a while and "further plans" are made, and love is declared, then a diamond bracelet would be a beautiful gift for Christmas (but not this Christmas) or engagement gift if that's where it progresses to. If that's not in the plans, maybe a "we've been dating for a whole year" gift?
 
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I suppose my reaction wasn't appropriate. At the least it was probably insensitive.

Ignoring the cost, which probably isn't the important thing here anyway, I suppose that the symbolism might be the overriding concern. It sounds like the women have backed the opinion of the sales clerk and they would all know better than I would.
 
Blessed said:
No to diamonds at this point. I even think the bracelet is to much for a 3 month relationship. Maybe a bottle of her favorite perfume, dinner out to her favorite restaurant.
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Add flowers to Blessing’s thoughts.

Jewellery is tricky. If it’s not to her taste, she may not want to wear it. If it’s too pricey, she may feel an obligation.
 
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Diamonds are for after the three magic words have been exchanged ;)
Bracelet MIGHT be okay. Fashion ring with birthstone as mentioned PERHAPS.
I'd be thinking more along the practical lines of something that might be useful such as an electric foot massager or something.
Just a thoughtful gift from a good friend.
 
Been There said:
I have been dating a woman 2 years younger than me for just over 3 months. I really like her a lot, but can’t say that I am in love with her yet. I think a lot of her, which means I respect her and appreciate her kindness towards me. She has introduced me to her 2 daughters and a few friends. I think she is as I am. We really like each other a lot, but we haven’t said the words, “I love you” yet.

In 2 weeks is her birthday. I went to the mall nearby and looked through the different stores trying to get an idea for a gift. I saw a really nice necklace in the window of a jewelry store, but it had diamonds in it. Do you think it’s too early in our relationship to buy a gift for this lady that has diamonds? I asked the clerk and she was being very honest with me, which surprised me because I think they sell on commission.

I explained my situation to her and she thought it may be a bit too early to give a gift with diamonds. She suggested a nice gold bracelet, which I also liked. It wasn’t a thin piece of metal that looked cheap. What do you guys think? BTW, I know she likes jewelry like necklaces, bracelets, earrings and finger rings. I assume this because she wears a moderate amount of it.

She looks like a model when we go out, except a month ago when I took her to a rodeo that was in southern Virginia and she wore jeans for the first time, along with 1 necklace, 1 bracelet, 1 finger ring and a pair of gold hoop earrings. She took it easy on the makeup, but still looked like a million bucks. This is as close as I could come to the bracelet. I should have asked the clerk, but this is for a female, isn’t it?


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I am the WORST. I don't own ANY personal jewelry. Not a watch, ring, or anything else. Gold, Diamonds.... I've just never valued them in personal terms. Which means, I'm really bad at noticing it means a lot to others. Clearly, the perfect person to reply to this thread. :D

I'd say, look and watch her. Sounds like jewelry is important to her, so you're on the right track. Any chance you could do a casual "window shopping" trip with her, so you can see what her eyes lock on to? If not, then a bracelet or necklace could well work. I'd base the design look on what you've seen her in. Think of her as a set of clues, you just have to work out who does it. :D
 
I agree on this one, 3 months is very early for any jewelry , just enjoy the relationship and if after a year you both still feel the same think about buying jewelry then, I think I nice dinner with a nice card would very appropriate , I also like the idea of what "blessed" suggested her favorite perfume. Don't rush it just take your time. I wish you both all the happiness possible.
 
At this point, I'm in the no jewelry camp. Giving jewelry to a woman pretty much signifies an intimate relationship. If things keep swimming along, there will be a more appropriate time to buy her jewelry. Meanwhile, keep an eye on the type she wears, and that will clue you in as to what to buy her in the future.

I like the perfume idea, and you can't go wrong with a box of premium chocolates, some beautiful flowers, and taking her out for a lovely dinner to celebrate her birthday.
 

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