This isn't a nursing home. I wasn't sure of your situation. You do buy in and own your own unit - and can decorate accordingly. You can be as independent as you want. A number of folks at Maris Grove still work but are happy to be there - just in case, I guess. They have varied levels of care as you need it. My folks do take dinner in one of the dining rooms but that is also negotiable and each unit has a fully equipped kitchen. They have a pool, bowling alley, walking trails and individual garden plots. Was just a thought - at 61, I'm not quite ready to pay for that extra care but hope to end up at a place like that, eventually. Good luck!