Are you a forgiving person? Would you cut someone out quickly if they had wronged you?

[IrishEyes]

I can understand every one's feelings on this and I was not always where I am now.
I won't go into details how I got to where my feelings are now because it's different
for each of us.
Forgiving doesn't mean turn around and be a doormat and allow them to repeat,
it is fair to protect yourself, always. There are ways to be decent about things gone wrong.
I am just glad I am where I am now because I don't have to exert the energy to keep myself
on the edge over things said or done any longer.
Plus by now I think we each can spot certain habits or tendencies others may have and know when to
just step away so no buttons are pushed.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

I’ve appreciated reading each and every post from you all. Thank you.

 

[KSav]

There are wrongs that destroy lives and cut so deeply that I would first have to be a victim of such to know how I would process it.

That's nicely put, @MACKTEXAS; it's why I cut off contact with my sister. I've tormented myself thinking that I should forgive her.

That line from the Lord's Prayer always comes to mind: "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us." As does the Parable of the Unforgiving Servant.

However, she has never asked for forgiveness or offered any sort of apology. I've cut off contact and am happy to no longer have to constantly worry about the stress of that unhappy relationship.

 

[MarciKS]

You can forgive someone and still not want anymore contact with them. That was a hard thing for me to understand.

 

[MarciKS]

I’m very forgiving if the apology is sincere and even if it’s not. I don’t hold grudges. Sometimes I feel I would be a stronger more decisive person if I did have the pride it takes not to forgive. Maybe I m too wishy washy. Or. Maybe I takes more strength to forgive. I m not sure.

It is harder to forgive than to just let someone go. You're not wishy washy. There's love in your heart.

 

[dusty]

I do not shut anyone off for anything. I forgive everything as it helps me stay cool. What someone wants to do re cuttin me off is none of my business. I never hold a grudge or gossip.

 

[LoveTulips]

Well I've never had any problems with my family, so I can't even imagine that they would wrong me. However, as soon as a friend or someone has wronged me in the past (no apology from them), I cut them out completely.

 

[Jeni]

I found freedom in cutting some off

 

[seadoug]

I'm much more forgiving now that I'm older. I have a cousin that has made so many missteps, but each time I've forgiven her because I've tried to put myself in her shoes, plus she is my only living close family member.

I was by no means that tolerant when I was younger. If I felt someone did me wrong, they were out of my life. When I was in my 20's and living in Miami, a friend from Tampa came to visit. He dropped his luggage at my apartment, went his merry way and said he would meet me at a certain club at 9pm. A couple of hours went by and he never showed. I called him, and he said "sorry, but I met someone". I told him his luggage would be sitting on my front porch when he was ready to pick it up.

 

[MarciKS]

My decision to cut my dad off wasn't an instant thing. I thought about it for 2 yrs before I finally said the hell with it.

 

[Llynn]

There is only one person in my life who I have never been able to forgive. However, during the past few years I have realized that my hate for her is not as intense as it once was.