Are you a positive or a negative thought person

I too am a realist, verging toward the positive rather than the negative.

All my life I have attempted to take any situation that befell me and turn it to my best possible advantage/look on the bright side.

My tire is flat? At least it happened close to home and I’m not stuck on the side of the freeway.
New recipe I tried was a disaster? Ok cool I’ve been wanting to try that restaurant that just opened.
Tripped over the dogs and went down? At least I didn’t break anything, only skinned my hand.
Etc.

After Devin died I lost that completely, and I thought, irrevocably. Anything that happened my thoughts about it were completely negative, which makes sense because my entire life view was dark and forbidding.

Within this last few months I’ve managed to regain some of that positivity, though it slips away very easily, especially on the days I’m really struggling.
 
Imogene said:
Is your glass half full or half empty most of the time? occasionally faltering at half empty gets a pass.

Do you generally try to see the good or do you generally look at things in the negative and continually complain?

I have read several threads on this form, excluding those of people that are very ill, that seem to do nothing but complain. I read the first one or two comments by the posters and then I stop reading because I can’t stand all that negativism.

For all his flaws, my husband on his good days was a good natured easy-going person. Sadly, in his waning days of metastasized prostate cancer, I had to watch his personality, change to the dark side. It was a heartbreaker to watch that kind of darkness cover him and doesn’t count for this thread; these folks are e titled to their dark moments no matter how frequent. I am talking about people who can’t seem to get out from underneath the umbrella of darkness, no matter what good thing is handed to them in life; they could win $1 million lottery ticket and still not be happy.

So it begs the question, if anyone cares to answer this : which are you, someone who tries very hard every day to see the good or a constant whiner.

I don’t think I need to answer my own question, but I will. I am a praying person who is a staunch believer in God. I know there are people on this form that do not believe in God and that is your privilege, but I know that without His help I would not get as far as I have gotten. I am so thankful every day for the help that He gives me and the fact that He lets me wake up every day to get to the barn to feed my horses and to have the money to pay for what I need to care for them and my dogs, and run this house. There are times when I have dark moments, I keep praying and they soon disappear.

My question is not meant to be theocratic. I can barely get around these days, as years of trauma injuries catch up to me. I am merely stating what helps me stay bright, upbeat, and to look at the things around me and be thankful for them.😇😇

even on the stormiest of days, there are no bad days on my farm. It is a big nut to crack, so to speak, but I would rather live here not having a lot of money in my checkbook, then to live in town in a small house surrounded by houses.
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Every now and then we get a thread like this. Someone complaining about the complainers and whining about the whiners.

I don't see these awful "negative" people you see, Imogene. Sure we have threads about our regrets and threads where we vent about the mean receptionist at our doctor's office, but I don't think that makes any of us awful people. We are humans, many of us living alone and while we may have got up this morning thinking what a beautiful day it was we may have become upset about something and want to talk about it for a few minutes.

It's great that you're bright, upbeat and thankful. I think we all are sometimes. I remember one Thanksgiving when I walked into Kroger and saw all the doubled up carts of produce and got tears of gratitude in my eyes for living in a a country where we could all share in such abundance when we had a holiday. Other times I look at the huge increases in prices and get mad.

Like you we lived in the country for a while with the pleasure of big dogs and of horses next door, but now we live close to town with houses all around. we weren't better people when we lived in the country. I kind of like having houses all around, I like my neighbors.

I don't think being a Christian means having to be cheerful every minute, or having to look for a silver lining inside the latest school shooting. Sometimes your despised "negativity," is appropriate.

Senior Forums has dozens of cheerful threads about music and pets and teapots for those who don't want to read anything negative, but I would hate to think that someone felt they couldn't vent their frustration or share their grief when they needed to.
 
Della said:
Every now and then we get a thread like this. Someone complaining about the complainers and whining about the whiners.

I don't see these awful "negative" people you see, Imogene. Sure we have threads about our regrets and threads where we vent about the mean receptionist at our doctor's office, but I don't think that makes any of us awful people. We are humans, many of us living alone and while we may have got up this morning thinking what a beautiful day it was we may have become upset about something and want to talk about it for a few minutes.

It's great that you're bright, upbeat and thankful. I think we all are sometimes. I remember one Thanksgiving when I walked into Kroger and saw all the doubled up carts of produce and got tears of gratitude in my eyes for living in a a country where we could all share in such abundance when we had a holiday. Other times I look at the huge increases in prices and get mad.

Like you we lived in the country for a while with the pleasure of big dogs and of horses next door, but now we live close to town with houses all around. we weren't better people when we lived in the country. I kind of like having houses all around, I like my neighbors.

I don't think being a Christian means having to be cheerful every minute, or having to look for a silver lining inside the latest school shooting. Sometimes your despised "negativity," is appropriate.

Senior Forums has dozens of cheerful threads about music and pets and teapots for those who don't want to read anything negative, but I would hate to think that someone felt they couldn't vent their frustration or share their grief when they needed to.
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I appreciate your input. Let’s agree to disagree 🤠🤠
 
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