Are you an Introvert or Extrovert?

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I am more in between. There is a name for that but I don't feel like asking by BFF Google... lol. But I am more of an extrovert I am a people person... I can start a conversation with a stranger quite easily. Hubby is an introvert, therefore I can spot an introvert and I know they prefer not to have others in their space not unless invited. My hubby shared with me that he was so shy growing up it was crippling. Sometimes I get him out his comfort zone which he appreciates. We do balance each other out at times. I cannot imagine 2 introverts in a relationship. What about 2 extroverts?
 

I'm a mix, I don't like to be loud and in anyone's face , I hate those types , and I'd rather be behind a camera than in front of one ... but I am always the first to start a convo with a stranger, but that's also because altho' I live in the south now, I'm a northerner, and northern folk in the UK are known for their openness, and friendliness.. so that's part of it.

My husband is an introvert, and very quiet.. ( not a geek or a wimp ) just the strong silent type.. .. always has been... however he has a ''couldn't care less what other people think'' attitude , if he wants to do something he'll do it and not give a fig what other people might think , ., that's something I don't have and wish I did even tho' I'm very much more of an extrovert than him. .

My first husband was very extroverted, so we kinda clashed in that way!!
 

I can be both -I can walk in a room and chat to strangers ok - but I dont like pushy people and loud
hubby is a introvert he would rather hide in the corner somewhere' just not a people person at all lol.....
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C'est Moi said:
I'm an introvert. Attention-seeking people get on my nerves, online and in real life.
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I am extrovert but feel as you do and don't like attention seekers on or offline and known a few over the years in both domains. I am forthright and open but don't feel I seek attention but then again I like to be noticed. and not ignored off or on line.
 
I'm kind of in the middle, I can easily chat with a stranger in the park or the supermarket and am very comfortable in doing so. But I was never the life of the party, in fact I always preferred to get together with one or two friends than a group of people. I am no social butterfly. I like my privacy though, and have no problem spending time alone, although I'm never really alone because my husband is there for me.
 
Pepper said:
With some people and some situations I can be either one. It depends. Some people are a strain to communicate with while others are easy.
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I find that extroverts are very easy to communicate with... they will tell you their life story while at the DMV or standing in line at the grocery story if you care to hear it...lol. Introverts are a strain.. I don't even try, however, I do give a hello and a smile. I was at DMV about a month or so ago. Ask the rep how her day was going, she said fine.. not a friendly fine. By the time I left, I got a smile out of her... mission accomplished.
 
Ladybj said:
I am more in between. There is a name for that but I don't feel like asking by BFF Google... lol. But I am more of an extrovert I am a people person... I can start a conversation with a stranger quite easily. Hubby is an introvert, therefore I can spot an introvert and I know they prefer not to have others in their space not unless invited. My hubby shared with me that he was so shy growing up it was crippling. Sometimes I get him out his comfort zone which he appreciates. We do balance each other out at times. I cannot imagine 2 introverts in a relationship. What about 2 extroverts?
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As a grad student, my minor area was social psychology. I had to take a whole barrage of psychological profile tests. They always come out that I'm an extroverted introvert. Basically it means that I'm really good in social situations but must also have a lot of alone time. Indeed, that is true. Ha, your comment about your husband made me smile. While I love spending time with friends at coffee shops and social functions, I hardly ever have people in my home unless we are very, very close.
 
Ladybj said:
I find that extroverts are very easy to communicate with... they will tell you their life story while at the DMV or standing in line at the grocery story if you care to hear it...lol. Introverts are a strain.. I don't even try, however, I do give a hello and a smile. I was at DMV about a month or so ago. Ask the rep how her day was going, she said fine.. not a friendly fine. By the time I left, I got a smile out of her... mission accomplished.
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That is true I am a heavy duty introvert and I have a tough time with smalltalk it’s actually painful for me whereas my mother was an extreme extrovert....she could talk to anybody it was so easy being around her she could control the conversation and make anybody feel at ease it was great I didn’t have to say one word, LOL ❤️
 
toffee said:
I can be both -I can walk in a room and chat to strangers ok - but I dont like pushy people and loud
hubby is a introvert he would rather hide in the corner somewhere' just not a people person at all lol.....
where iam -
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That's my hubby. I really think he enjoy the extrovert in me. I can be a bit loud depending on the occasion. I am not over the top, however I love to have fun. Never a dull moment. If there is a gathering and I am invited, I bring a good time... not too over the top. @Gary O' as he say I do not regret having MUCH fun!!!
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Lc jones said:
That is true I am a heavy duty introvert and I have a tough time with smalltalk it’s actually painful for me whereas my mother was an extreme extrovert....she could talk to anybody it was so easy being around her she could control the conversation and make anybody feel at ease it was great I didn’t have to say one word, LOL ❤
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My sister is an extrovert, when in company I would gladly let her do all the talking and I would relax and enjoy THEIR conversation.
 
I'm pretty much an introvert, but it's not a black and white thing: It's graduating scale. Nobody is really 100% one way or the other. I can certainly do extroverted things, given the right situation.
 
C'est Moi said:
I'm an introvert. Attention-seeking people get on my nerves, online and in real life.
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With some extroverts it may be attention seekers but with others its just their personalities. I am a true extrovert... I do not need the attention. I keep my boundaries until I know its ok to approach someone. My hubby is a true introvert..he don't know it but he taught me how to deal with introverts. And I may have taught him about extroverts.. not sure if he paid attention in class...lol.
 
Lc jones said:
I am extremely introverted but this did not stop me from having a great career or a fullfilling personal life, I love my quiet/alone time and can take people in small doses and in small numbers. Large crowds, cities, and loud restaurants turn me off.
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Sounds like my hubby but he go with the flow with me. I love a fun crowd... has to be fun. He can take it or leave it.
 
Marlene said:
As a grad student, my minor area was social psychology. I had to take a whole barrage of psychological profile tests. They always come out that I'm an extroverted introvert. Basically it means that I'm really good in social situations but must also have a lot of alone time. Indeed, that is true. Ha, your comment about your husband made me smile. While I love spending time with friends at coffee shops and social functions, I hardly ever have people in my home unless we are very, very close.
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That's pretty much me.. I am a social butterfly but need my alone time. You have to be invited into my space..however I can have fun with you from afar...lol
 
Old Dummy said:
I'm pretty much an introvert, but it's not a black and white thing: It's graduating scale. Nobody is really 100% one way or the other. I can certainly do extroverted things, given the right situation.
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I agree.. But I do feel there are extroverts that tip the scale a lot to extroverts and introverts tips the scale to introverts. My hubby is a true introvert without a doubt and I am a true extrovert.. however I do enjoy alone time. Hubby prefer to be home watching tv as oppose out in a crowd..he will go if I want to go but he prefer to be home..which is fine. We work it out. He accepts me as an extrovert and I accept him as a introvert.
 
I think that an Extrovert female and Extrovert male will make great friends but not good in a relationship. Just my opinion...I could be wrong. Have not done a survey so have no facts/statistics to go on.
 
Ladybj said:
I agree.. But I do feel there are extroverts that tip the scale a lot to extroverts and introverts tips the scale to introverts. My hubby is a true introvert without a doubt and I am a true extrovert.. however I do enjoy alone time. Hubby prefer to be home watching tv as oppose out in a crowd..he will go if I want to go but he prefer to be home..which is fine. We work it out. He accepts me as an extrovert and I accept him as a introvert.
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I'm a classic introvert: Hate crowds, am quiet around a group of strangers, like to come home and unwind after being out, I choose my words carefully and don't talk just for the sake of talking, etc. But after reading a lot about it and taking several tests, I realized I'm not 100%.

I've had extroverted GFs and sometimes that was tough. And one of my lunch buddies is a VERY annoying extrovert, but he's harmless. But what I tell him and others who know him, from his actions: He must think that negative attention is better than no attention. We can bash and trash him and he just glows because he's getting attention. And, it's better to blurt out something really stupid rather than just keeping his mouth shut because he does it all the time.

But it's not just extroversion. There's more going on than that. He's 79 but acts more like an undisciplined 4 year-old.
 
I am more introvert than extrovert, fairly confident but do not like being the centre of attention, you’ll always find me in a quiet corner of a restaurant for example, I know a couple of extroverts and find them amusing and good company, in small doses !
 
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Wren said:
I am more introvert than extrovert, fairly confident but do not like being the centre of attention, you’ll always find me in a quiet corner of a restaurant for example, I know a couple of extroverts and find them amusing and good company, in small doses !
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That sounds like me Wren :giggle: although I will always sit in the window of a restaurant, not to be seen but because I love to have something to look at outside , and people watch...
 

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