Are you an Introvert or Extrovert?

Ladybj said:
Sounds like my hubby. Years ago when a Supervisory position came open on his shift... I pretty much had to talk him into applying for the position. He had been doing the job already for several years prior...I had to remind him of that. He is one that like to be in the background. He applied and got the position and doing very well. He went from a Class 4 to a Class 1 which is the highest in his field. Introverts hold a LOT in which is not good..Extroverts get it out anyway possible. I think introverts and extroverts can make a great combination but depending on other factors. They can be oil and water or peanut butter and jelly :D I feel the same way about 2 extroverts.
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Oh no, my husband would not need to be talked into taking a higher position.. he's very good at quietly being noticed IYSWIM so is always headhunted ..by the mere fact he's so good at everything he does...:giggle:
 

I'm an introvert, like my father was. The worst part of the condition are those people (often extroverted) who regard you as needing to be "healed" or "converted." My own mother was one of those who tried hard to force-convert me, never accepting the "me" that was. My parents were an interesting study in contrasts before going to a social event, which my father dreaded but my mother exulted in. I was happy at such times to remain alone at home, watching obscure TV programs...
 
I have to be honest, 98% extra- extrovert with some introvert thrown in.
Introvert pic attached. Yes those are my real feet.
 

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Fyrefox said:
I'm an introvert, like my father was. The worst part of the condition are those people (often extroverted) who regard you as needing to be "healed" or "converted." My own mother was one of those who tried hard to force-convert me, never accepting the "me" that was. My parents were an interesting study in contrasts before going to a social event, which my father dreaded but my mother exulted in. I was happy at such times to remain alone at home, watching obscure TV programs...
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Sounds a bit like me and my hubby..he will go with me to events and actually end up enjoying himself. But sometimes the hurdle is getting him there..lol. My daughter is a bit of an introvert but she does have a bit of extrovert in her. I did not try to convert her but being around mommy.... a bit of extrovert rubbed off on her...lol. And I am learning to accept my hubby as he is. If I tell him I want the moon, he would give it to me if he could. I just wish he would open up a bit more.
 
Old Dummy said:
I'm a classic introvert: Hate crowds, am quiet around a group of strangers, like to come home and unwind after being out, I choose my words carefully and don't talk just for the sake of talking, etc. But after reading a lot about it and taking several tests, I realized I'm not 100%.

I've had extroverted GFs and sometimes that was tough. And one of my lunch buddies is a VERY annoying extrovert, but he's harmless. But what I tell him and others who know him, from his actions: He must think that negative attention is better than no attention. We can bash and trash him and he just glows because he's getting attention. And, it's better to blurt out something really stupid rather than just keeping his mouth shut because he does it all the time.

But it's not just extroversion. There's more going on than that. He's 79 but acts more like an undisciplined 4 year-old.
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Very interesting post. I wonder if it is tough for my hubby to be with me? Not questioning myself because I cannot change for him or anyone else. He seems to get a kick out of me. We lasted so far for 35 years and counting with the exception of separating for 3 years. However, it is not easy to be with an introvert...comes with a LOT of understanding and acceptance.
 
Ronni said:
Ive taken numerous tests to determine which I am. They all come out pretty much the same...I’m right down the middle which makes me adaptable to pretty much any situation.

I don’t crave attention and am content with my own company, but if I am required to take charge I have no problem taking over a room. I can be a complete homebody and go for days without interaction with no problem, but I can be a social butterfly at a party and work my way thru the room speaking with everyone....or spend the entire night tucked up on the couch having a deep conversation with one or two people.

It makes me very adaptable which given my life and lifestyle is a good thing. Or perhaps my life has evolved based on that adaptability? Chicken or egg?
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That's pretty much me. If my older sister is going to an event, she will call me to see if I want to go because she says she know we will have fun...and we do.
 
My natural tendency is introvert and loner. Left unchecked it can (and has) led to being a social isolate.
With responsibility for someone else's well being, I've learned how to socially engage with various kinds of people in various social situations.
But I'm afraid I'm a serious kind of guy....lighthearted banter and jocularity are a little outside of my comfort zone.
 
Ladybj said:
Sounds a bit like me and my hubby..he will go with me to events and actually end up enjoying himself. But sometimes the hurdle is getting him there..lol. My daughter is a bit of an introvert but she does have a bit of extrovert in her. I did not try to convert her but being around mommy.... a bit of extrovert rubbed off on her...lol. And I am learning to accept my hubby as he is. If I tell him I want the moon, he would give it to me if he could. I just wish he would open up a bit more.
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My hub is the same way. Learned many years ago to just "accept". If that's the worst thing I would have had to put up with him, I figured...hey, life would be great!
 
Liberty said:
My hub is the same way. Learned many years ago to just "accept". If that's the worst thing I would have had to put up with him, I figured...hey, life would be great!
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I get him out of his comfort zone at times. For the most part, we accept each other as we are. It helps that I enjoy my alone time and he don't have a problem with me having alone time. In some relationships, both or one partner feel they need to be joined at the hip the majority of time... I need my space at times as I understand he need his.
 
Ladybj said:
I get him out of his comfort zone at times. For the most part, we accept each other as we are. It helps that I enjoy my alone time and he don't have a problem with me having alone time. In some relationships, both or one partner feel they need to be joined at the hip the majority of time... I need my space at times as I understand he need his.
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You've just described our relationship too..to a Tee
 
Gardenlover said:
Perfect for me - I hate shopping.
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You and my hub. He's basically a "man's man" - the last thing I want to do is drag him off to a store unless he has an outdoor bench handy when he can sit, read and have a good cigar.

There is one store he loves to go into...a book store. And I have to limit him. Our library is full and we're even getting new bookcases to add on. He's an avid reader.
 
I accept my husband as he is and he does the same for me as I am an introvert and he is an extrovert and we both strive to understand and accept our differences. That being said nothing is perfect and it helps us to keep open communication, we’ll be married 40 years in 2021. I’d say that’s a pretty good track record.
 
Liberty said:
You and my hub. He's basically a "man's man" - the last thing I want to do is drag him off to a store unless he has an outdoor bench handy when he can sit, read and have a good cigar.

There is one store he loves to go into...a book store. And I have to limit him. Our library is full and we're even getting new bookcases to add on. He's an avid reader.
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Cigar and drinks, plus books - Count me in!
 
Liberty said:
You and my hub. He's basically a "man's man" - the last thing I want to do is drag him off to a store unless he has an outdoor bench handy when he can sit, read and have a good cigar.

There is one store he loves to go into...a book store. And I have to limit him. Our library is full and we're even getting new bookcases to add on. He's an avid reader.
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Believe it or not, my introvert hubby likes to go shopping from time to time. We to go the Outlet Mall sometimes during the summer.
 
Lc jones said:
I accept my husband as he is and he does the same for me as I am an introvert and he is an extrovert and we both strive to understand and accept our differences. That being said nothing is perfect and it helps us to keep open communication, we’ll be married 40 years in 2021. I’d say that’s a pretty good track record.
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That's the key OPEN COMMUNICATION. I feel a lot of times my hubby hold a lot in. Yes, 40 years is a AWESOME track record. I am the extrovert, hubby introvert and for us 36 years this year 2020. It has not been an easy road but one we continue to travel together.
 
Gardenlover said:
Cigar and drinks, plus books - Count me in!
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Come on over to Texas. Daddy used to say "girl, if you can't site in that long gun off your back deck, don't buy that house." Hub loves to sit out back and watch the hawks and owls. Deer are everywhere. My mom used to call them "rats with horns" because they ate her roses.

Its starting already, those dumb hawks seem to prefer mating on the big old dead tree limbs and crack them off quite regularly during Jan-Feb. The big barn owls have slowed down the bird population eating at the feeder. Saw one perched on the hummingbird feeder recently...that really deters the bird grazing.
 
Introvert in the extreme. When I have to get out of the house and interact with others, I feel as if I am play-acting. I think this stems from being an over-protected, only child. That's why I believe my meal delivery job is good for me. I can practice my social skills, if any.
 
The term for people that have a combination of Introvert and Extrovert personality is called Ambivert - I definitely have a Ambivert personality. And depending on the situation depends on which side comes out most...however, my extrovert side is still in the mix..lol.
 
Sorry if this has already been discussed, I didn't read all posts. Is the Myers-Briggs thing still considered pertinent or has it become old fashioned?
 
I ask myself if I had a do over in marriage would I marry a introvert. I would not want to marry an extreme introvert nor extrovert. I would marry an ambivert. I feel two ambiverts can have a great relationship because one person will not feel they have to work so hard in pleasing the other. However, I love my introverted hubby..he gives me my space when I need it because he understand about needing space.
 
My introvert hubby and I went out to dinner and had a GREAT time!!! We had good food and great conversation. He really opened up a bit..... WOW. I feel one of the keys is accepting him as he is and another key, working on my inner self. COMMUNICATION is definitely key in any relationship.
 

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