Are you choosing to live alone?

Aunt Bea said:
I choose to live alone and enjoy it.

I need privacy and solitude to recharge my batteries and would not function well surrounded by other people or by being forced to live in a structured environment.

I dread the thought of needing some form of assisted living and the forced socialization that goes along with it.

My hope is that someday my neighbors will report a foul odor coming from my apartment and that will be the end of it.
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I didnt choose it. It just happened . Before that it was me and the husband and now its just me.
Im fine with it. Too many people makes me twitchy too. :D

Assisted living doesnt sound like fun. Im familiar with nursing homes. Too familiar in fact. Definitly dont want to be in one.
Hopefully if Im forced to go to the home for old ladies I will be adle brained and wont know where Im at.
I would prefer to just keel over one day if I have any choice. :D

Aunt Bea said:
I get bored but rarely lonely.
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I do get bored sometimes but I usually manage to find something.
OldOld said:
I live alone. No family, no friends, no pets.
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Same here. Except I do have some snitty kitties.
 
I've never lived alone. I lived with my parents until I married at age 25 . Since then I've lived with my wife. I married in 1960 at age 25. If my wife did die before me, I'd marry again. I pity folks who live alone.

My wife manages making the food and cleaning the house. I manage our investments and other finances.
 
C50 said:
Trust me we don't want your pity. Pity the people who live their lives in miserable relationships because they are afraid to be alone. It's great to have a partner in life but in my opinion everyone should experience living on their own, especially in early adulthood.
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Amen to that! I love living alone, and I've never understood the "I have to have a relationship at any cost mindset" that I've seen in some friends.

I seriously doubt whether I could ever live with someone again. I'm not in a relationship right now, and I doubt I will be any time soon, so it's not an issue.

When I was younger, I didn't live alone much—went straight from the family home to a college dorm, to graduate school with roommates, to my first job and housemates, to marrying and living with my ex-husband. After 20 years of chasing around the country for his job and running our three kids all over the place to school, activities, etc., and cooking for everyone else's preferences and watching what they wanted to watch (Iots of Disney princess movies for my two daughters!), I am perfectly content to live alone. I can finally do whatever I want, when I want.
 
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Well, I did choose to live alone after my husband died. But a couple of years later my DIL died, so I invited my son to move back in with me. At this point, he's probably the only one I could live with. We get along great and don't get in each others' way. He's getting engaged soon and will probably be moving out within a year. I will be living alone again and loving my privacy.
 
hollydolly said:
Is there anyone here choosing to live alone, because they were put off the idea of nursing homes..or retirement homes... after seeing a family member in them ?
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Yes, I live alone partially due to the bad nursing home alternative. I've heard horror stories about them so I maintain my own home with household help. I tried sharing a house with a romantic interest but it turned out like yours so I'm content living alone. My long time housekeeper provides regular conversation each week, combined with a good deal of privacy.
 
I choose to live alone, being long-time divorced and having had 2 short marriages (3 yrs each). When I was younger, it was the way to go and didn't bother me, but I can't imagine sharing my bed every night with someone again. I can't imagine having to cook everyday again, because someone likes/needs it that way. I like cooking only when I want to and eating a sandwich or snacks for dinner on a whim.

I like reading in bed for long periods in solitude and quietness. I like moving around my home in seclusion and peace, not having to speak or talk if I don't want to. I'm extremely creative, so always busy and never bored. Age has made me set in my ways and not willing to compromise and lose who I am for the sake of pleasing another person. A good relationship does take agreement, compromise and adaptation, but you know what I mean. If I had thought and felt, when I was younger, as I do now, I would have made better choices in love. I would have been able to discern and embrace something lasting.

Now that I'm so much older, I don't feel the allure, drive or need for a romantic relationship, though I love romance. I even design printables and digitals for my online shop called Love Romance Marriage. That's how I enjoy it now really, vicariously. I encourage others in personal relationships and celebrate with them and it gives me great joy. I do wish that I'd made an outrageously successful marriage when I was younger, because we'd still be together, comfortable and clicking. We'd be doing great things together and helping others, as well as ourselves.

I wouldn't mind having a new relationship for my remaining years. We'd have to be more compatible than I ever was in any past relationships. He'd have to be as self-sufficient, independent and as loving of freedom and solitude as I am. He'd have to be wildly creative and committed to designing and making things. He'd have to have been living a faith-based life long before we met. If this never happens, I'm very ok with it.
 
I've lived with my wife for 65 years now. It's the best way to live. If she died before me, I'd try to find another wife. At my age of 90 there are plenty of widows available for me.
 

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