Are you easily controlled by others?

I'm not easily controlled by others, I control myself. I'll go along to get along, but if it's something I really disagree with, good luck getting me to do it. I won't betray myself, I have to live with me and the choices I make.

I've been manipulated in the past through lies and "partial truths." Here's one instance. A friend invited my husband and me and several others to dinner, including a woman she knew I wasn't particularly fond of. When I accepted the invitation, I asked her who else would be there. She told me, but left out naming that particular woman. My husband and I arrived to find "that woman" in her living room. We said hello, chatted, and went about enjoying the rest of the evening.

The next day, I called out my friend. The first thing I said to her was, "You know I love you." Then I asked her why she didn't tell me "that woman" would be there. She said she was afraid if I knew "that woman" would be there, I wouldn't have come. Needless to say, I wasn't happy that my friend had manipulated me to get what she wanted. I told her I didn't like or appreciate being manipulated that way, that it was my choice to make, not hers. I said, "I'm not mad, but I'm upset that you manipulated me that way. Please don't ever do it again." She got the message.

If you let people get away with that kind of sh*t, they'll do it to you over and over again, and that could ruin a friendship.

Bella ✌️
 

Shalimar said:
Sadly, all too often, our prisons and mental hospitals, mean streets, etc, contain many individuals who weren’t nurtured enough as children. It is not black and white, one size fits all.
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I've had inmates that worked for me in prison that were pretty much "average Joes" but had gotten caught up in some horrendous $h!t, when they were 'young & dumb'. Spending the best years of one's life behind bars is a sad situation.
 
Nathan said:
I've had inmates that worked for me in prison that were pretty much "average Joes" but had gotten caught up in some horrendous $h!t, when they were 'young & dumb'. Spending the best years of one's life behind bars is a sad situation.
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I am convinced that we sentence most first and some second offenders to way too much prison time. Seems to make them more likely to reoffend.
 

Not at all. I grew up with low self-esteem. In my younger days, I could be controlled by what someone said about my looks or actions. I learned that people actually prey on those with low self-esteem because they are easy targets. I've moved far beyond that because I recognize what I have contributed to my life. My destiny is solely up to me, not others. Don't ever let anyone else try to control you.
 
Yes and No...depends on how much I care.
Do I care enough about getting my way this time with effort
Or will letting go and letting the controller get their way clear the bad energy quickly
 
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