Are you good at keeping secrets ???

[dobielvr]

This is nice. I wish all relationships had this much understanding and tolerance.

We try.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

When these two split up, I was shocked and had lots of questions that were none of my business. Second marriages were discussed as well as how the kids would cope but it was a generalized discussion. I think that’s probably a normal concern for anyone who’s just broken up. I don’t have kids but if I were to leave my husband we have pets that we’d have to look after but not together. That’s heavy duty stuff that any healthy person would need to deal with.


Another BIG concern was that she’d be the outlaw instead of the inlaw. This was a 30 year old marriage so we saw a lot of each other. I wanted her to know that I felt no different except hurt for her and her family.

She’s not doing well and I’m concerned.
Menopause affects women’s brains as much as it does the rest of the body’s organs and she’s at that age. Menopause is serious stuff.
Anyway I’m rambling. I’m blaming menopause.

 

[OneEyedDiva]

I am very good at keeping secrets. Keeping secrets was a major part of my profession in the 28 years I worked in the VD Clinic, renamed STD department. We interviewed and kept records of hundreds, if not thousands of people who were infected, whether they saw their private doctors or came to clinic. We could not even tell their sex partners (wives included) who gave their names. We certainly couldn't tell curiosity seekers who wanted to know if so and so came to clinic. One such person was my sweet cousin, may she R.I.P. "Sorry Cuz, I love you but I could lose my job if I gave you that information." Even if that wasn't the case, I wouldn't have told her.

 

[mrstime]

I can keep a secret, but I will tell DH! That is how it has always been.

 

[MarkD]

I’m with those who say you did nothing wrong. But to answer your question, I’m pretty loose lipped actually. Not much filter except when it comes to avoiding saying anything someone might experience as hurtful. Beyond that, if it needs to be kept secret you’ve got to make that very clear to avoid accidental disclosure.

 

[Jules]

Beyond that, if it needs to be kept secret you’ve got to make that very clear to avoid accidental disclosure.

Right. The teller needs to make it clear that it’s a secret. Also, how big a secret is it?

 

[MarkD]

Right. The teller needs to make it clear that it’s a secret. Also, how big a secret is it?

If it’s the sort where by telling me they are obligated to kill me - I don’t want to know!

 

[seadoug]

There was a woman who worked for me until we both retired in 2020. I shared a lot of my personal details with her and she shared with me that one of her 3 sons was not conceived with her husband, who she divorced. To this day, I know that this son is not her husband's but I've never shared that information. It remains our secret. So, yes I'm good at keeping secrets.

 

[caroln]

I can keep a secret, but I will tell DH! That is how it has always been.

My situation is the opposite. My husband is one person I can never tell a secret to. He doesn't think and he ends up blabbing.

 

[mnray]

Yes! I can be your "Go To" secret person and the secret will never leave my lips.