Are you introvert or extrovert?

Carla said:
I am an introvert and a homebody but do get out on occasion. I'm mostly a private person but not anti-social, just don't ask me personal questions. Have only a few close friends that I feel comfortable enough around to be my true self.
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Carla, I couldn't have said it better myself. I enjoy my alone time and hate when people think I should join a group or get out more. Some people can't stand their own company.
 

Guess I'm mostly an extrovert in that I can hold my head up when walking into a room full of people and
speaking to them. I'm NOT timid by any means but I don't like attention drawn to me.

I have a pretty good feeling with what I've done with my life and my country.
 
Falcon said:
Guess I'm mostly an extrovert in that I can hold my head up when walking into a room full of people and
speaking to them. I'm NOT timid by any means but I don't like attention drawn to me.

I have a pretty good feeling with what I've done with my life and my country.
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I'm not in the least bit timid either, I have done a lot of public speaking. And I am generally outspoken, maybe to a fault.
 
I think I'm equally divided between the two. I feel comfortable going up to people in just about any circumstance and talking with them. I like speaking in front of large groups as long as I'm prepared and am interested in the subject. I often get "volunteered" to speak because a lot of people don't enjoy doing that. I like parties and big groups of people - for a time. But I also enjoy a good deal of alone time because I enjoy reading and researching different subjects that I happen to be interested in at the time. I also enjoy projects around the house and love being at home.
 
BlondieBoomer said:
I think I'm equally divided between the two. I feel comfortable going up to people in just about any circumstance and talking with them. I like speaking in front of large groups as long as I'm prepared and am interested in the subject. I often get "volunteered" to speak because a lot of people don't enjoy doing that. I like parties and big groups of people - for a time. But I also enjoy a good deal of alone time because I enjoy reading and researching different subjects that I happen to be interested in at the time. I also enjoy projects around the house and love being at home.
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Many introverts are actors, politicians, news casters and activists. Being scared of being the center of a crowd is not an introvert trait, actually it appears to be the opposite is true. It's all about how one prefers to spend time when off work. Whether you want to go to that party and spend the entire evening (introverts tend to go, say hi, and disappear). Whether you prefer a dinner for two or three or a large group. Whether you are happy alone or lonely for company.

When I did public speeches, I would know my stuff, but what parts to present and the tone - I took it from the audience. I feed from an audience, so to speak. The bigger, the better. But afterwards I would avoid the outings on the town and dinner engagements (unless it was one on one with a prospective client). Usually I'd lie and say I already had an engagement and disappear to my hotel room for room service and TV or a book or fooling around on the laptop.

And even small get togethers, I can take maybe two hours and then I am exhausted. Often I wake up in the morning and think: Woohoo, the day is all mine. Not expecting anyone, I don't have to go anywhere, I have the day all to myself. I love this! Makes me happy.
 
dog lover said:
When I did public speeches, I would know my stuff, but what parts to present and the tone - I took it from the audience. I feed from an audience, so to speak. The bigger, the better. But afterwards I would avoid the outings on the town and dinner engagements (unless it was one on one with a prospective client). Usually I'd lie and say I already had an engagement and disappear to my hotel room for room service and TV or a book or fooling around on the laptop.
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I used to do exactly the same thing, LOL!!!

When it came to the receptions, cocktail parties, etc... I used to make a point of being seen by several people and then slip away quietly.
 
Introvert here I don't mind spending time alone and I am happier with just one close friend than a large group of friends. It takes me awhile to get close to someone but once I do we have a very strong and trusting bond
 
Probably mainly an introvert. I like to socialize in small groups of people I know and I tend to be a home body - don't like being in the spot lite. I have always been somewhat of a loner and have become more so as I age - tho I don't mind personal questions. I tend to withdraw emotionally when subjected to large crown of people I don't know. I spent a lot of time alone at a fairly critical period growing up (not my choice) and learned to amuse myself - became a prolific reader. LOL My TaeKwondo is the thing that drags me out of the house and has been instrumental in getting me to socialize more than I was before. I have all my "toys" here at home and am quite happy to be alone all day until my family comes home from work; :)
 
I've always enjoyed being alone. I was shy as a kid but learned to be out spoken as an adult which doesn't go over too well with most. I dislike small talk and putting on airs like most people do around others. It's hard being around lots of people all the time who judge everything about you but that's what I went through during my working years. Social anxiety became quite evident over the years. I like being with one or two people at a time but you won't see me in a crowd.
 
I am probably an Introvert. I am a very private person at home. But then again, I can strike up a conversation with a total stranger at the grocery store!
 
I'm an intorvert..I don't want to be anywhere near a crowd..in fact I cannot breath if you are too close. But if you stand back and give me air I will share all the things inside of me.
 
Interesting article on 'the case for shyness'. https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2017/02/the-case-for-shyness/516933/
Shyness, that single emotion that encompasses so many different things—embarrassment, timidity, a fear of rejection, a reluctance to be inconvenient—is, despite its extreme commonality, also extremely mysterious.

Is it a mere feeling? A personality-defining condition? A form of anxiety? While shyness is for some a constant companion, its flushes and flashes managed in the rough manner of a chronic disease, it can also alight, without the courtesy of a warning, on even the most social, and socially graceful, of people.

It can manifest as the mute smile that appears, unbidden, when you’re alone with a stranger in an elevator. Or as, right before the curtain goes up, the leaden stomach and the clammy hands and the desperate desire to escape to someplace—any place—that is not the stage.

Or it can come when the bite of chicken didn’t go down quite right, and your throat is closing, and the world is spinning, and everyone is watching, and all you want to do is get away from it all.


Shyness, basically, is an inconsiderate monster. Or, as the cultural historian Joe Moran argues in his wonderful new book, Shrinking Violets: The Secret Life of Shyness, it is an inconsiderate monster that has been a reliable, if largely invisible, companion to human history.

Today, in the United States, shyness is often associated with a broad jumble of related and overlapping conditions, from occasional timidness to general awkwardness, from stage fright to the DSM-recognized social anxiety disorder. This imprecision is, it turns out, fitting: Shyness isn’t a single situation or character, Moran suggests, but, instead, a regular but also irregular interloper in human affairs, affecting people across ages and countries and cultures. Shyness can be, sometimes, a curse. It can be, as Dr. Heimlich acknowledged, occasionally a deadly one.

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The introvert/extrovert thing is faulty in that so many automatically assume the first to be bad, and the second good. But it's not that simple.
 
Bajabob said:
The introvert/extrovert thing is faulty in that so many automatically assume the first to be bad, and the second good. But it's not that simple.
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I've found that the second is usually bad. Sometimes extroverts never shut up. It's so much easier for me to spend time with an introvert. I think many people can be both extroverted or introverted depending on the setting/situation.
 
I have always been a extrovert and that is difficult now with a severe uncorrectable hearing loss.
 

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