Are you introvert or extrovert?

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Extroverts recharge while being with others.

Introverts recharge by being alone.

That's about the most prominent and consistent characteristic.

Until recently I thought that I was an extrovert as I can spend a fun time with just about anyone, am very easy to get along with and not judgmental, and used to do a lot of travelling and public speaking.

Really, I am an introvert though. I love being alone. I like being with one or two other people at a time, but more and I end up just bored and want to leave asap. I hate groups and group activities. I would hold a speech, be there for a few questions afterwards, and then sneak to my hotel room and get room service while having declined dinner invitations.

The following article will surprise you, I bet you didn't know all these famous people were introverts. And there is a collection of great cartoons at the bottom.


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/08/15/famous-introverts_n_3733400.html
 

Introvert

I enjoy people in small doses and find listening to small talk painful.

I don't like attention drawn to myself or surprises of any kind.

I enjoy my own company and need to be alone to recharge my batteries so I have the strength to deal with the outside world.

Sounds kind of grim but it suits me and that's all that matters, LOL!!!
 
Aunt Bea said:
Introvert

I enjoy people in small doses and find listening to small talk painful.

I don't like attention drawn to myself or surprises of any kind.

I enjoy my own company and need to be alone to recharge my batteries so I have the strength to deal with the outside world.

Sounds kind of grim but it suits me and that's all that matters, LOL!!!
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As you see in that article, you are in great company. :)
 

I'm glad to say that I am neither. Had the Myers Briggs test several times and I more or less straddle the Y axis on the graph (at least I think it's the Y axis - it's been at least 20 years ago...)
 
I am an introvert although I've been graded as an extrovert on the Myers-Briggs test. In my younger days I actually was more of an extrovert. But old age has let me enjoy being alone and quiet.
 
Aunt Bea said:
Introvert

I enjoy people in small doses and find listening to small talk painful.

I don't like attention drawn to myself or surprises of any kind.

I enjoy my own company and need to be alone to recharge my batteries so I have the strength to deal with the outside world.

Sounds kind of grim but it suits me and that's all that matters, LOL!!!
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Boy, I could have written that.

I've always figured it's because I was raised as an only child (I'm not, but I was raised alone,) and so had to learn to amuse myself and be self-sufficient. Do you suppose that's how an introvert is made?
 
Loosey said:
Boy, I could have written that.

I've always figured it's because I was raised as an only child (I'm not, but I was raised alone,) and so had to learn to amuse myself and be self-sufficient. Do you suppose that's how an introvert is made?
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No, I think you are born that way. Introverts show up in big families, too. It does become more pronounced with age.
 
The most widely spread prejudice about introverts is that they are shy. The percentage of shy introverts is probably the same as the one of extroverts. They are not really related. Lots of introverts are public figures, politicians, actors, business people.

The trouble is that so many sweet, kind people seem determined to drag introverts to events they do not like. Like parties and large gatherings of any kind. I found this to get worse as I age. I guess they see me as a lonely old woman. Well, old I am, lonely - definitely not.
 
I don't know it's hard to say. I might seem extroverted while out in public or in small groups. I've never had any problem meeting or talking to people. I am however very guarded about personal information and whom I let into my home or life. I'm really picky about friends that I would let into my life. I'm usually friendly to everyone, but not so much as to invite them to my home, etc. I really am not sure about the alone preference thing. I often am alone now that I am older, and I've learned to live with that and might actually prefer it these days, but I also need to see my family quite often because I feel lonely otherwise & also because I love them and want to share a part in their lives.
 
Loosey said:
Boy, I could have written that.

I've always figured it's because I was raised as an only child (I'm not, but I was raised alone,) and so had to learn to amuse myself and be self-sufficient. Do you suppose that's how an introvert is made?
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Could be! I was the last child after a gap of several years and I spent most of my time with my grandparents, I knew more about Social Security by the time I was five than I did about the alphabet. I was definitely a loner growing up.
 
dog lover said:
The most widely spread prejudice about introverts is that they are shy. The percentage of shy introverts is probably the same as the one of extroverts. They are not really related. Lots of introverts are public figures, politicians, actors, business people.

The trouble is that so many sweet, kind people seem determined to drag introverts to events they do not like. Like parties and large gatherings of any kind. I found this to get worse as I age. I guess they see me as a lonely old woman. Well, old I am, lonely - definitely not.
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I was never shy in business, I did my fair share of public speaking, glad handing etc...

As far as parties and large gathering go it's not so much being shy I just don't feel like I fit in. When I go to one I always drive myself and park where I won't be blocked in so I can slip away quickly and quietly, sometimes very quickly!!!

I get bored but I never get lonely.
 
I am an introvert and a homebody but do get out on occasion. I'm mostly a private person but not anti-social, just don't ask me personal questions. Have only a few close friends that I feel comfortable enough around to be my true self.
 
Don't know if I'm the textbook definition, but I would say I'm an introvert. I don't like large crowds of people and enjoy just being around one or two good friends to have a good time. For example I would rather go to a concert just with my husband and maybe one more friend than a group of people.

I don't seek attention in public and don't look to ham it up, but have no problem speaking in front of a group of people when necessary. I'm fine being by myself to recharge my batteries, I don't thrive off the energy of others.
 
Introvert. I like that description which suits me exactly!

I remember at a management conference once. The consultant did a test of each of us to establish who was introvert and who was extrovert. Out of the whole management team, I was the only introvert. Did I feel out of place???? definitely!
 
I'm both - My introvert part likes being on my own and never gets bored. When with people, I always enjoy their company like typical extrovert.
 
The terms were invented by Carl Jung and have deviated from his original theory of Temperament considerably both by the lay public and psychologists. According to Jung no one is totally one or the other. Introverts see the world from the core of their being and interpret their sensory input and appear self centered i.e. everything revolves around me. Extroverts on the other hand see the outside world much like a bunch of christmas bulbs each one having its own entity and set of rules. Introverts favorite past time is flipping the bulbs of the extrovert breaking them, and extroverts is telling the introvert they don't know squat.
 
An introvert all my life. and painfully, I found out that this is an extrovert's world, always has been. That's one reason why I never married.
All the places to meet a partner or date that I knew of, cater to extroverts: bars, clubs, dances, parties, etc. I usually hated but tolerated
them. Extroverts think I am anti-social. My mother never understood that, but my father was an introvert and I took after him.I think we learn these habits from
our parents and siblings. No one is born one or the other. I am fine in small groups. Large groups I hate.
Online forums clearly attract introverts. In his farewell address, Pres Obama rightfully said that we should stop arguing online and go out and
meet someone. Yes.
 
Probably both. It depends on the situation. But I do enjoy people. I just don't always want crowds of them surrounding me.
 
I can be both depending on the people I am with. Sometimes self esteem is dependent on whom you're with. Some say others cannot influence how we feel but oh how they can.
 
Ruthanne said:
I can be both depending on the people I am with. Sometimes self esteem is dependent on whom you're with. Some say others cannot influence how we feel but oh how they can.
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Actually, self esteem or shyness or things like that have nothing to do with being an introvert or an extrovert. Being intro or extrovert also has nothing to do with who you are with, and you really can't switch back and forth between the two. Either you like being with people in social settings or you don't. Everyone needs their own space sometimes, introverts prefer it just about all the time.
 
I disagree with you on that as being introverted or extrverted surely does have to do with how you are treated by others in various situations. That has much to do with self esteem.
 
rt3 said:
The terms were invented by Carl Jung and have deviated from his original theory of Temperament considerably both by the lay public and psychologists. According to Jung no one is totally one or the other. Introverts see the world from the core of their being and interpret their sensory input and appear self centered i.e. everything revolves around me. Extroverts on the other hand see the outside world much like a bunch of christmas bulbs each one having its own entity and set of rules. Introverts favorite past time is flipping the bulbs of the extrovert breaking them, and extroverts is telling the introvert they don't know squat.
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Interesting. All my life I was 'extroverted', but after a mind-bending ,prolonged medical treatment, my introvert side has taken dominance.

Nowadays, I am shy and cautious in public, of course I come alive when I get to see family and old friends.

My daughter and granddaughter are coming in, from Henderson, NV tomorrow. That will be a huge pick-me-up! ;)
 

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