Are you the favourite grandparent ? Do you get along with the other grandparents

hollydolly

hollydolly

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I'm not a Granny... but growing up.. my Paternal grandparents were very much part of our lives.. we saw them on a very regular basis and my granny would visit us every Wednesday without fail

My maternal grandmother was really out of the picture.. she wasn't at all maternal, and never came to visit.. so as far as we were concerned we only had one set of Grandparents..

soooo...... are you the favourite grandparent..of your grandchildren?,,, or do you feel the other grandparents get more than their fare share of attention from your grandchildren..or in fact your children..?

Do you get along with the other set of grandparents?
 

There are three sets of grandparents for our grandkids. My SIL's mother and her longtime partner are more of the fun/busy grandparents. They have chickens and horses and live on a river with lots of fun things to do. Lots of extended family around as they are all from the area so many cousins around and family gatherings. She is silly and fun and the kids love them as do we.
We are the more the quiet grandparents. Lots of baking, toys, reading, traditional stuff. Not any cousins around however this means they are always the stars of the show. We do movies, here and the theatre, go for ice cream, projects and crafts. They rest here and feel loved and cared for. Different but equal I would say.
They don't see the other grandparents as much but when they do they enjoy that time too.
 

Yes, I would say that I'm the FUN grandma/great-grandma to both the biological and non-biological ones. We do crazy things together and there's not much I say "no" to.

My granddaughter's other grandmother wasn't very involved with her upbringing and definitely wasn't "fun".

I share my great-granddaughters willingly with their step-grandmother, who love dearly. We are quite fond of each other. Their two "biological" grandmothers aren't extremely involved with them, one because of distance and the other because she just isn't the grandmotherly type.

As for my "step-ish" granddaughters (who I've been a grandmother to since their births), once I got the chance to become acquainted with his ex-wife, I got along with her very well. We spend a lot of time yacking at family get-togethers and regret that for years, family events were either attended by him or her, but not both. They still can't stand each other, but I actually like her. She has expressed her gratitude to me for how much I love the girls.
 
we are the favorites we try to go about once a month as we live 5 hours away .... the other grands live 10 minutes away and cannot be bothered...
WE do fun items with them and play silly games .... the other set just buys cheap toys and ask them same questions about school etc.....

other other kids spouse told us if they had kids we would be the fun ones since his parents were to stuffy to play in leaves or snowball or water gun fights etc.
 
Jeni said:
we are the favorites we try to go about once a month as we live 5 hours away .... the other grands live 10 minutes away and cannot be bothered...
WE do fun items with them and play silly games .... the other set just buys cheap toys and ask them same questions about school etc.....

other other kids spouse told us if they had kids we would be the fun ones since his parents were to stuffy to play in leaves or snowball or water gun fights etc.
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Wow... once a month a 5 hour journey ?... that really is dedication .. and love... 😊
 
My ex daughter in law says I am more of a mother to her than her own MOM. My daughter's MIL is more on the cold side, I get along with both Grandparents. My grandchildren don't see their other Grandparents often. My having grandparents was different. My Moms Mother died when I was 5yrs old and my Dads Mother hated me and my brother sister and my Mom.
 
I'm probably the favorite grandmother. I know I'm considered the cool, fun grandmother. They love that I can talk to them about things concerning their generation and provide interesting information about things that happened in the past. My two youngest really don't like their grandmother because she's always so negative and harps on them in ways that make them feel bad about themselves, so they avoid her whenever possible. I don't think she's mean spirited, that's just the way she is. We started out not liking each other, but now we love each other, therefore get along great.

My two oldest grandson's lost their other grandmother, whom I'm sure they loved dearly, earlier this year. She and I always got along well too.
My oldest grandson listed me as one of his influences in his high school yearbook (17 years ago). We've always had a special bond since he was a toddler. My middle grandson has a very tenuous relationship with his grandmother, but still lives with her. She and I are cordial. My grandchildren never knew their biological grandfather (my first husband) and considered my second husband, whom they all liked, their grandfather.
 
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I believe I am. The grands see more of me than their other grandparents for a number of reasons. One is dead. Another is a drug addict. The third promised a lot but has delivered little. So, I guess I win by default.
 

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