@PeppermintPatty,
The community is now all built out. They had different size lots available as well as different locations (facing the woods, near the social hall, facing the water, etc)
It does feel like living in a single family home. We do have strict rules regarding the architecture and landscaping. We are a gated community and we also have a neighborhood watch. It is safe and I feel very safe living here.
The community is very quiet. No, I do not hear them. Neighbors are very friendly. We help each other out and watch for each other, but at the same time we respect each other's privacy and independence. It is a good balance. There are a lot of sports, activities and clubs, if you choose to participate. I have been living here 10 years already. We moved twice within the community. The first house we bought was new but a little too small, so we decided to have a larger one built to our specification. The construction is very good quality (which is not always the case in Florida!)
You would be surprised but people, even in an advanced age, move a lot around here!
If you consider this type of community, I would recommend that you look at all the documents and the financials. Look at the different forums as well. Most of them have their own forum or chat on nextdoor.com. It will give you a good idea of the community.
My only complaint here is the growth surrounding us . They are building a lot and traffic is becoming a serious problem but everything is near by which helps.
If you are considering Florida, make sure you can obtain property insurance. It is getting difficult to find and the premiums are presently very high.
We have been in Florida for a very long time and lived in different parts of the state, so feel free to ask any question you might have. I hope this answer some of them.