As long as there is someone to blame, you don't have to take responsibility for anything!

[Aunt Bea]

Who could be at fault in a world where everyone gets a trophy and a cookie for just showing up?

 

[Pepper]

It's for Participation, something that needs encouragement.

 

[Remy]

All of the above is very interesting…I usually blame the weather for just about everything..seriously though..it annoys me no end ..every time I read of a serial killer..seems the mother is to blame….

I don't know if you get Investigation Discovery (ID) channel in Canada, but Deadly Women is just wow.

 

[Geezer Garage]

Life is always going to be somewhat sour, and disappointing, until you realize that in one form or another you are responsible for everything that comes your way, good, and bad. Mike

 

[feywon]

It could be a learned behavior like from one's upbringing. I believe that's where most behavior originates. Someone did it and someone learned it by example.

It takes some real undoing to change it. Someone needs to be aware of the behavior if it's a problem and take steps to try a better behavior. It's possible.

Also, children can be taught responsibility, taught that words and actions generate responses/results, when the result is unpleasant we call it a consequence. So think before acting as well as speaking.

My DAD taught us to ge responsible people. Sometimes i've been over responsible. Other times I've broken rules (familial, societal) with full awareness of potential consequences but because i felt it was worth it. I've gone to supervisors on jobs and owned a procedural mistake and asking for advice on how to fix it.

 

[feywon]

The trouble is that often someone will blame another person who isn't actually responsible. I have a neighbour like that at the moment. I mentioned something to her and she immediately said,' That will be so-and-so'. I believed her until I asked the person concerned and he knew nothing about it. I'm wondering now if she has blamed me for something which I didn't do!

Worse yet is my relative who will often blame others for things the could not have been responsible for, like the weather. She talks incessently even when driving. If she misses a turn she will blame the passenger she's talking to, but if you pipe up and remind her she gets angry and says you must think she's stupid. That is particularly annoying for me because being put in double bind situations where there is no way to come out unscathed by another's wrath are triggering for me.

Knowing there is a horrible trauma at the base of her need to blame doesn't make it much easier since she won't address the problem fully. Part of why our relationship flourishes inversely to the distance between us.