Asking someone about their weekend? What does i tmean?

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If you ask a friend or acquaintance what he or she is doing on the weekend or other days,
what does that imply? Does it imply that you wish to join them or do something together then?

Because when I ask acquaintances that I am just making conversation or I am curious.

I wonder if they are thinking that I want to get together? If a man asks a lady or girl that question

then it assumed that he is asking for a date or is at least flirting. Am I correct? This could cause big
misunderstandings, especially if the people are married to other people. It looks like you are
trying to butt in.
Maybe the best option is ask only after the weekend?
 

QuickSilver said:
"any plans for the weekend?" Just making conversation IMO... nothing else
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That's how it was where I worked also. At the end of the day we'd joke and talk about how the work day went. And we'd talk about what we're all doing for the weekend and be looking forward to it.

Sad though, just before I retired it had really changed. Now at the end of the work day most of the guys just sat there silent, staring into their cell phones.
 
My supervisor used to ask that question a lot, I never thought much of it. My weekends often consisted of housework, kids, grocery shopping, yard work, looking in on our mothers and helping them when they needed something. Lucky when I had chance to just sit down! I think most people can detect a tone whether or not someone asks for other reason than general conversation. When someone asked "how was your weekend?" I always said "busy, but good!"
 
I did work for one cranky old lawyer once who, when asked about plans for the weekend, it was a prelude to his telling you you had to work Saturday -- I learned that whenever he asked, I'd better have rock solid plans, so I'd frequently make them up. Well, after my audience with the Pope, I'll be going to . . . .
 
Well, I think if you are talking to co workers or mere acquaintances then it is chit chat. If you are talking to a friend
or family member or GF or BF or anyone with a romantic interest, then they will probably assume that you want to
get together--make a date. Even if you don't. Definitely if it ,looks like you are trying to meet someone of the opposite gender.
 
horseless carriage said:
Well since you asked we are going to an event at a heritage railway, called, War on the Line. Lots of vintage fashions, Big Bands and a general wallow in yesteryear.
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And the weekend after that, we shall be at another nostalgia event when we get dressed up and take the old MG to Poole Goes Vintage.
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This thread is 8 Years old..... :eek:

HC ..I've literally just got back from Poole ... and it was freezing on the Quay. People had their coats on... It had been raining for 2 days.. then it dried up.. -but everything looked wet, and kinda dull even tho' the sun was out..on the Quay... . The wind howled along the Quay.. tbh... very cold... however when the wind dropped the sun made everything look a little better. However I drove over to Weymouth.. and incredibly on the same day.. Weymouth looked like the Costa del Sol weather wise.. beautiful, hot, sunny... glorious blue/green sea... Poole OTOH water was Steel Gray ... and as you know is only an hour along the coast... I couldn't believe my eyes at the difference.

I'll post photos on the Photo forums later..
 
@horseless carriage I was just thinking. Do you remember Terry who used to post here on the forum, who lived in St Petersburg ?.. His daughter & S-i-l.. attend these 40's do's.. regularly, I think you may have come across them at one stage. They have a mobile 40's style bar which they take from event to event.. as they dress up in period costume
 
hollydolly said:
This thread is 8 Years old..... :eek:

HC ..I've literally just got back from Poole ... and it was freezing on the Quay. People had their coats on... It had been raining for 2 days.. then it dried up.. -but everything looked wet, and kinda dull even tho' the sun was out..on the Quay... . The wind howled along the Quay.. tbh... very cold... however when the wind dropped the sun made everything look a little better. However I drove over to Weymouth.. and incredibly on the same day.. Weymouth looked like the Costa del Sol weather wise.. beautiful, hot, sunny... glorious blue/green sea... Poole OTOH water was Steel Gray ... and as you know is only an hour along the coast... I couldn't believe my eyes at the difference.

I'll post photos on the Photo forums later..
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The weather difference is a curious phenomenon stranger still, you don't have to go as far as Weymouth to experience the difference just look across the bay to Sandbanks. Holly, I know it's an old thread, what's the general practice? Is it to start a new one?
 
horseless carriage said:
The weather difference is a curious phenomenon stranger still, you don't have to go as far as Weymouth to experience the difference just look across the bay to Sandbanks. Holly, I know it's an old thread, what's the general practice? Is it to start a new one?
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start a new one... (y)

Actually tbh HC...Sandbanks didn't impress me ...
 
hollydolly said:
This thread is 8 Years old..... :eek:

HC ..I've literally just got back from Poole ... and it was freezing on the Quay. People had their coats on... It had been raining for 2 days.. then it dried up.. -but everything looked wet, and kinda dull even tho' the sun was out..on the Quay... . The wind howled along the Quay.. tbh... very cold.
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Come on down this Sunday Holly, you won't need your hat and coat, although an umbrella might be useful first thing. The forecast is for a chance of showers first thing then a bright sunny day day with temperatures at 77f, might even touch 80. Here's a few pics from past events.
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HC..with all the will in the world.. I am not driving back down for over 3 hours to the Quay where there will be no available parking either.. just to see a few 40's frocks..lol.... ...and plus the temps here are gonna be even hotter at 85 F:D
 
Many, many years ago a friend asked this question. I said I didn’t know and she asked if I could babysit her three small kids. DH didn’t want anything to do with that and neither did I because of the way she asked it.
 
Oh, yeah....when the Spousal Equivalent's daughter-in-law would message me, "What are you doing this weekend?" I always knew it didn't mean, "You guys want to come over for a cookout?" or "Want to go out on the boat?" but rather, "Can you babysit?"

I was always delighted to spend time with the Littles, but it would have been nice occasionally to be the other.....
 
Jules said:
Many, many years ago a friend asked this question. I said I didn’t know and she asked if I could babysit her three small kids. DH didn’t want anything to do with that and neither did I because of the way she asked it.
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I had a friend (actually, more than one) who did this to me a lot when we lived in Nevada. She'd always phrase the question vaguely, like "What are you doing this afternoon?" and then hit me up to watch her kids. I should have set firmer boundaries, so I'm partly to blame. When I told her I had to work, she'd reply, "The kids can play while you work!" Yeah, it doesn't work that way. I started responding to her "What are you doing" queries with "Why do you ask?"

Sorry if I've gone a bit off topic.
 

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