Attitude

911

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I am sorry to tell you this story. It may make you change your judgment of me. Last night at 2 am, my wife wakes me up and said she wanted to go to the emergency room. I knew she was suffering from a UTI for a few days and called the doctor yesterday, but never got a call back. Finally, she called the office’s service and he called just before 2 am. He told her to go to the emergency room. We had been at our granddaughter’s graduation last night, so we were both tired.

I thought to myself, “Oh no. Here we go. I’m going to be out there all night.” We got there at 2:35 am and she was taken into an exam room right away. She was in a really bad way because my wife never complains about pain, unless it’s for real. I couldn’t believe we got instant attention. I’m like, “Hey, this is good.” Once she was settled into the room, here comes the Doc. Again, I’m thinking, “Wow, this is really going great.” He said they were going to draw some blood, send her out for a CT scan and give her a drip of an antibiotic and one drip of a pain med. “Ok. keep it going.” It took about 20 minutes to hook everything up and maybe another 15 minutes to take her down to the CT room and bring her back. This is when time came to a stop.

One hour goes away, two hours goes away, on the third hour, I had it. I rang for the doctor and when he came in I asked him if he forgot about us. He said he hadn’t, but was waiting for the report from the CT scan to come back. I told my wife I will be back. I nosed around until I found the lab and I asked the young doctor if they had my wife’s CT scan worked up so he could send it over to our doctor. He starts giving me this “What are you doing in here? How did you get back here?” And so on.

I told him I was a retired cop and knew my way around hospitals. He pissed me off when he said he wasn’t impressed. I told him we had been sitting out there for 3 hours for you to read a piece if film, dictate your message into the machine and fax it across the hallway. What are we talking here, 15 minutes? If you don’t mind, I would like to go home and get back in bed, but before I can do that, I need you to do a little damn work. What do you say? He told me to leave or he would call security. I said, “Oh, you mean that little 24 year-old kid that goes about 5 feet 4 inches? You gotta’’ be kidding, but I’m leaving.

Fifteen minutes later, we were leaving the hospital. I told my wife just awhile ago, “I acted like a jerk. I will have to go back in their tonight and apologize, which I will do.” I told my wife my attitude broke down. It just happens now and again. I could have handled that better, but I didn’t. I allowed my attitude to take over. BTW, the doctor said coming in was a wise decision. Her white cell count was over 1400, (I guess that’s bad) so he thought she probably had really bad pain.
 

I allowed my attitude to take over. BTW, the doctor said coming in was a wise decision. Her white cell count was over 1400, (I guess that’s bad) so he thought she probably had really bad pain.
Whoa, you sir, are a force to be reckoned with! 😱🙀 (I trust you know I'm teasing with ya!) But seriously, yeah, an apology would be gracious, but I think the lil' snot was out of line when he said "I'm not impressed" too... probably said it with a sarcastic tone... I can almost hear it. Anyhow, I hope Mrs. 911 feels better real soon! @911
 

It takes a strong man to confess what he considers wrongdoing to all on a public forum.
You were doing what you felt was right at the time and that's all one can do.
I'm sure you were worried sick about your wife.
It's in the past. Let it go. When life becomes stressful and overwhelming, all one can do
is meet it with determination and dignity. From what I know of you, this is what you do.
I've always thought of you as a man of honor and this story has not changed that.
I sure hope your wife recovers and is well.
 
It's a lot of hurry up and wait in hospitals. They don't take into consideration that you're waiting on pins and needles for the test results. Not to mention, they have no consideration for your time. Unfortunately, we are at their mercy. If you cause a scene, you're likely to end up at the bottom of the pile instead of getting the result you're after.

It's admirable that you realize you went off the deep end and are willing to apologize. I hope your wife gets well soon.
 
I've been in that position more than once, waiting hours and hours to be seen. Even into the next day. I told
my husband to go home and get some sleep. I wasn't released until around noon.

Lab techs are working constantly to analyze bloodwork, etc. from patients that are pre/post-op, and basically everyone who is in a ward.

Unless it's dire, the walk-in patients have to unfortunately be in a queue.

@911 .. I hope all is well with your wife.
 
The only time I threw a hissy-fit at a hospital was when my mom was in getting her hip replaced 30 years ago.

She didn't have a catheter and needed to use the bedpan. We buzzed and buzzed for a nurse and I finally went down to the nursing station. They said they were short on bedpans and they'd "try" to find one. About 20 minutes later, a nurse walks in, hands me the bedpan and starts to leave.

I said, "Wait, aren't you going to put her on it?" "Just lift her up and slide it in," she says.

Yeah, I, having no nursing training at all, am going to lift up a woman who's one day off a hip replacement. I had no idea HOW I was supposed to lift her. By the legs? By the back? God forbid, by the hips?

Sighing, she put my mom on the bedpan and then it took almost two hours to get someone to come back and take it out. By then, it had leaked, my mom was in pain and the bed was wet. I threw a hissy until someone came. I don't mean I screamed at anyone, but I did speak "sternly" and didn't give up until they came.

This is why we don't leave family members alone in the hospital if they're helpless. Someone is there 24 hours a day.
 
Many times I had to advocate for my father in the emergency room. There were times when I would stand out in the hallway and flag doctors and nurses down just to get their attention to help my dad. I would be patient the first hour waiting on the test to return. But after that, I would start asking questions and standing in the hallway until I got the answers. I would do anything to help relieve his suffering and to get home.

I respect doctors and nurses and other health care persons. But I also saw at times them standing around chatting about what they were going to have for lunch etc. and my dad is in the emergency room bed in great pain. I kept just being persistent until they helped my dad.
 
Hospitals can make you go crazy. I had the same reaction when my mother was released from the hospital and it took hours for someone to send up a wheelchair. It is nerve-wracking and I can understand your response.

I'm just curious though, since my mother had UTIs and I have had them as well, why her doctor couldn't just prescribe an antibiotic so she wouldn't have reached the stage where she needed to go to the hospital? From my experience, UTI symptoms start pretty early on and can be treated pretty quickly. Why the wait?
 
Whoa, you sir, are a force to be reckoned with! 😱🙀 (I trust you know I'm teasing with ya!) But seriously, yeah, an apology would be gracious, but I think the lil' snot was out of line when he said "I'm not impressed" too... probably said it with a sarcastic tone... I can almost hear it. Anyhow, I hope Mrs. 911 feels better real soon! @911
I did as I said I would. I returned the next night and apologized and left. No need for a conversation.
 
Don't beat yourself up over it. These hospitals are a mess. Many who work there are unprofessional and they treat people like products. Sometimes you can only take so much. I admire you for not just sitting there. Like they want you to do of course.
 
A lot of the treatment and waiting time you experience in a hospital ER waiting room can depend on the time of day and the simple luck of the draw. Several years ago, my significant other asked to go to the ER due to severe sciatic pain. We arrived in the middle of the night and the ER waiting room was filled with druggies, sports injuries, pregnant women, and of course those people whose only source of medical care of any type is the ER. We waited for three hours before she saw a doctor as she wasn’t unresponsive or bleeding out onto the carpet.

This soured me to ER’s for some time, but during a recent health crisis of my own, my regular doc couldn’t see me, and an urgent care facility that couldn‘t help me sent me to the ER. “Oh boy, here we go again!,” I thought.

But the waiting room was almost empty, and I was seen and treated promptly, all because they weren’t overwhelmed at that time. So where ER’s are concerned, one’s experience may vary for factors beyond your control…
 
I think many a time my attitude has broke and i said a few things that on second thought may have been better left unsaid...... but in the case of a loved one or even your self ........in pain or maybe getting worse..........
sometimes you have to be the one to speak up ...... and that includes lighting a fire under someones behind now and again
i dont know if you ever got around to apologize but if you did ....i wonder if person sees he could have done things differently as well....
 
@911 I would have done the same, both the demands for attention and the apology afterwards.

For those of us who have to head to the emergency room, it’s an urgent and often frightening experience. For those who staff and work in the emergency room, it’s just another day on the job. Those two different perspectives often war with each other and create tension and conflict.

Yoy got your wife the attention she needed. You apologized for your attitude. I’d say you handled the situation well overall.
 
@911 I would have done the same, both the demands for attention and the apology afterwards.

For those of us who have to head to the emergency room, it’s an urgent and often frightening experience. For those who staff and work in the emergency room, it’s just another day on the job. Those two different perspectives often war with each other and create tension and conflict.

Yoy got your wife the attention she needed. You apologized for your attitude. I’d say you handled the situation well overall.
I agree, but I felt like crap until I was able to apologize.
 
Relax.

Sometimes you need a little 'attitude' to get the wheel turning within the Health Care System. I've blown my stack a couple of times at the Hospital being an advocate for my children. You have to. Doctors and Nurses can become so inured that people just represent numbers to them. It's not really their fault...just collateral damage that comes with the job.

Don't apologize. You took the right tack. Your wife was in pain and you stood up for her. Well done.
 
When my daughter was a few moths old she was turning blue and shaking in my arms after eating.

I took her to Emergency and the doctor told me she would be fine and to take her home.

Me: "I'm NOT taking my daughter home so she can die in my arms. She's staying here until this matter is resolved!"

The female head doctor trumped the one I was talking to and they kept her for a week in the Hospital until the issue was resolved.
 
My Wife and I have come to realize that EVERY room in the hospital, is a WAITING room!
Jerry Seinfeld once said when you walk into a doctor's office, you sit in a big waiting room and wait to be called back to the smaller waiting room where the doctor comes in at some point.
 


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