Don't think of it as guilt, you would be there if you could. So often it is not a matter of choice, it is just a fact of life. They now you love and adore them.
My little grandson lived here, in my home since he was about two. My son started dating his Mom when he was about six months old. My son thought I would not be happy about him dating a girl with a child. I told him, that is not a problem but this is different, this is not about having a good time, not thinking about what you do has no consequences. There is a child involved.
So now I am a Grandma that comes with all the joy. I get to have that little boy bake cookies and home made pizza, curl and watch movies until he falls asleep. I get to feel him go limp, the soft gentle breathing that lets us know they are happy, safe, there is no worry. Grandma or Auntie is going to make pancakes, waffles, biscuits and gravy, muffins, all their favorites because that is what we do.
I know they are in a town not close but close enough to have them come for a viist for a weekend or maybe a week in the summer. I know you will make great memories!!
