grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
You may have read the sister thread to this one, but here the focus is upon another set of "awkward questions", not those posed by children this time, but ones you might wish to pose to children whose parents have divorced/separated.
Here is something of a list:
1). Is it okay to reject one of your parents (who has loved you), simply because the parent you live with wishes you to do so?
2). Do you think your interests should trump the interests of one of at least your parents all the time?
3). Are you being brought up to believe you should put your own interests above everyone else's all the time?
4). Have you ever loved the parent you say you hate now?
5). Do you expect to tell the world how you should be brought up, or should those who loved you as much as they could when they cared for you, try their best to guide you as you grow up, (this question assumes you don't think you think you're grown up aged twelve!)?
6). Do you think it matters how many children have no contact with their father/non resident parent?
7). Do you aspire to be a good person above all else, or a successful person, (no matter what this takes?)?
I'll leave the list there for now, but feel free to come up with more awkward questions a child who may be acting in an ungrateful way might be asked.
I acknowledge though, some of these questions might be better posed to children over the age of twelve, but that's the age our UK courts have chosen as old enough to ask a child whether they love their non resident parent, and "have their views listened to and taken seriously", (thus informing the courts decision as to what might be in their best interests, which as you might know, " Is no less a question than the meaning of life", according to Mnookin).
Here is something of a list:
1). Is it okay to reject one of your parents (who has loved you), simply because the parent you live with wishes you to do so?
2). Do you think your interests should trump the interests of one of at least your parents all the time?
3). Are you being brought up to believe you should put your own interests above everyone else's all the time?
4). Have you ever loved the parent you say you hate now?
5). Do you expect to tell the world how you should be brought up, or should those who loved you as much as they could when they cared for you, try their best to guide you as you grow up, (this question assumes you don't think you think you're grown up aged twelve!)?
6). Do you think it matters how many children have no contact with their father/non resident parent?
7). Do you aspire to be a good person above all else, or a successful person, (no matter what this takes?)?
I'll leave the list there for now, but feel free to come up with more awkward questions a child who may be acting in an ungrateful way might be asked.
I acknowledge though, some of these questions might be better posed to children over the age of twelve, but that's the age our UK courts have chosen as old enough to ask a child whether they love their non resident parent, and "have their views listened to and taken seriously", (thus informing the courts decision as to what might be in their best interests, which as you might know, " Is no less a question than the meaning of life", according to Mnookin).