Bad sign that girlfriend has Dementia.

Kika said:
@Robert59 - Has your girlfriend seen her doctor recently? You mentioned that she has bipolar disease. Sometimes changes in behavior could be a reaction to a medication. Or medication doses are missed or taken too frequently. Can she see her doctor with you so you can explain what you have experienced? If you feel her doctor is not responsive to any concerns, maybe it is time for a second opinion.
I really feel bad for all you are going through. This is not easy at all. Has she appointed a Health Care Proxy? That would take effect if she could no longer make her own decisions for her health care.
Click to expand...
Just came out of a mental hospital 3 days ago worse then she went in 14 days. They took all her working medicine's away.
 

Robert59 said:
Right now she is laying in her bed curse bad words for no reason. I ask her whats wrong and she don't
know why.
Click to expand...
Cursing for no read and not knowing why may be a symptom of dementia. There was a woman in a nursing home where my mother was who sat at the table and just spewed curse words. Read through this article and see if she's having any of the symptoms they mention. They do distinguish between cognitive decline due to normal aging versus dementia.
https://www.dementia.org/symptoms
 
Her mental doctor called me and said her doctor wants to put her in a nursing home now because of her dementia but seams to having problem finding one because she only make's like 1200.00 a month from Social Security. She lives with me now for free rent and only pays half electric and water, sewer, property taxes, house insurance.
 

katlupe said:
One thing I caught with someone who I thought was showing signs of it was that she knows what she wants to say but cannot think of the name of who or what she is talking about. At first it was a very slight thing, like when anyone forgets a name of something. Then it became worse, like not knowing the word for the elevator and will say "you know, the thing." She is now on medication for it but it is still very apparent. Her doctor called it "onset dementia" and this is all that is wrong with her. Otherwise she appeared to be in good health for her age of 75.

I certainly hope your girlfriend does not have it. Maybe just having trouble with the physical part of the bath.
Click to expand...
I'm glad that you referred to this person as "she". If not I might think you'd been talking to me. 😩
 
Robert59 said:
Her mental doctor called me and said her doctor wants to put her in a nursing home now because of her dementia but seams to having problem finding one because she only make's like 1200.00 a month from Social Security. She lives with me now for free rent and only pays half electric and water, sewer, property taxes, house insurance.
Click to expand...
I'm sorry to hear that Robert, thinking of you and wishing the best for you both. Please let us know how things are going with her.
 
Robert59 said:
This is the day I didn't want to see come. She been with me for almost seven years and now she's leaving. 😕
Click to expand...
Robert, have you thought of getting a power of attorney for her health care? You know, like being a caregiver and making decisions for her? I think it would be good for you to be able to speak for her when she can't speak for herself. Especially if the family is not helping her. Just a thought.
 
Robert, it sounds like things may be getting a bit dangerous for her. I am sorry if I;m over reacting. My thought is for some kind of intervention.

As others suggest, meds might need to be changed and certainly a second opinion. This woman needs professional help and you need some support!!
 
Robert59 said:
Her psychiatrist contacted me just a few days ago to put her in a nursing home of some kind next week. She now scream and she says burning up with heat. Her room only 69 degree's.
Click to expand...
I would suggest getting her checked out by a doctor — there may be something physical going on. Or maybe it's meds. In any case, it would be good to find out.
 
I would really take all this into counseling. If she won't get into counseling, just do it for yourself. You can then brainstorm with the therapist about the best way to help her.
 
re getting in and out of a bath. Getting in and out of a bath is a great deal of muscular work. It is easily as hard as doing push-ups.

Many of us can't manage that anymore.

There are walk-in showers and walk-in tubs, that are constructed for people with difficulties. Much, much better.
 
I am sorry to see this Robert. It sounds like she needs more care than what you can give her. The fact that she signed herself in is that she knows she needs to do this. Just be supportive of her and then try to take care of yourself now. I hope she gets the help she needs.
 
Robert, with all the love in my heart, I need you to know how simple and ample hospice care is. They will take care of your beloved in an exexemplorry and loving way. Your hospice is set up for this particular situation. You can still give your care and love to her daily. They are there to help you in this journey.
 

You must log in or register to reply here.

Back
Top