dseag2
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I will say that I tend to look for the best in people, although I always look for "hidden agendas".
Based on your past life experiences, do you tend to trust people or be leery of their motives?
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ElCastor
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If I don't know the person well I consider the possibility of an agenda -- mostly depending on the situation. Might be more trusting of hardware store advice on the best glue than I would be on a car salesman's advice on the best car. (-8
hollydolly
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I've been burned once too often by being too trusting of people.... 
Aunt Bea
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IMO it's too heavy a burden for most people to handle.
Over the years, I've seen good people do terrible things when given too much trust.
"Don’t blame people for disappointing you, blame yourself for expecting too much from them." - Unknown
Over the years, I've seen good people do terrible things when given too much trust.
"Don’t blame people for disappointing you, blame yourself for expecting too much from them." - Unknown
Murrmurr
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I don't trust anyone right off the bat, but I'm friendly to everyone. A big smile and a chipper "How ya doin'?" almost always gets a friendly response.
Alice November
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I have narrowly escaped being murdered a few times, so no, now I trust no one completely.
I found that it is difficult to see some people's motives.
Humans are capable of all sort of creepy things and violence.
Take heart in the goodness around you, the beauty, and please take care of yourselves everyone.
I found that it is difficult to see some people's motives.
Humans are capable of all sort of creepy things and violence.
Take heart in the goodness around you, the beauty, and please take care of yourselves everyone.
I have been snookered by "friends" to many times. But I still look for the best in people. after a life time of working as a carpenter an old timer once told me, "never work for friends or family or fifty miles close to home." wise advise. now I am an old timer and tell the young workers the same thing.
Victor
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- midwest USA
Trust no one. No one is totally reliable especially if it is personal Everyone seeks their own self interest first. It is human nature. That does not mean selfish or conceited. This view is called psychological egoism
WheatenLover
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- Georgia
I don't trust people unless I've been acquainted with them for a long time, and have observed their behavior and listened to their words. At the moment I don't trust anyone IRL, except my doctors, who have proven themselves over and over.
I start out trusting, although less than I did when I was younger. I usually see any red flags if they pop up, and pay attention to them.
officerripley
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- Porlock, Calif
I don't know that many people and no opportunities to meet any.
Verisure
Senior Member
Me too. I generally evaluate people by how they say what they say .... rather than the content of what they say.I've been burned once too often by being too trusting of people....
feywon
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As other's have said---because it's basic common sense:
It depends--on context, on how well i know them, on whether they have a vested interest in my making a certain choice. With people i've known awhile whether in 3D world or online i have to see some consistencies between words and behaviors.
Have known a few chronic, one pathological liar..so i'm kind of sensitive to signs of possible lying.
While i respect a person who can change their opinions about societal issues, matters of science, history or politics when presented with new verifiable facts, thanks to DH #3 i'm highly suspicious if people change their opinions on matters of 'taste' (any art form, hair and clothing styles) to conform to mine rather than simply acknowledge i'm not saying something is 'bad' it is just not right for me. If one minute they're gung ho about something, but after i decline the fashion or activity for me they start being hypercritical of it---i figure they're trying to ingratiate themselves. (Tho that doesn't happen as much now that i'm an old lady--it might if i were thought to be 'rich'.)
i tend to give everyone a baseline 'fellow human' respect and like @Murrmurr am friendly to most everyone.
It depends--on context, on how well i know them, on whether they have a vested interest in my making a certain choice. With people i've known awhile whether in 3D world or online i have to see some consistencies between words and behaviors.
Have known a few chronic, one pathological liar..so i'm kind of sensitive to signs of possible lying.
While i respect a person who can change their opinions about societal issues, matters of science, history or politics when presented with new verifiable facts, thanks to DH #3 i'm highly suspicious if people change their opinions on matters of 'taste' (any art form, hair and clothing styles) to conform to mine rather than simply acknowledge i'm not saying something is 'bad' it is just not right for me. If one minute they're gung ho about something, but after i decline the fashion or activity for me they start being hypercritical of it---i figure they're trying to ingratiate themselves. (Tho that doesn't happen as much now that i'm an old lady--it might if i were thought to be 'rich'.)
i tend to give everyone a baseline 'fellow human' respect and like @Murrmurr am friendly to most everyone.
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Alligatorob
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I trust most people and have only rarely been burned. I start trusting and look for signs not to, usually I see none.
I think most people are relatively honest and appreciate being trusted. If a person believes you trust them I think it makes them want to be more trustworthy. Exceptions to all this of course, but fortunately in my experience its a small minority.
I think most people are relatively honest and appreciate being trusted. If a person believes you trust them I think it makes them want to be more trustworthy. Exceptions to all this of course, but fortunately in my experience its a small minority.
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RadishRose
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For the most part of my life I've been very trusting; even gullible.
Although my first instincts are to trust, even now, I've learned to be a little bit more discerning.
Although my first instincts are to trust, even now, I've learned to be a little bit more discerning.
Don M.
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- central Missouri
I generally trust most people. However, I am always a bit "watchful" when any home or auto repairs are needed. There are far too many repairmen and contractors out there who are more than willing to take advantage of people who may not have any knowledge about such matters.
Irwin
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- Denver, Colorado, U.S.A.
I certainly don't trust auto repair shops. My CR-V is in dire need of new struts, but because of past bad experiences, I'm really reluctant to bring it in. I don't have the facilities to do it myself or I would.
Generally, I try to avoid people at all costs. They're not worth the trouble.
Generally, I try to avoid people at all costs. They're not worth the trouble.
Alligatorob
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I trust all sales people to do their jobs, try to sell something to me.
I know its my responsibility to decide wisely, not theirs's.
I have narrowly escaped being murdered a few times, so no, now I trust no one completely.
I found that it is difficult to see some people's motives.
Humans are capable of all sort of creepy things and violence.
Take heart in the goodness around you, the beauty, and please take care of yourselves everyone.
Verisure
Senior Member
This is particularly devastating in a relationship. If you know that your spouse has lied about .... oh, I don't know .... the price of a purchase for example, then how do you know if he/she isn't cheating on you rather than "Just going to the gym for a couple of hours."? Lying is poison.
