Can a guy be too good looking?

[Brookswood]

I’ve always wondered why a single, balding, nerdy looking guy like usually does not have to wait too long when seeking female companionship. After all, I’m not rich. And I’m not famous. Nobody will confuse me for a Cary Grant or Sean Connery lookalike.

According to a recent article the above blandness is what the women want. I thought it was my personality, and the feeling of safety my gentlemanly behavior induced in them, that had the ladies lining up at my front door with invitations to spend the evening watching an somewhat naughty RomCom on Netflix. Not at all!

From this article.

When I first told my lovely wife, Cassandra, about my plans to proto-looksmax 11 years ago, she said, “Oh, great. Now I have to get in shape.” I had been expecting something more along the lines of “Can I help by incentivizing you with sex?” or “Let’s work out right now on this bed!”

Instead, as soon as I started to get a tiny bit of muscle definition, Cassandra became self-conscious, insisting on turning the lights off during sex. Which was also sud-denly less often. “This has reallybackfired on you,” she told me.

“Part of her is hedging her bets that one day I’ll be fat again, and she’ll say, ‘Remember, honey, I always told you I preferred you this way.’ ”

So pass me another milkshake and slice of pie. I’ll sell the weights and rowing machine.

 

[OldFeller]

After a certain age, women aren't so picky.

Any guy who projects an openness is fair game.

My father described meeting my mother in a bar. "I dominated the conversation and that was all it took."

The women will "grease the skids" from there.

It's just common sense.

 

[Jules]

My younger daughter said she’d never again be with a man who is too good looking. They attract other women, even if they don’t mean to.

 

[OldOld]

Women don't behave like men. To most women, there many factors about men far more important than the appearances

 

[Nathan]

My younger daughter said she’d never again be with a man who is too good looking. They attract other women, even if they don’t mean to.

Same thing with women, my ex was very attractive, she was just too much woman for any one man...

 

[Pinky]

One of my ex's was a very handsome guy - if we were at a club, when I went to the Lady's room, women would hit on him. It turns out that he was going to clubs without me. A mutual friend told me this after I broke off the relationship. So glad I dumped him. He actually propositioned me after we broke up. Bloody nerve.

 

[Gardenlover]

Beauty is a curse in its own right, the other side of the coin to riches. Sadly some of us are cursed with both.

 

[MarciKS]

LOL @ the subject

While I love an extremely handsome man, few come without being arrogant because of it. Or they're pretty and that's all they have going for them.

If I were to look for another I'd settle for cute, smart and sweet.

 

[Sunkist]

After a certain age, women aren't so picky.

Any guy who projects an openness is fair game.

My father described meeting my mother in a bar. "I dominated the conversation and that was all it took."

The women will "grease the skids" from there.

It's just common sense.

You don't know much about women, do you bud?!

 

[seadoug]

From my perspective, a major factor is being overlooked. That is how one feels inside. I was a chubby boy who was once called "fat butt" in junior high and knocked off my bicycle by neighborhood kids.

I went on a diet and went through puberty at the same time. I became a geeky "cute" guy in high school and I was considered attractive in my 30's and 40's but never really felt like it on the inside. I always had low self-esteem and still felt like that chubby kid. As a result, I was always grateful for any attention that was paid to me and was never the least bit arrogant. It allowed me to have some girlfriends that other guys wanted. I also met a handsome husband that has been with me for 35 years.

 

[Sunkist]

From my perspective, a major factor is being overlooked. That is how one feels inside. I was a chubby boy who was once called "fat butt" in junior high and knocked off my bicycle by neighborhood kids.

I went on a diet and went through puberty at the same time. I became a geeky "cute" guy in high school and I was considered attractive in my 30's and 40's but never felt like it. I always had low self-esteem and still felt like that chubby kid inside. As a result, I was always grateful for any attention that was paid to me and was never the least bit arrogant. It allowed me to have some great-looking girlfriends, and later, boyfriends and husband because I was always humble and it was more about the inside than outside for me.

I was never considered "too good-looking" because that is for people like Chris Hemsworth, but I'm sure even people like him still have internal issues to deal with.

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You guys make a good-looking couple!!!

 

[Aunt Bea]

 

[TeePee]

From my perspective, a major factor is being overlooked. That is how one feels inside. I was a chubby boy who was once called "fat butt" in junior high and knocked off my bicycle by neighborhood kids.

I went on a diet and went through puberty at the same time. I became a geeky "cute" guy in high school and I was considered attractive in my 30's and 40's but never really felt like it on the inside. I always had low self-esteem and still felt like that chubby kid. As a result, I was always grateful for any attention that was paid to me and was never the least bit arrogant. It allowed me to have some girlfriends that other guys wanted. I also met a handsome husband that has been with me for 35 years.

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Two nice looking guys!

 

[TeePee]

If you're attracted to someone who you connect with and to you they are beautiful on the inside, they will be beautiful on the outside. I think men look externally first and women tend to look more what's inside first. That's just my opinion.

 

[OldOld]

But still, there are good looking 65+ years old people(men or women), and there are ugly 65+ years old people.

 

[Messy]

Beauty is a curse in its own right, the other side of the coin to riches. Sadly some of us are cursed with both.

When I was 16 I went on a holiday with a friend and her parents. We were in a hotel in Germany. We went outside and there was an 18 year old guy who just looked like a superstar. He was insanely handsome. All these stupid girls swirling around him. And he was just really friendly and easy going.

 

[OneEyedDiva]

My younger daughter said she’d never again be with a man who is too good looking. They attract other women, even if they don’t mean to.

My second husband was an exceptionally handsome man. Even men would compliment him on how handsome he was. Women were trying to "get with him" all the time, even his daughters' friends! He did not like their aggressive, brazen behaviors at all. He told me that once he gave a woman a ride downtown, being the nice guy he was. Once in the car she started telling him what all she would do for and to him. He let her out before they reached the downtown area.

@OldFeller I don't know about the women you've met, but the ones I know got pickier once they go older. My niece's mother is in her 80's but still has the ability to attract men. A much younger man who was in the same nursing home as she is, was trying to court her. She didn't want to be bothered with him because his shoes were a turn off. Don't ask me what that means. Other women...if they had good husbands or S.O.s, any new man has to live up to that. If they didn't have such good relationships, they feel it's about time they do, so set the bar high.

 

[horseless carriage]

While the importance of physical attraction is subjective and varies from person to person, women seeking a partner, it is often a lower priority compared to inner qualities like character, personality, and trustworthiness. However, this does not mean physical attraction is completely irrelevant; rather, it often serves as an initial spark or a minimum baseline, which then grows or changes over time as emotional connection and compatibility become the foundation of the relationship.
Thankfully, I am blessed with confidence, even in my youth I never gave a thought as to whether I am physically attractive. There's a compliment that I have heard a few times and it still strokes my ego. My lady described me to her mother: "He's a fun guy."