Furryanimal
Y gath o Gymru
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Can men ever know what a woman wants?Don’t take this seriously.....
- Thread starter Furryanimal
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Do we really want them to? Viva la difference. Men and women are different...let's keep it that way. The thinking processes are different. Ideally, a man should get to know his partner and her likes and dislikes. If he chooses to ignore that, she needs to ask herself how much he really cares about her.
Fyrefox
Token fox furry
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- Pennsylvania, USA
Someone once told me that if women came with an instruction book, it would be written in Japanese. I know that this was a sexist and possibly racist remark, so please don’t kill me, I’m only the messenger…bada-BOOM! (Hits cymbal)
Ronni
The motormouth ;)
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- Nashville TN
My man does…..because I tell him all the time!
Betty Boop
Member
I think the best a man can do is try. I don't think anyone can read anyone else's mind as to what they are thinking or wanting.
When my husband was living I sure would give him plenty of hints here and there and he would get it pretty quickly. He knew how I worked.
When my husband was living I sure would give him plenty of hints here and there and he would get it pretty quickly. He knew how I worked.
oldaunt
professional hermit
There are some men who actually pay attention to something other than what THEY want, and quite often they can get it right. They are the blessed ones.....
Pappy
Living the Dream
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- Florida (transplanted New Yorker.)
Packerjohn
Packerjohn
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- Canada
Sure they can. All those men have to do is listen to what a woman is saying. Hard to do if the men are watching sports all day.
Timewise 60+
Senior Member
After 52 years of marriage, I can honestly say I know the answer to this ageless question. The answer is no, a man cannot ever know what a woman is thinking, that is because, most of the time the woman does not know what she is thinking!
Murrmurr
SF VIP
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- Sacramento, California
Two things have to happen:
1) she has to tell a guy what she wants (why is that so difficult?)
2) she has to stop saying "You know what your problem is?"
1) she has to tell a guy what she wants (why is that so difficult?)
2) she has to stop saying "You know what your problem is?"
oldaunt
professional hermit
Yeah, what I said......."There are some men who actually pay attention to something other than what THEY want,"
Alligatorob
SF VIP
I know that sometimes happen, but I don't know why its not the norm...
Alligatorob
SF VIP
Any thing wrong with liking both? Women are great company, usually without any physical relationship.
I like the women here, but am highly unlikely to ever meet them.
Betty Boop
Member
Communication, one of the major keys to a successful marriage.
Murrmurr
SF VIP
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- Sacramento, California
Yeah, my wife has no problem just coming right out with it, and that's great. But apparently she's one in a million.
oldaunt
professional hermit
That depends on what he is actually doing in the forest. Here, we often call it poaching......
JonSR77
Senior Member
So, basically, what you are saying is that if you found a purely innocent man, alone in the forest, you would accuse him of poaching, so that you could kill him?
That is the most powerful response I have ever heard to that joke!!
Usually people just say, "Yes! of course he is still wrong!"
But you want to murder him!!!
Remind me to never upset you!!!
Ronni
The motormouth ;)
- Location
- Nashville TN
Well there’s at least one more of us! That was kind of the point of my earlier response. I TELL Ron what I want. I don’t expect him to read my mind. I don’t expect that, just because he loves me, he should know.
I tell him things like “This (seasonal event) is important to me, so I’ll be disappointed if you don’t acknowledge it. But I don’t care about that (seasonal event) one” And “I have no problem if you don’t attend dance events with me but this one coming up is important to me and I’d like you at attend” Stuff like that.
I tell him what’s important and what’s not. What my favorite flowers are. The kind of thing I’d like for Christmas … I’ll even give him a very specific list if he wants it, just like I expect from my kids because even though we’re really close sometimes I have no clue.
I tell Ron when I’m upset, when he’s hurt my feelings, when I’m frustrated or annoyed with him. (We’re very compatible so it doesn’t happen much) I tell him when he’s done or said something that I find meaningful, that makes me happy, fills my heart, touches me.
And I expect exactly the same from him! He understands now, after a few false starts, that he will ALWAYS know exactly where he stands with me, because I will never hesitate to say. He is hugely relieved by this approach to our relationship! And after hearing about the kinds of guessing games he had to play with his ex, I understand his relief.
He’s never gonna have to guess with me because I will always say. And if it’s something he’s unclear about all he has to do is ask. I have never/will never tell him I’m fine if I’m not. He doesn’t get the silent treatment. I don’t make him sleep in the couch. I am as transparent and authentic as I know how to be.
Saves a LOT of time and turmoil!!