Can You Keep A Secret When You're Told Something Serious In Confidence?

SeaBreeze

SeaBreeze

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If somebody tells you something serious about themselves in confidence, can you keep that secret just between the two of you, and not tell anyone else? How about if you didn't get along with that person anymore, perhaps had a falling out over something petty....could/would you still keep their secret regardless?

I've been told a couple of things over the years in confidence, and have never repeated those things to anyone else. I can definitely keep a secret if someone tells me something personal that they don't want anyone else to know.

I know that some people just can't keep anything to themselves, and have a hard time keeping secrets about anything. How about you, can you keep a secret??
 

Yes, if told to me in confidence, I don't have a problem staying mum, though on the other hand, if you start telling me about where you buried the bodies, that might not be a confidence I am inclined to sit through the details without the FBI on the an open mike and with one foot near out the doorway. :eek:nthego:

But do make sure in any case, you let me know this conversation is between just the two of us.
 
Yes... I can keep quiet. I have to review medical charts and many times it's for employees I work with... I know LOTS and LOTS of things I NEVER talk about. OF course... it would get me fired if I did!! lol!!
 
Some people are like a leaky bucket. We had a guy who was a union-rep and could not keep confidences. He would leak to the first 5 people he met. I guess that makes some people feel important, but he went the way of that leaking bucket...replaced.

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I definitely can. I've had my confidences repeated before; makes me so disappointed in that person you confided in and disappointed in myself for trusting them. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you--fits that issue in my opinion.
 
I can but I am like April" if you do not want me to repeat something tell me so", and I will not tell a soul. However in conversation something might come up that I consider unimportant and if you haven't made it plain that it is a confidence I might inadvertenly say something. If that makes sense. Like Mrs. L might tell me something. And Mrs H. might call later and express the same opinion. Without giving it a second thought I might say "Mrs. L feels the same way" if Mrs L has not told me not to repeat her statement to anyone.
 
SeaBreeze said:
Best way to keep a secret, is keep it secret.
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I agree, so, these days, when I tell anything, I always expect that it may find it's way back to me and I may be disappointed but not shocked. People rarely show all of who they are, so, though sad to say, I'm no longer surprised by betrayal anymore.

Speaking of betrayal, the movie "Gone Girl" sucked as a drama, but as a comedy, it was hysterically funny midway through to the end, I couldn't stop laughing though I tried. I knew I should have waited for the dvd.
 
I learned about how words can hurt this week in a very personal way. I had had a conversation with a friend on a telephone. Nothing was said I would have cared if anyone repeated. But when I had to call them back because I had forgot to tell them what I called for they hadn't turned their cell phone off and the phone just picked up without ringing. I said hello and they were talking so I waited for a moment to see if I could get their attention in between words.

While waiting I could hear what was being said by my friend and they were talking about me and what was said really hurt. I confronted them with my knowledge the first time I caught them alone. They denied even saying anything, which I beleive they had forgot they actually did. But when we spoke yesterday they (I say they to keep from saying he or she) I guess they had asked the couple they were with about it for they apoligied profusely and said they didn't really feel that way and it was a tonque in cheek remark.

I forgave them for we all have said things we wish they hadn't. But I don't think I will ever trust these people again. They were someone I truly respected and loved. I still love them but in a more knowledable way I suppose. What would you have done?
 
I think I would have done something similar Just, I'd have to let them know that I heard what was said, if for anything, just to hear their justification for saying it. I agree, depending on what was said, I may not trust them anymore. At least I would know how they really felt about me, and consider that in any future dealings with them. I think many of us would be hurt by things that people may say behind our backs.
 

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