Choices

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Lon

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Where we are today and the manner in which we are living has all come about because of CHOICES that we have made thus far in our lives. We couldn't choose our parents, where we were born and many other things that parents decide for us when we are infants and youths.We have choices to make when we are teens. How much education we will accept and seek and who we will choose as friends.We later make a choice of whom we marry or who we will be intimate with and choices on how we will earn a living. Do we smoke/drink, Do we have children/ how many, Do we rent or buy a home, do we change careers, do we divorce, do we remarry, do we relocate, do we save/invest, on and on with the choices.


I have made some good and bad choices in my lifetime but overall I am pleased with the outcome of the choices that I have made and besides, I can't go back and change any of the bad choices. My wish for the readers of this post is that you are content with the choices that you have made and have no regrets.
 

I have said for years that I have very few regrets for any of the choices I have made in my life. I would still marry the same man,and would still marry him at the very young age that I married him. I don`t regret having four kids-in spite of the fact that that was twice as many as we planned on :) It was obviously meant to be. I do have a bit of regret for not following my dream in regards to my occupation,but I was needed in the family business and I really can`t imagine not having done that job. So all in all,I think my choices were right on the money!
 
Like many others, I've made some good and bad choices in my life, but overall my life has been very good and I have no regrets. I think making bad choices is part of the learning experience.
 

If bad choices are part of the learning experience, I should be one smart dude, with lots of experience for I have made many bad choices. I have some regrets but I am happy and contented with my life. I subscribe to the theory, 'all is well that ends well.' I think.
 
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I would change a lot if I could. At 19 when I moved out of the house I was pretty messed up. I had few social skills. Growing up with a mother with severe emotional problems who was prone to rages and being bullied at school wasn't easy on me.

I've chosen never to get married. I tend to sabotage relationships and even friendships. I find a few trusted people are better than many so called friends. I'm not unhappy living alone. I'm not lonely but feel isolated at times. Like I fit in nowhere. I'm grateful I was able to somehow pick myself up in my late 20's and start going to a junior college. I was convinced I'd fail but thought I'd try. I graduated with an associates degree in nursing at 32. I studied hard but thought nursing school was easy. My grades were excellent. It makes me wonder at times what I would have done if my life had been different. I clearly have half a brain.

We do have choices when we are out on our own. But sometimes the past will affect us. I've know people who grew up in foster care and I see how they struggle for example. They don't have a base to guide them.

I know my mother loved her children and she suffered trauma that caused a lot of her own problems. But I also know all her children would probably be a lot different if we didn't go through what we did.

We do all have choices but I think there are some things we can never change.
 
If you ever want to see people that make bad choices, go for a ride in a police cruiser on a Friday or Saturday night. (My favorite country singer, The Possum.)

 
Can't go back and change anything. Even if I had the opportunity, doubt that I would. Still very much in love with my bride after 48 years. We've been blessed with 3 wonderful kids and 8 awesome grandkids. We did make a monumental financial mistake some years ago. Lost most everything we had in a bad business deal. But... we've come back strong. And, the expensive experience brought us friendships we still enjoy today.
 
The only choice I regret was marrying my 1st husband.. ANY bad thing that has transpired since then has been a direct result of that horrible decision.
 
One regret that I have is not meeting my wife early in my life! I married the wrong gal as my first wife and then spent 20 some years single/divorced ( and unhappy being that way) and looking for "Mrs. Right". Finally found her and she is WONDERFUL!

Another regret.........that I didn't continue with college and get a Degree! Having a Degree sure would have helped me get a lot more to get into the area of work (Purchasing/Inventory) that I really liked to work in. Having a Degree would have also gave me a much better salary than what I was getting w/o one.
 
Can't tell me that anyone actually goes thru life always making the perfect choices. I see life as a big laboratory, experiments always in progress. Some things have been tried and true by others and we just follow the instructions. They may or may not give us the result we want. Other things we might try to do another way and don't know how it will turn out either - it's a toss of the coin, I'd say.

I understand that Edison failed repeatedly until the light bulb was invented. Did he regret his past mistakes or did he see it as a learning experience leading up to ultimate success? Regrets are just feeling bad about things not turning out the way we want.

If I didn't learn to drive, should I regret it when I want to go and do a big shopping trip, or should I be happy I didn't have to spend tons of money on car, gas, insurance, upkeep, etc. and live in a place where public transportation is at my doorstep?

I say we take all those regrets and throw them out the window.
 

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