Companionship
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spookycat2
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Have you talked it over yet? I know sometimes it's tough to get together one on one to really discuss feelings, esp. if the other is tough to pin down to talk.
This is important for you both to work out together. Perhaps you may both agree to work part time... or perhaps he needs to think more about it. A highly driven man can be hard to navigate this with. (my dad is a VERY driven man), Maybe bring it up in a relaxed setting, on a get away trip.
I'm sure others here have better input... good luck.
This is important for you both to work out together. Perhaps you may both agree to work part time... or perhaps he needs to think more about it. A highly driven man can be hard to navigate this with. (my dad is a VERY driven man), Maybe bring it up in a relaxed setting, on a get away trip.
I'm sure others here have better input... good luck.
Gardenlover
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Find a job you love and you'll never work a day in your life... mostly because no one is hiring.
After retiring my dad used to say, "When every day is a holiday, no day is a holiday." An enjoyable work gives some people purpose and fills their days. What do you propose he fills his days with once he retires? The key is to show that better things await outside his life of work.
A life without purpose is like a tire without air, it becomes flat rather quickly. ~me
After retiring my dad used to say, "When every day is a holiday, no day is a holiday." An enjoyable work gives some people purpose and fills their days. What do you propose he fills his days with once he retires? The key is to show that better things await outside his life of work.
A life without purpose is like a tire without air, it becomes flat rather quickly. ~me
Paco Dennis
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Patience if possible
Imogene
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I retired at 62 due to some health issues. Husband did indeed work until very near the end because he was a workaholic and loved his job,
When he was home, he was in the workshop, building his race car. I was always in the barn with my horses. We would have never survived a retirement that kept us attached at the hip 24/7 - he was and I still am far too independent. Husband passed nearly two years ago, but I am hanging onto this small farm and the horses.
My advice is to find something you have a true passion for and engage in it during the hours your husband wants to be at work, then come together afterward.
If you force the “I must be with you at all times” issue and he grudgingly retires, your marriage may very well go south.
When he was home, he was in the workshop, building his race car. I was always in the barn with my horses. We would have never survived a retirement that kept us attached at the hip 24/7 - he was and I still am far too independent. Husband passed nearly two years ago, but I am hanging onto this small farm and the horses.
My advice is to find something you have a true passion for and engage in it during the hours your husband wants to be at work, then come together afterward.
If you force the “I must be with you at all times” issue and he grudgingly retires, your marriage may very well go south.