Companionship

:) Meanderer asked you a question, sensie. I don't believe you have answered it.
Are you AI? If not, I hope I have not offended you.
It's just that this site is for seniors.
 

spookycat2 said:
Have you talked it over yet? I know sometimes it's tough to get together one on one to really discuss feelings, esp. if the other is tough to pin down to talk.

This is important for you both to work out together. Perhaps you may both agree to work part time... or perhaps he needs to think more about it. A highly driven man can be hard to navigate this with. (my dad is a VERY driven man), Maybe bring it up in a relaxed setting, on a get away trip.

I'm sure others here have better input... good luck.
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Your spot on, he's difficult to navigate with. It's interesting. It's not the type of thing you discuss before marriage ..he's happiest when he's working and I'm at home working .. but more and more I like disappearing for days on end doing stuff. I find working not that fulfilling anymore. I just feel guilty as we have 4 dogs. But I figure, if he's bent on working till he dies he can can sit the dogs. It's just frustrating, as he wants me available when he chooses to come up for air.. a walk once a week, a dinner out once a week.. that's about it..
 

That Lady in PA said:
Really? You would have nothing to occupy your time if you retire before your husband?
Hard for me to imagine!
Also hard for me to imagine relying upon my husband all day.
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That's a joke . I have many interests.. but at some point. It's like why have a husband if you don't do anything together but once or twice a week, a walk or a dinner.. that's not the retirement I bargained for.. I feel like I need to leave him in the dust at his computer for me to be happiest.. not the vision I had for my golden years ...I do more with my single friends
 
sensie said:
That's a joke . I have many interests.. but at some point. It's like why have a husband if you don't do anything together but once or twice a week, a walk or a dinner.. that's not the retirement I bargained for.. I feel like I need to leave him in the dust at his computer for me to be happiest.. not the vision I had for my golden years ...I do more with my single friends
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And you stay together because?

No advice to offer since I can't imagine living a lifestyle with no real companionship. Were married 63 years, retired for 30 years & together 24/7 & enjoying the life we envisioned.
 
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