Compliments - Giving and Receiving

[Beezer]

@hollydolly...

When I joined this forum, I enjoyed your 'pull no punches, cheeky British attitude'. Still do!

 

[Beezer]

I think if you grew up in an atmosphere of insults and sarcasm, this could lead to procrastination and self-doubt later in life.

But that's the trick right? As a parent we try to instill the goodness we received from our own parents into our kids...and try not to repeat the errors they made during our upbringing.

 

[hollydolly]

I think if you grew up in an atmosphere of insults and sarcasm, this could lead to procrastination and self-doubt later in life.

But that's the trick right? As a parent we try to instill the goodness we received from our own parents into our kids...and try not to repeat the errors they made during our upbringing.

exactly that. I didn't have good role models for parents, so in order to be a good mother myself the only route I knew to take was to do exactly the opposite to how my parents would have reacted to anything..

 

[Alligatorob]

I didn't have good role models for parents, so in order to be a good mother myself the only route I knew to take was to do excatly the opposite to how my parents would have reacted to anything..

You did a very good thing breaking that cycle within your family. It's hard, you are more the exception than the rule!

 

[hollydolly]

You did a very good thing breaking that cycle within your family. It's hard, you are more the exception than the rule!

Thank you Rob, yes I'm very aware that I broke the mould. One of my siblings went the same way as me by being a protective mother , but in the process she became extremely snowflake, so she was still talking baby talk to her son when he was in his 30's.. and if someone looked in her direction the wrong way she would take great offence.

Two of my siblings went down the wrong route completely.. won't say any more than that....but who could blame them ..the same thing has been repeated world wide by abused children..

 

[Ronni]

I am very free with compliments, whether family, friends, a stranger in line at the grocery! But here’s the thing, I’m fascinated by people, so the compliments are genuine!

Though I love to talk I am always entertained listening to others..whatever they want to tell me, or open up about.

As a result, when I compliment someone it’s typically organic and natural, evolving through the conversation and rapport, or a genuine interest in them or something about them.

 

[CarolfromTX]

I do hand out compliments, probably less than I could. If I see someone wearing something striking, I might say something. Or if they’re doing a good job. But I’m real big on please and thank you. I thank the bagger at the grocery store. I’ll thank a clerk if they are particularly helpful. I thank the Amazon delivery guy, and the postman.

 

[fuzzybuddy]

Most people, even if you're paying them, do try to do a good job. And I have to admit that I'm not great at telling them that. I think if you are grateful for someone's care of you, you should let them know that. It's not intentionally stroking somebody's ego.

 

[Medusa]

I compliment a lot, online and in person and I mean every one of them.