Convenience store -uncomfortable encounter

he might have thought he knew you from somewhere- i dont think i would have said anything
 

Back in the day I would just remain expressionless and give them a glaring stare in the eyes (stink-eye). This always has made them look away, but if they didn't I likely would have said something also. These days I'd still do the glare, but like Camper said, I'd have to size up the person and their intent before going further.

If he just turned around and innocently, out of boredom, said 'how you doin?', I'd probably give a short friendly answer. Like you AC, I don't like being stared at especially in a suggestive way by some creep.
 
twinkles said:
he might have thought he knew you from somewhere- i dont think i would have said anything
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This briefly occurred to me. It happens, but usually the person says "Excuse me. don't I know you?" or "Aren't you Ed Smith's mother?" No, this guy was being obnoxious. If I hadn't seen him drive away I would have told my friend to stall and drive around awhile...I certainly didn't want him knowing where I live. :mad:
 

This guy sounds like he was mentally disturbed. So, as funny as your answer would have been, Moosehead, I really don't recommend it. Nobody likes the feeling that they are being ridiculed, but in the case of
someone who is really disturbed, it could be dangerous. I would have just found a way to escape from the whole situation, the quicker the better.
 
@ Sunny

I don't think he was mentally disturbed. He was maybe late 50s, dressed okay, kind of short, pot belly. When he spoke to me and then ranted a bit he sounded 'normal', per se. I guess it's one of those 'you had to be there' situations.

I think sometimes folks try to attach a diagnosis when there really isn't a condition (dementia, depression, mentally disturbed, etc.). I think when he said something about me going to hell, he was insulted and surprised that I had the nerve to call him out.

Footnote: A case could be made that I'm a bit more sensitive about creepy strangers due to the fact that I had a serious problem with a stalker (I don't use that term lightly) that went on for many years...had to involve police several times. I'm very aware of my surroundings and I tend to often project a "don't bother me" demeanor - or so I'm told.
 
I don't blame you for saying something back but it can be scary. Never knowing what a person might do. Something similar happened to me at a grocery store. The guy ahead would just not leave. Kept talking to the cashier, taking forever to take his bags. The cashier just went along. I finally said something and after I paid, he came out of nowhere cursing as he walked by me. Probably better to not say anything.
 
@ Kitties

The cashier probably didn't want to offend the guy, but it's not fair to allow one customer to hold up the line. If I finish my transaction and chat with a cashier I make sure there's nobody behind me. Yes, the situation you describe where he cursed you is kinda scary.
 
You had every right to say something to him
I had a similar experience a month ago waiting at the bus stop at the end of my street.This was around 10am on a weekday,a black guy I had never seen before comes and waits too.He said 'hello',I nodded and said'Hi'. I didn't respond to his next question, he just went off berating me saying'you don't like black people,what is your problem'. I told him'please move away from me,you are in my space' which he did.Luckily the bus just showed up,he got on,I did not,too many red flags Sue
 

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