Conversation or silence at meals?

I adore James Herriot's books.

Growing up, we generally talked at the table. The TV was never on, and the phone was not answered, two rules I also enforced with my own children.

On weekend nights we had to eat in the more formal dining room (as opposed to the breakfast nook) with the good china, and I hated it. My parents were usually drunk and arguing, so I have really bad memories of formal meals.

With my own kids, we always talked. No screens were permitted at the table. Sometimes we would use conversation cards to prompt interesting exchanges.
Nothing is worse than eating with people who are drunk and arguing. I must have peace and be relaxed or I cannot eat and my digestion rebels. To me eating is about communicating, talkin.
 
A favorite TV series of mine has been "Blue Bloods". They make it a point on every episode to show the family at Sunday dinner. Of course its TV, and I doubt any family would consistently have dinners like this, but dang it, it sure makes me feel good just watching it.
 
Yeah, honestly, at the dinner table, I'd rather eat than talk. But I'm married, so....
In my marriage it's the other way round. My wife would prefer that I don't talk :ROFLMAO:.

Two decades ago we were at a Buddhistic retreat for some days. At the dinner table was an obligation of absolute silence. If someone only said a single word he (or she) got an angry glance of the leader. The second time this person got reprimanded. Believe me, I'll never participate in such retreats again :ROFLMAO:.
 

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