Dating site disasters, pt. 1 lol!

I have lived alone my entire life, & there were times when I resorted to trying dating sites. Upon doing searches beginning with "Just looking for friends only", it immediately showed dating sites, ok so I thought I would give it a try. I spent countless hours designing profiles, uploading pictures, videos..describing myself in detail, etc.
So after all that, I waited for responses.
I would go into chats with someone...and it was always....what's your name, where do you live, how old are you, are you married, do you have kids... all the questions that were answered in my profile OMG!! Most had no pictures or much of a profile, so I would ask them to tell me about themselves, and it was always "what do you want to know?" lol!
I would ask for a picture, they seldom provided one (for obvious reasons).
It happened every time, it was like no one read profiles, then they ask all the questions they would already know, had they read it! It happened time after time. It was beyond annoying! Finally, I gave up, just could not put up with it anymore.
I (divorced) met a widower on line and we have been together for 10 years now.
 

I can immediately bring to mind two couples who found very compatible life partners through online dating. One set met about ten years ago, another about 6. Both couples are happily married. They met while in their 30s - likely quite different from dating in one's 60s or beyond.

Online dating is the modern version of blind dating, which has been around for centuries. A descriptor by one's friend that went something like, "Nice person, great personality" was a clue that their friend/workmate/cousin/neighbor wasn't physically attractive.

I went on a fair number of blind dates back in my 20s. Some were great, some not so much. 🤷‍♀️
Well, that's why I titled this one "Dating site disasters" not success stories lol! Great story, and I can relate to those issues as well. Of course, there are many success stories, I even know of a few, but not for me. I am in a different category being a transgender woman, and having posted on sites for transgenders, and heterosexuals, found no success as far as serious dating, or, wanting to lol! I was looking for romance,
long-term dating, eventually leading to a relationship, & marriage. I was met with fakery, lies, old pictures, no pictures, and most of them were married & just curious, or wanting a wild fantasy swing, and not a date at all. Many wanted to just communicate on the side, outside of the site, again out of curiosity, not interest in dating me. I tried that a few times, but all they did was ask for more pictures or videos, while not providing me with any.
Another funny fact, I can't count the number of guys whom, when I asked to see pictures, told me "I don't have one on this computer, but I am 6 ft tall, 180, blond hair blue eyes"...LOL...ooooookay! To me, it all told me that none were interested in dating me at all. Many times, men would offer to fly me to their country, uh...no!
In my life I have gone out on hundreds of dates, never blind dates, and had fun, some lasted a while, some were just for one date, friends who set me up with friends of theirs, or someone I met at a party or event, so historically I always knew whom I was going out with, no surprises (as far as the physical). A few times, promises were made to me, that were never meant to be kept. So, at 62, the future does not look bright, maybe for others, but not for me. So, anyone who has had at least one success story, has one more than I have lol! :)
 
Female, and needless to say, despite the fact that I indicated this in the profiles...the silly questions continued on and on lol!

I see that constantly...it's like talking to the Medicare people by phone...they ask for all the info you already gave them! Does anyone listen anymore? I think not.
 
I see that constantly...it's like talking to the Medicare people by phone...they ask for all the info you already gave them! Does anyone listen anymore? I think not.
So true lol! I make a call to, let's say my bank...I am asked to record my name, address and date of birth at the tone...I do so...then when a human finally takes my call, the first question, "please state your name, address and date of birth", omg!!
 
I used to do dating sites in the US but stopped. I and 72 and don't have the money to go out on expensive dinner dates. So it's coffee for me and if you want hiking or picnics or dinner at home. The lady I have run into want more than I have. Although I am debt free with a nice home and a nice cushion I don't want to spend 100 bucks on a dinner date. So I am single. And just gave up.
 


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