Dealing with family photos, mementos, documents

[MACKTEXAS]

No Macktexas - everything is hanging in her living room. I have an envelope of pictures left and she wants them. I had copies made for her.

As long as everything has been worked out, that's what matters but your earlier post #15 was not clear. Here's what you wrote: "Miley called me to let me listen to her shredding everything. Years later she insisted that originals going back to grandfather as a baby with mother grand mother and great grand mother belong to her. I mailed everything in frames. She did not get them. They are hanging on the wall."

 

[Tommy]

I keep some hard copy photos in frames, displayed in my living room. I've been told that's in poor taste, but I don't care - it's my house and I want to be able to see pictures of people in my life that matter to me.

I believe this started many years ago when real estate agents were advised to tell their clients to put away all "personal" items before showing their house. This supposedly made the home more marketable. Be that as it may, extending that admonition to a person's home that is NOT on the market is utter nonsense.

Still, there are those crowd-followers who put great stock in what "they" say. IMO, "they" are a bunch of flakes.

 

[hearlady]

I read this on Quora: "Displays of family photographs can be seen as bourgeois and an unnecessary display of love." I don't recall where else I've seen the same thing expressed in different words. My cousins keep no photos out, and little else. The last time I was in their living room, the coffee table had nothing on it except one solid colored vase with one flower stem in it. The entire room looked sterile. I don't live that way. I want the room picked up and tidy, but I have many objects and some pictures in my living room.

I'd say tough noogies to them. It's your home and pleasure.

 

[MACKTEXAS]

I believe this started many years ago when real estate agents were advised to tell their clients to put away all "personal" items before showing their house. This supposedly made the home more marketable. Be that as it may, extending that admonition to a person's home that is NOT on the market is utter nonsense.

Still, there are those crowd-followers who put great stock in what "they" say. IMO, "they" are a bunch of flakes.

Maybe so; who knows. Even though I made it clear that I don't go by any such rule, many SF members were perturbed to learn there are sources which discourage the display of family photos in the living room. It was not news to me. I first heard about it at least 20 years ago.

 

[DailyArtsyCrafter]

The Quora quote, and other such quotes do not reflect my own personal taste or views, since I have pictures of family displayed in frames in my home, as I previously posted.

I know. I was supporting you. I don't always quote an entire comment to save members from having to read it all again. I'll clip parts to illustrate my comment.

 

[Pappy]

I thought about what to do about my 12 picture albums and 3 boxes of assorted picture. Grandma was a camera nut with her 35mm camera. The old Polaroid pics have all turned yellow so they need to be discarded. I really don’t feel like arranging all these so…kids, get ready as you are going to inherit a whole bunch of photos…..

 

[Buckeye]

Today is the day. I sent my lovely DIL a box with 2 photo albums and other quasi-related things. The first album was put together by my mother 25 or 30 years ago, with mostly pictures of my childhood, starting in 1946 to about 1960. She had made similar albums for my brothers. I had put together the second album a few years ago, and is largely pictures of my own children. My son, now deceased, was her husband for 30+ years, so I think she will enjoy some of those.

She is certainly free to do with them as she wishes. Her 30ish sons probably have little interest in seeing grandpa as a 6 year old child, but may someday enjoy the pictures of their dad (my son) as a child and young man.

I also have a thumb drive with about 8,000 pictures from 2000 to 2019. Many pictures of vacations with my second wife, who is also now deceased, and I can't think of a single living soul that would have an interest in any of them.

So, other than a few framed pictures, I think I'm done.