Death May Not Be Proud, But It Is Honest

Saw an awful obituary recently, so bad I though it fake. So I did a Snopes check and while the obituary I found was not there a couple of equally bad ones were.

https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/death-penalty/

A couple of excerpts:

Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008...

Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing. Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself.


and

Marianne Theresa Johnson-Reddick born Jan 4, 1935 and died alone on Aug. 30, 2013. She is survived by her 6 of 8 children whom she spent her lifetime torturing in every way possible. While she neglected and abused her small children, she refused to allow anyone else to care or show compassion towards them. When they became adults she stalked and tortured anyone they dared to love. Everyone she met, adult or child was tortured by her cruelty and exposure to violence, criminal activity, vulgarity, and hatred of the gentle or kind human spirit.

Could not verify the one I saw so won't link to it...
 

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"Of the dead, say nothing but good"
 
See more and more of these in the last few years ..... I find it better then the pretending everyone is a saint......
These are fairly tame in comparison to a few i have seen.....
Sad ...maybe they should have shared a preview with the person before death and they could change things.
 
I keep myself to myself mainly and because of physical disabilities I do not get around much
I have found out over the last 60 years my 'family', mother, father, sister and my 2 adult children have used me
This was after my mother's death when I found out they had all declared me dead so I was not even in her will either
Don't get me wrong my mother was a functioning alcoholic who owed money everywhere so the will was meagre
That is not the point of the complaint....the fact I was her first born and she declared me dead to take me off her will
Sadly I was very gullible from the time I was a child but I have finally wised up at last
Now they choose not to contact me and I do not contact them because I cannot stand their lies and deceit
My funeral will be a very modest one as I do have a lovely Son-In-Law and 2 grand-daughters who care
 
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"Of the dead, say nothing but good"
I have to laugh when I read some funeral obituary about someone I had known. He might have been a big jerk all his life and "screwed" a lot of people, but in his obituary, he is next to God in his goodness, his virtue and his family and community. He really needs to be made a saint! Of course, some people were wonderful and lived a great life but............

There was one "gentleman" in my community that mistreated his wife, mistreated his kids and lived the life of just an all-around jerk. On his grave-stone I was very surprised to read that he was "as sweet as a rose." I'm not kidding!
 
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It is interesting the majority here do not approve of these obits. I have kind of mixed feelings, if a parent was that bad and it is in some way cathartic for someone then it does not seem wrong to me. However I believe care should be taken not to hurt other living relatives, and that might be hard.

Easy for me to say, I am truly fortunate not to have any relatives who would deserve something like this. I know that is not true for some forum members...
 
IMO if the person was a problem in my life, death resolved the problem, and no more needs to be said.

These negative obituaries make me believe that the dead are still in control of the living.

You don't have to forgive or forget, but at some point, you do need to put on your big boy/girl panties and just let them go.
 
Newspapers do not print obituaries free, someone had to pay the fee for these opinions.
 


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