Denise 1952...did you ever get

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GeorgiaXplant

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a little dog friend like you wanted to?

You mentioned on the Being Ignored thread how hard it is to make new friends as we get older. Absolutely right, and here's what I think: Most older folks have established their circle of friends, and it's not so much that they don't want any more as it is that they don't need any more. People like us (you and me) who are "new" to an area, are viewed as being new even if we've lived in the same spot for a few years. Is there a solution? I have no idea! Maybe where you live has a community room where there are activities scheduled like an exercise class, card games, bingo, or chartering a bus for a day trip. All I can suggest is digging deep to find something that interests you and is inexpensive.

It ain't easy for sure and kind of like being depressed...somebody will suggest something to do to fight depression and the response is "I don't want to do that; I'm depressed." LOL
 

LOL, that sounds like me. Especially with my sister. She is so good at thinking of things I should do, and she does nothing. But she isn't depressed doing nothing, or she hides it really well ;)

Yesterday I applied for a census job and that would keep me busy for a time. I also am waiting for the "once a month" meeting for Foster Grand-parenting". That would help this Winter and I'd be good at it. You just are sort of an assistant to a teacher, and read with kids, or do Math etc. When I was a kid I sure would have loved some one-on-one help so I figured this could be a good fit for me. I love little kids but I like the part where they go home to their parents too, LOL!

Forgot to mention I didn't get a dog @GeorgiaXplant but while I was writing this, the gal called me from Foster Grandparenting and she wants me to start asap, but they have to do fingerprinting, all that stuff first ;) I'm so excited!!
 
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I bet that would be a fun thing to do...especially because they go home to their parents:D Dang! I'd have loved that, too. My mother worked. And she didn't particularly like kids when I was little. Later in life she changed her mind and became a teacher! Go figure.

You didn't say whether you ever got a pup. Or a kitty. Kitties are good because they don't have to be walked and don't mind being left for a few hours which would fit in fine with foster grand-parenting or being a census taker since you'd be gone during the day.

I dunno about you, but it's the weekends that get to me. My MIL, may she rest in peace, used to say the same thing, so we tried to include her in even the smallest things we did on Saturdays and always had her over on Sunday afternoons.

Since I'm already "here," DD and her crew don't have me over on Sunday afternoons! And even when I'm included on Saturdays (and other days as well), when we get back home, I still come back to my little place. And I'm still alone. Where would I be without the connection of my kitty, my garden, this board and one other board where I'm a member?
 

I hear you Georgia :) I don't have any family near me, and I never had children. I didn't get a pet and I don't know about having one. Unless I'm really sure, I won't take that step.

One thing I think about often is how alone my grand-mother must have felt. We spent time with her, but not often. I'd say maybe a couple of times a month when I was a little girl. I loved going there, but my mom had us moving around all the time (it seemed). New boyfriend or husband, and I'd go to gramma's after school, come home to a new house/place and school.

I'm feeling regretful so I'm going to stop there @GeorgiaXplant , get my shower, go pick up some info the lady from Foster Grandparents is leaving me, and probably take a walk. Then have a couple of things I need from the store, so, I will hope to see you a little later as I do plan to check in here more regularly. It's helped me a lot today, big hugs, Denise
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You are so right @fuzzybuddy Used to have a schedule, which included weekend get-togethers, a phone-call every once in awhile. I moved around so much most of my friends were left behind. My own fault. I realize now how much different it would have been to live in one place my whole life. Always thought about making new friends. It isn't as easy as it sounds. But even lifetime friends have their own lives, and being single isn't easy when all your good friends are married and doing things with their spouses (which is what I'd be doing too) ;)
 

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