hollydolly
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..after they passed on ... and find something totally surprising ? 
My grandmother's first child was premature too, but amazingly healthy!Didn’t find anything surprising but I did discover that my paternal grandparents were married a year earlier than they told everybody.
Meaning my grandmother was six months pregnant with my dad when they actually got married.
Scandalous in the 1930s!![]()
I'm getting a strained brain over this. Wouldn't that "married a year earlier" mean your dad wasn't conceived until they'd been married a good while?Didn’t find anything surprising but I did discover that my paternal grandparents were married a year earlier than they told everybody.
Meaning my grandmother was six months pregnant with my dad when they actually got married.
Scandalous in the 1930s!![]()
Edited to make senseI'm getting a strained brain over this. Wouldn't that "married a year earlier" mean your dad wasn't conceived until they'd been married a good while?
You're absolutely right about this, Aunt Bea, and in my defense I just thought I was looking at an ordinary greeting card my mother had sent my dad, I wasn't expecting all that additional mushy stuff on the inside.Not totally surprising, but yes, and with a few others.
IMO it should be viewed as a sacred trust to help dispose of a person's possessions without violating their privacy.
My Grandmother insisted she was 90 when she died, but after her death they found her Birth Certificate and she was actually 100!I discovered that my grandmother was 2 years younger than she'd said she was... she always claimed to have been born the same day and year as the Queen mother, in 1900, that wasn't true.. she was born on the same date but 2 years later than she'd always claimed...in 1902
I had never heard of Swedish Death Cleaning, but it sounds like a wonderful and necessary part of life.You're absolutely right about this, Aunt Bea, and in my defense I just thought I was looking at an ordinary greeting card my mother had sent my dad, I wasn't expecting all that additional mushy stuff on the inside.
Just so my son won't be suffering the same kind of cringe moments, last year I did a Swedish Death Cleaning* to rid my personal areas of that sort of thing. Nobody wanted to see that red lace underwear set.
*https://www.amazon.com/Gentle-Art-Swedish-Death-Cleaning/dp/1501173243
That's a very good way of looking at it.IMO it should be viewed as a sacred trust to help dispose of a person's possessions without violating their privacy.
We always knew that my father had flown in a torpedo bomber during WWII, but after he passed we found his flight bag containing assorted flight gear. A bigger surprise was one of those small, steel-bound military suitcases containing his dress uniforms, all neatly folded, wrapped in period newspapers, and tied with butcher's string. With them were his flight logs and assorted paper ephemera including a framed photo of him, his step father, and some friends at a club in Corpus Christi, TX...after they passed on ... and find something totally surprising ?![]()
Does Playboy have articles? Never noticed them!Playboy's I have I suppose. I just bought them for the articles
how lovely...We always knew that my father had flown in a torpedo bomber during WWII, but after he passed we found his flight bag containing assorted flight gear. A bigger surprise was one of those small, steel-bound military suitcases containing his dress uniforms, all neatly folded, wrapped in period newspapers, and tied with butcher's string. With them were his flight logs and assorted paper ephemera including a framed photo of him, his step father, and some friends at a club in Corpus Christi, TX.
Nothing shocking, but a very nice unexpected tie to his past.
I need to appoint someone to wipe the hard drive on my computer when I go!I did but I did not find anything that surprised me. After my father died I had thirty five years of stuff to rummage through and dispose of and or keep. It gave me a lot of time to think about the past and future. Along the same lines of holldolly's question. Have you all thought of what you will leave behind for others to find when you pass on? I better get rid of the mountain of Playboy's I have I suppose. I just bought them for the articles but someone might get the wrong idea. They may think I was a womanizer or something.![]()