Did you follow your dreams in life... ?

hollydolly said:
If not, ..given a second chance what would you do differently ?
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The only real "big dream" I've had was to do a coast-to-coast road trip in an RV. I was going to stop at Mom & Pop restaurants along the way, get little known facts about the area from locals, and write travel articles about the experience. Never happened... and with the price of gas now, it never will. But I'm okay with that... some dreams just change and adjust as time goes on, I guess. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø
 
When I was young I did not have dreams. At about the age of 40 I realized it was OK to have dreams and to try to fulfill them. I did retire right where I wanted to and plan to live the rest of my life on my terms. I do a lot of things someone my age might not do like going on vacation by myself but I am aware of the possible pitfalls and believe that for me the risk is worth the pleasure.
 
I did follow my dream but it did not go to plan. I would have liked to have more than one child but that was not in God's plan. He gave me one beautiful boy and I am grateful for that. I did not expect to be a widow at such a young age but that have must have been God's plan. God stepped in and made sure that I need not to worry, he had made sure the finances were secure, the house was paid off, the son went to college without student loans, I was able to move my Mom here when her health got bad. When I look at the big picture I realized I had been given a gift that has made life so much easier. Yes, I am alone now but I still have to believe in his plan for me.
 
Blessed, you sound like my mother. Whenever something happened - good or bad - it was always "God's way". Well, I said, this God of yours must have some pretty weird ideas.

As a Secular Humanist, I believe that we must take charge of our own lives without the help or interference of a deity. No, I didn't make plans or follow my dreams. I like to think that I mostly made good choices when opportunity 'knocked' and life has on the whole, been good. God didn't step in and ensure that I was financially secure, pay off my mortgage and support my children through university. A well paid job at IBM did that. Nor do I think that there was any divine involvement in meeting the girl I married almost 50 years ago.

I still haven't any real dreams, but plenty of ideas. I could never have anticipated most of the things that have happened, so I'll just keep my eyes and ears open for the next opportunity.
 
Capt Lightning said:
Blessed, you sound like my mother. Whenever something happened - good or bad - it was always "God's way". Well, I said, this God of yours must have some pretty weird ideas.

As a Secular Humanist, I believe that we must take charge of our own lives without the help or interference of a deity. No, I didn't make plans or follow my dreams. I like to think that I mostly made good choices when opportunity 'knocked' and life has on the whole, been good. God didn't step in and ensure that I was financially secure, pay off my mortgage and support my children through university. A well paid job at IBM did that. Nor do I think that there was any divine involvement in meeting the girl I married almost 50 years ago.

I still haven't any real dreams, but plenty of ideas. I could never have anticipated most of the things that have happened, so I'll just keep my eyes and ears open for the next opportunity.
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I am happy that things have gone well for you. We did take charge of our lifes. We saw doctors when needed. We worked hard and saved for our future. We made decisions to have insurance. Those were choices we made were after praying for guidance. We had one child after doctors told us there was no hope to have a child. It was a big shock when we managed to get pregnant. My poor husband suffered through the whole process thinking the child was not his. When our son was born he arrived with markings on his body that were common in his family. So, you can tell me that God's intervention has no part of our human experience or you can tell me what you believe it is something else. It is fine for me to accept how you feel as long as you can accept how I feel. There is no right or wrong, there are just people trying to live the best life we can.
 
Blessed said:
I am happy that things have gone well for you. We did take charge of our lifes. We saw doctors when needed. We worked hard and saved for our future. We made decisions to have insurance. Those were choices we made were after praying for guidance. We had one child after doctors told us there was no hope to have a child. It was a big shock when we managed to get pregnant. My poor husband suffered through the whole process thinking the child was not his.
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Surely the person who was 'suffering'' was not your husband but you, being accused of carrying someone else's child...
 
I never had a set plan but wanted to make decent money, have a family and a nice full life out in the country.

It all worked out even though I did end up divorced, but the kids stayed with me so still had the family, and I'm still out in the country.
 
hollydolly said:
Surely the person who was 'suffering'' was not your husband but you, being accused of carrying someone else's child...
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No, I did not suffer, I knew the truth of it and could understand why he was so confused. I had been thru so many tests that did not tell us why. Then they asked him for a sample and it was very clear what was causing the problem. No man wants to hear that type of news. They did give him some injections after to try to boost the count and mobility. I was pregnant a short while after. I had gone shipping for a new dress for a Christmas party. I felt ill in the store, sick at my stomach, dizzy and hot flashes. Hubs went to the pharmacy when I realized I was late in my monthly cycle. I had been keeping a chart for months, to record my temperature which was related to ovulation.

The test came was positive that night. Husband could not believe it after three years of trying. He stayed home from work and made me do the same, he called the doctor to get me in right away to confirm. Yes, I was pregnant. When our son was born by emergency Csection, I was knocked out. I did hear it way a boy. Hours later when I woke up my sister said not to be upset. He had a mole on his lower face. This was his family mark, my husbands family was known to have moles. to me he was beautiful. the small mole on his face did not make a difference to me. It also taught my husband that this was his child. My husband never spoke a word about it after the birth.
 
I did follow my dreams but they didnā€™t always turn out the way I thought they would.
As I really think about it, I would say none of my dreams turned out the way I imagined. Some dreams turned out far better, some turned to nightmares . Such is life!
 
hollydolly said:
Surely the person who was 'suffering'' was not your husband but you, being accused of carrying someone else's child...
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I could understand why he was upset with what the doctor had said, I knew the truth, I had never been with anyone else, still have not to this day. I am one of those strange people, you don't have sex without being in loving committed relationship. Yes, I realize that most people don't share that same feeling.
 
No. I never had a career plan or a plan to get married. There was no big plan to get a house or raise children. I never had a life plan but I did follow my passions and still do so the rest is sort of irrelevant to me now.
Would I follow that path again?
Not a chance. Iā€™d probably do everything over different with wisdom under my belt.
 
I think that my dream unfolded right in front of me. I never had a big plan or dream that I tried to follow. Overall, I am quite happy with the way things turned out. There have been a few disappointments, but nothing that derailed me along the path.
 

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