Did you set any tests to try to discover whether you were loved in earnest?

grahamg said:
You could be right, and your comment "over a period of time their behaviour will show the truth" is a pithy comment, (and shows a degree of circumspection perhaps?).
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I wasn't quite sure of your intended thought with your "pithy" descriptor. I thought pithy(as in a pithy squash or pumpkin) had a derogatory connotation, turns out quite the opposite.
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pith·y
/ˈpiTHē/
 adjective
adjective: pithy; comparative adjective: pithier; superlative adjective: pithiest
1. (of language or style) concise and forcefully expressive.

So, simply put, my comment "over a period of time their behaviour will show the truth" just means that actions speak louder than words, as my dad used to say.
 

Nathan said:
I wasn't quite sure of your intended thought with your "pithy" descriptor. I thought pithy(as in a pithy squash or pumpkin) had a derogatory connotation, turns out quite the opposite. (Break)
So, simply put, my comment "over a period of time their behaviour will show the truth" just means that actions speak louder than words, as my dad used to say.
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Now that's hard to argue with, (maybe enough said :) )!
 
Stop being defensive. This thread is pathetic. No way to make it appear right. Know when to hold 'em/fold 'em.
 
Pepper said:
Stop being defensive. This thread is pathetic. No way to make it appear right. Know when to hold 'em/fold 'em.
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Who moi? Defensive you say? Surely not? Come on now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with anyone asking a question that folks can ignore till the cows come home, and though the above posts show most posting here have stated positions against the idea of setting any kind of tests be it simple common sense to do so or not, there is at least the odd one in agreement with it I claim, (so no need to call them pathetic for choosing to show support imho).

Now as far as your comments directed at moi, I just wish you could have encountered my Godfather Bill in his prime, because you'd have certainly been tackled should you have reacted to the comments he'd have given you to digest, (and he'd have been delighted if you did get angry at his deliberately provocative statements!).

Dont try to kid folks real decent, strong minded, warm hearted people like him use tests when encountering people who behave in a "too thin skinned" way, and his very strong minded wife knew exactly what she was getting when she married him. Both he and my Godmother spoke many languages, and Bill worked his way up from the shop floor at an engineering firm, to the boardroom and was a great mate of both my parents, (even though he called my mother "the chief engineer" just for fun, and she never took offence!).
 
Godfather Bill would run screaming & crying back to his cave if he dared bug this broad from Brooklyn. Just kidding, sounds like we'd have had fun together trading barbs.
 
Pepper said:
Godfather Bill would run screaming & crying back to his cave if he dared bug this broad from Brooklyn. Just kidding, sounds like we'd have had fun together trading barbs.
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What state you'd have been in after meeting Godfather Bill is the question, (okay if you can stand to have your leg pulled unmercillously, but should you think you're on the planet to stand up for "downtrodden women" you'd certainly be under pressure!).
 
My goodness..Sounds like hard work, all this testing. I think it’s just manipulation, a very unhealthy dynamic. Find a person’s weakness and play it, how toxic. The eternal victim always vying for sympathy is a poor trait, walk away. Lots more fish in the ocean 🐟🐟🐟🐟
 
grahamg said:
What state you'd have been in after meeting Godfather Bill is the question, (okay if you can stand to have your leg pulled unmercillously, but should you think you're on the planet to stand up for "downtrodden women" you'd certainly be under pressure!).
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I don't.
 
Jamala said:
My goodness.. Sounds like hard work, all this testing. I think it’s just manipulation, a very unhealthy dynamic. Find a person’s weakness and play it, how toxic. The eternal victim always vying for sympathy is a poor trait, walk away. Lots more fish in the ocean 🐟🐟🐟🐟
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Why assume its "all this testing" I'm suggesting, it could just be the way my Uncle Doug behaved(?).

He was not a real uncle, (as I may have said, just called that), and my mum talked of him as being an ideal husband, (so friendly, almost always easy going and generous was he). The lovely woman he married asked him whether he was "serious" about her very early on we were told, because she wasn't about to waste her time on him otherwise, rather than a test you could say it was her being straightforward).
 
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