Did your parents ever smack you !

win231 said:
A few things I find interesting about this topic:
Many parents want the option of beating their kids - something a stranger would be arrested for if he/she hits someone else's kids.

Many women stay in an abusive relationship. Perhaps they're accustomed to abuse from their parents, so they consider it "normal."

I wonder how many parents who consider it OK to beat their kids would also train their dogs the same way?
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Never train a dog the way its mother did. Unless your a bitch,lol. We don't use 'pain' to teach our animals just our kids so they don't grow up to act like undisciplined animals.
Have you ever seen a dog or cat train their young,its not a pretty sight how they ' abuse ' their young. All animals use corporal punishment on their young.
 

win231 said:
A few things I find interesting about this topic:
Many parents want the option of beating their kids - something a stranger would be arrested for if he/she hits someone else's kids.

Many women stay in an abusive relationship. Perhaps they're accustomed to abuse from their parents, so they consider it "normal."

I wonder how many parents who consider it OK to beat their kids would also train their dogs the same way?
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Win, I'm havign a bad day so lets call a truce? I'm sure you were just venting.
 
When my son used to throw a screaming rolling tantrum in public, I used to let him there and walk away. He'd come running after me a few seconds later. When he got older, he'd refuse to get in the car if he didn't get his way. I'd drive off, circle around and come back. He'd get in in a huff. I can still see that look on his face. He's a fine man now.
 

It was a regular thing in my house when I was a kid. Then after we'd get the crap beaten out of us, we were sworn to secrecy not to tell our friends. Out and out child abuse. It was decades ago and my parents are long gone but the memories still linger.

Neither my ex-husband or I ever hit our children. And they turned out wonderfully.
 
win231 said:
A few things I find interesting about this topic:
Many parents want the option of beating their kids - something a stranger would be arrested for if he/she hits someone else's kids.

Many women stay in an abusive relationship. Perhaps they're accustomed to abuse from their parents, so they consider it "normal."

I wonder how many parents who consider it OK to beat their kids would also train their dogs the same way?
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Oh, no. At least not in my case. My parents spanked for disciplinary purposes (see above), but we knew that harming others physically was not acceptable nor was it acceptable to take from others.

And yes, their method worked just fine for my dog. I've only spanked her twice and those were in a 24 hour time frame. She was fairly easy to train except got it into her head for some reason several years ago that the no getting on the couch rule should no longer apply. Plopped her rear on it one day and gave me an "I dare you to try to get me off here" look. A few pops to the flank with the yard stick got her down. She sulked, I loved on her as soon as she let me, and we went through the same thing the following day. She gave up on the couch after that and has been back to her normal sweet temperament. That's about how it worked for my sister and me.
 
Leann said:
It was a regular thing in my house when I was a kid. Then after we'd get the crap beaten out of us, we were sworn to secrecy not to tell our friends. Out and out child abuse. It was decades ago and my parents are long gone but the memories still linger.

Neither my ex-husband or I ever hit our children. And they turned out wonderfully.
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So did my kids and if talking or restrictions didn't work,they got their ass switched. What my wonderful mother would call "beat the hell out of you".
Sometimes parents get lucky and raise good kids either way. So all is good,imo.
 
Sassycakes said:
My parents never put a hand on me ,my brother or sister. My Mom would threaten us with the wooden spoon but never used it on us. They corrected our mistakes by talking to us about what was wrong about what we did and I did the same with my children . We never hit any of our kids or now our grandchildren.
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That is all and good but I'm not going to explain to a child why I say no it gets too complicated for me.
I just tried that a few summers ago with one of my 13 great grandkids who was doing a number on my seedlings I just planted. All 6 of them was running over and stomping the flower bed. I ask them to not undo all that work my old self had just put into it. I had used a hatchet ,shovel, garden fork,and rake for over a month getting the roots up and planting.
I " EXPLAINED " it to my oldest daughters grand kids. All stopped but the oldest 7 yr old. Which looked at me and stomped it again.
Long story short, I told the kid to stomp it again and he would get switched. My daughter took up for him so I told her I'd whip her ass too if she didn't like it.
This is a new generation of victims and disrespectful people. I was surprised she being 50 forgot who she was talking to. I had spent lots of time with them throwing the softball [ I was a great ballplayer in a league up to age 50 and still have a good arm ] painting, playing in waves at beach ,etc,etc,etc,. And that kid is going to disrespect me like he does his Meme, no way.
All summer I had 4 to 6 grandkids here with us 24/7 plus all holidays. They had a choice and wanted to come here. Plus it gave their parents a break every year for a couple months till they turned 13. Then they didn;t want to go to Nanas house .
 
i got whacked with whatever my mom had in her hand--she was peeling potatoes at the sink and i guess i said somthing she didnt like--got the knife across the face--i was called stupid cause i couldnt wring the clothes out tight enough or the bow in the back of my dress wasnt tied right--i told her i couldnt see back there--i guess it was the wrong thing to say
 
This thread started out with being smacked not beaten to a pulp or attacked with knives. This is more like a true detective crime scene than a thread about whippings.
All I have to say is the proof is in the pudding. Past generations raised the most constructive offspring in the history of the world. And they did it with strong disciplinary rules and actions.
We took a wilderness and turned it into the greatest nation on earth. No matter how much anti Americans hate us I'd like to ask them if somebody had to build America and rule the world who would you prefer it be . I don't like many things they do but who would be better, Russia, China,India, Germany ,South America, etc,etc,etc,?
They didn't do all this without discipline, hard labor and loss of blood.
Our ancestors worked in coal mines, factories, fields to grow food and chopped wood from forest to build homes.
I'd bet the farm they didn't stand around and explain or ask a child how to do it.
Little Johnny Appleseed is being bad so lets stop falling this huge tree or stand in an open field harvesting food so they don't starve and take a few hours to explain to him why he shouldn't do it. Or call dad home from 20 stories under the earth mining or mama from the wash board washing clothes to hang out to humor this kid. LOL, what a joke.
So wonder how those kids made it without 24 hour explanations?
 
Keesha said:
3 cracks ribs, 2 broken fingers , a fractured wrist and broken tailbone. My dad also broke his hand in three places hitting me and had a cast all the way past his elbow. Of course this was all my fault.
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Question: I have a broken (bent) tailbone (Coccyx). Did you have your’s removed? There is only 1 doctor in this area that will do it, but I have to sign a release stating that I won’t sue him if he nicks or cuts the small nerve that runs along side of it that would cause me to wear a colostomy bag the rest of my life. This is why I am asking you if you had the surgery.
 
When I received my spankings the teachers could (and did) go hands on a kid. I got my hand hit with a ruler more than once in Catholic school. My teacher was a Mother Superior and she wielded a mean ruler.
 
Mother would not allow anyone to whip us except her. She went to the school one year and threaten a teacher life for hitting my brother with a ruler. Told them not to ever put a hand on one of her kids. Although I'm sure a religious school had permission to correct kids so may have been different.
 
911 said:
Question: I have a broken (bent) tailbone (Coccyx). Did you have your’s removed? There is only 1 doctor in this area that will do it, but I have to sign a release stating that I won’t sue him if he nicks or cuts the small nerve that runs along side of it that would cause me to wear a colostomy bag the rest of my life. This is why I am asking you if you had the surgery.
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No I didn’t. My chiropractor said I could get it operated on or manually manipulated in a very embarrassing way through the anus which would take months of manipulation. I passed on both since the first was a serious operation ( nerve ends etc) and the second option...... not a friggin’ chance. I was 16 years old when it happened.
 
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Keesha said:
No I didn’t. My chiropractor said I could get it operated on or manually manipulated in a very embarrassing way through the anus which would take months of manipulation. I passed on both since the first was a serious operation ( nerve ends etc) and the second option...... not a friggin’ chance. I was 16 years old when it happened.
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I'm sorry you have to deal with this Keesha. Hope you find relief soon.
 
I never was smacked. My Mom used guilt to keep me in line and she really knew what buttons to push. She new I adored my Dad,so she would say,your Dad will be very disappointed to hear this or that or your Grandma never did or said anything like that. By the time I was 14 she had gone through the whole family.
 
MeAgain said:
Mother would not allow anyone to whip us except her. She went to the school one year and threaten a teacher life for hitting my brother with a ruler. Told them not to ever put a hand on one of her kids. Although I'm sure a religious school had permission to correct kids so may have been different.
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That's actually hilarious. "I'm the ONLY one who hurts my kids."
 
Choosing neither has had drastic consequences and of course, being 16, there was NO WAY I was going to sit on one of those inflatable rings. If I used that, my injuries may have healed better. Sitting down for long periods of time can be pure torture which is another reason I walk a lot and stay active. It really helps. Long drives are the absolute worse and unfortunately I’m needing to do a lot of that as I am helping them into appropriate nursing homes and to say this is super stressful is a major understatement. My minds fried. 🤯
 
i think corporal punishment whether from parents or teachers if done in the right way at the right time is a good behaviour management tool. problem was it became the convenient option in our day as kids. and innefectual if used in anger or as payback. skilled and wise use of it would solve a lot of current problems in society......in my humble dinosaur view. 😁😁
 
Just to put in my two little cents. No one should ever, ever, ever be the recipient of physical violence no matter how small. It just teaches that physical violence perpetrated on someone is the way to get someone to get what you want out of them--in any and all situations. Always wrong!
 
Olivia said:
Just to put in my two little cents. No one should ever, ever, ever be the recipient of physical violence no matter how small. It just teaches that physical violence perpetrated on someone is the way to get someone to get what you want out of them--in any and all situations. Always wrong!
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I'll see your 2 cents and call you. :cautious:
My mother may have been wrong but most of the time it was when she was right and thought she was wrong.:D
 
Trade said:
However when our marriage was on the rocks my first wife used to beat on me. And she got away with it because I was brought up never to hit a woman or girl
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Same here.
No matter the circumstance.
I could never ever strike a woman.
At the risk of being sexist, I believe them to be the fairer sex.
They have deeper feeling, emotions.
And they are generally more fragile.

Kids, also, I could never strike one.
I'd rather take any abuse any child or lady could administer, than resort to what I consider violence.

Right or wrong, that's the way it is with me, and I won't change.
 
Olivia said:
This is something between you and your mother. I'm staying out of it.
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Between? You mean about?
Good thing you were not one of my kids, that argumentative attitude would have gotten you lots of switch stripes. And your free speech would have meant nothing to me or your reason why you wanted your way. :LOL::giggle:
 
MeAgain said:
Between? You mean about?
Good thing you were not one of my kids, that argumentative attitude would have gotten you lots of switch stripes. And your free speech would have meant nothing to me or your reason why you wanted your way. :LOL::giggle:
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Something is really wrong with you. You are on ignore from me.
 

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