Did your parents give "The Talk"? Did you?

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My buddy, Jefry, told me about how a woman got pregnant. I was about 10, and I thought people were made in a factory. So, I didn't buy it. When I got home my mom was washing dishes. When I asked her how a woman got pregnant, she dropped a dish on the floor. She never did say. That got me wondering. Did your parents give "The Talk"? Did you?
 

My parents didn't but when my sons asked we did.
The oldest I discovered one day had a playboy magazine. That opened the opportunity to discuss the female anatomy & how things worked. My thinking if he was curious then why not give him facts? Each in turn when older they asked their older brother & he referred them to me.

I think that early on communication began a lifelong trust that truth would be the basis of any conversations.
 
Mine did not. In fact they were completely useless in that way, which is why I probably still have some inhibitions even now...
 

I didn't get "the talk" from my parents, nope. A girl named Holly in school filled me in before they had the chance. šŸ¤­ My daughter... I don't remember a bonafide "talk"... it was just always a matter of answering questions when they came up, so there was no need for a dedicated talk about it.
 
Yeah. When I was 12 our family drove to California for my dads business trip. After 2 weeks my mom flew back. Thatā€™s when my dad gave me the ā€˜talkā€™. Iā€™m glad this talk isnā€™t the talk that most kids get. šŸ¤¬
 
In 5th grade, my best friend told me all about "it". I was pretty sure MY parents didn't do "that" but she pointed out that there were a lot of kids at my house and they wouldn't be there if my parents didn't do "that".

To this day, I still can't imagine it.....LOL.

Oh, and my friend had just about everything wrong.....
 
My parents did....well, my mom did. I was 5 when she sat me and my older brother down and explained menstruation and how pregnancy happens. We heard it again when the youngest of my younger brothers was 7. And she explained it all to my baby sister when she was about that age. I was married and had a couple of kids by that time.
 
No. My schoolfriends and I learned the facts of life from a boy who sat at our lunch table. I asked mom when I got home if all the terrible things I learned were true and she said yes, they were. I was 11 at the time. Nothing was voluntary though. I had to confront and demand.
 
My patents did not. My husband had the talk with our son. When he was in high school , his first serious girlfriend happened to say in front of me, "I Cant wait to have a baby"! I replied, "oh honey, you can wait and I can help you." I gave my son a box of condoms the next day. He said, " Mom I don't need these. I'm not going to have sex with her". I told him he had to keep them and carry one or I was not going to stop talking about it. He was very uncomfortable. I told him in no uncertain terms that if she got pregnant she would have the baby and that Dad and I will sue for custody and win. Her family was in shambles and she and her 2 sibs who were only a year or two apart all had different dads. I reminded him that he was an only child for a reason....we could not afford to have more children. They broke up the next week. We saw her about a year later carrying a baby. I guess she couldn't wait after all.
 
Attended a boys only Catholic high school:

We had biology in sophomore year. The priest we had for a teacher explained how it all worked. I think everybody got an A on the test based on that subject.

I know I couldn't stand biology even though the priest who taught it was pretty funny. I did enjoy playing hockey on the tabletops with our pens as hockey sticks and the lenses we got from dissecting a lamb's eye as pucks.

My oldest brother explained to me earlier in my life that the baby came out of the place girls pee.....Mind blown!

I thought all babies were born C-section prior to that.
 
I do not remember a set talk but some questions were answered.........I think i was better with my kids but who knows what they remember.
 
This is so delightful and funny to a degree. All of us found are way but the trip was varied, and from the comments interesting. Morals, of course were different back then so what you said to your children was different then today. They know so much now at an early age then we did.
Good or bad, I don't know.
How do you explain the world to kids? Whether they need it or not they are asking questions......how do you explain it to them??????
 
Oh gosh..I was born when mom was 40...and came from the era where there are things you just do not talk about. So, when I was about 9, mom sat me down. Started talking about getting your period once a month (do not remember what she called it), Any way, without the use of ANY visual aids, she talked about attaching a "napkin" to a "belt" and wearing it until it was done, after a few days. Changing when dirty and all. Some other time she gave me a book to read, which made no sense.
Anyway, the word napkin made me visualize a dinn or 50er napkin, and a belt...well they hold dads pants up. And Oh by the way, neglected to mention the baby making part, and that I would be dealing with it for the next 40 or 50 years. Yeah..I figured, I woulddo this for a few years and done. Gee, thanks mom
 
God no ! I may as well have been raised by wolves in that regard.
I pretty much learned by OJT, and what went where.
Had a few close calls, but learned how to not be stupid.
It wasn't until much later that I discovered love making isn't just sex
That opened up a whole new world of connecting.
 
In a lot of ways the younger generation has benefits that we didn't. Draw backs for sure, but still they have much more freedom then we had.
Life was a minefield of do's and don't s with all the dire warnings. How many lives were lived dictated by the morals of those years. I don't regret mine but I'm sure many would have liked a "do over".
Don't misunderstand what I am saying. We are all here to talk about this, which means we found our way, but wonder???????????
A friend of mine said one time that "you work with the deal you were given"!
Can't run.......can't hide...........and can't make it go away.
So we did.
life is good
Gods in control

rbtvgo
 
My parents? NO!

My sister got pregnant out of wedlock when she was 18. It caused many problems in the family, a huge explosion of anger, loathing, and disgust. She had the child and all was good. The horror of the event within the family meant I could never have a child of my own. Psychologically, it was hugely damaging.
 
I was raised by grandparents and one didn't talk about such things. So one day my aunt and cousin were at the house and grandma and my aunt decided to walk to the store 3 blocks away. Cousin then uses the bathroom and tells me to go get grandma and her mom because she is "bleeding to death"! So I run, as fast as I can catch up to them "come quick, Irene is bleeding to death". Grandma said to me "you will too one day" and in my head I'm thinking I'm gonna bleed to death? Fortunately we had a young adult neighbor who I baby sat for who filled me in on my periods, and probably some of the child birth stuff too. I read a lot too, so I learned quite a bit through that.

Then when the time came yes indeed I gave the kids the talk. The girls and the boy!
 

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