Interestingly,this has been a topic of conversation within our family circle the past few days. A friend,who was also my boss when I was doing property inspections,has been hospitalized in San Francisco for the past two weeks. On Monday morning,her mom told my daughter that Jen is dying. Her liver is shot and her kidneys have failed. She is on dialysis. As of Sunday night,they were talking of putting in a feeding tube and sending her home with Hospice. Her kids were taken there to say their goodbyes. All of this was due to alcoholism.
When I met Jen in 2007,she did not drink. At all. That same year,she had gastric bypass surgery and lost 100 pounds. She then started her property inspection company in 2008. As owner of this company,she was required to travel quite a bit and she and her office manager/best friend travelled all over the U.S constantly to different company conventions. That`s when she began to drink. Very shortly,she was drinking so heavily that her husband left her and got full custody of the kids-she was not even allowed to see them. She was put in jail countless times. Attempted suicide countless times. As of Monday morning,she did show some signs of recovery (I knew because she "Liked" a pic I posted on FB-I was shocked!) Anyway,my daughter talked to her mom and she told her that there was some improvement-probably due to the dialysis she was receiving. (My daughter went to SF to visit her today-I couldn`t go since I have my granddaughterand just text me that "Jen says hi!" so that`s good news) Anyway,the point of this whole story is that all of this has happened to Jen in less than 8 years!! From a teetotaler to a raging alcoholic in just so few years. Of course,her having had gastric bypass was a big risk factor for her. I`m pretty sure a "normal" person would not have gone down this quickly By the way,Jen`s mom just celebrated her 30th year of sobriety,so it`s in her genes. I say in her "genes" but who knows if that`s the case or if it`s just a learned behavior. Jen was 8 when her mom stopped drinking. Oh yes,I forgot to mention-Jen is only 38 years old. Way too young to die-especially from alcoholism. In less than 8 short years,alcohol took her family,her business (her mom owns the business now),most of her friends and now probably her life. If she does somehow surive,she will be on dialysis for the rest of her life. So sad. I truly do believe this is a disease-of sorts anyway. No one would allow alcohol to take all the things you love and cherish from you and not make ,at least an attempt,to stop drinking IMO.