Hollydolly,
Thanks for asking. It is my choice. We had a discussion and he agreed.
We both like a nearby apartment complex. It’s all ages (not wild about that) and with what people are saying maybe I don’t want a senior complex. I envisioned a senior complex as being active with no children, lol. I thought assisted living would have the more needy seniors. But assisted living is 4000 a month. Pretty non affordable.
The problem with the nearby complex is one-it doesn’t have Comcast and, well, I need Comcast. I love Comcast. The apartment has direct tv. It would be a hard adjustment, seriously. This old lady likes her tv shows, lol. But I guess I could adapt.
Where we live can be far away from the hospital in an ER. Once when the instant care called an ambulance for me after an hour we went in the car. The ambulance got stuck in traffic on the freeway. This is a consideration. With the lung cancer thing, kinda up in the air, it might be better to find something much closer to the hospital.
Then again, it would be easier to move close by and harder to move further away. Moving in the middle of the valley would be best. Nearer the hospital, closer to our son. The mobile home park met all these location problems. But was further from his work. It was never this hard before. It’s our age, our medical problems, distance from help, and my indecision.
It used to be that when we moved, whoever made the decision, we moved. Now it’s just complicated. Opinions are welcome. Also, apartments are hard to find. Utah is booming. Lots of people moving in. Shortages in houses and no low costs housing, everything is expensive. We have his dog. I don’t want to pay double rent, but I might have to in order to insure we have a place.
I think moving nearby, a six month lease, might be best and give us more breathing room. It’s a big change. That means a choice between the small two bedroom or the large three bedroom. A difference of 400 dollars which depending on what the house sells for could be a lot of money. Then again if he gets increased va benefits it won’t be as bad.
Either way, if he dies, I would have to move to a one bedroom. Daughter’s house is sold. She is in a rented cabin till they move in two weeks.
. Poor son left to deal with us, and my frustration, all by himself. So many issues, so much stress, and the trip to Disneyland in about three more weeks. Sigh.