Do Men or Women mostly currently dominate in marriages or relationships

hollydolly said:
...and many women grew up not knowing how to wire a plug, change a lightbulb... or change a washer ...

I hated cooking and especially sewing at school.. and ultimately was horrible at it... I yearned to be in woodwork class or motor mechanics.. but it wasn't permitted
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Exactly what I wanted to do. I enquired if I could take shop classes, but was told I couldn't. Our home economics teacher was a b**ch .. otherwise, I would have enjoyed
it more.

Back on topic - marriage was equal, 2nd marriage was a challenge. It's difficult to be
with someone who wants all the control.
 

timoc said:
We've all heard the saying..... 'The pen is mightier than the sword' ....... well, I have met more than a few ladies whose tongues are sharper that razors, and lungs that allow them to talk constantly for 6 hours without taking in air, so with this in mind, I usually steer well clear of engaging in arguments with them, and, if a lady hones in on me with those blazing eyes that ladies have, I offer them a licorice allsort. šŸ˜Š
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You got it right, mate!
 

I grew up in absolute abnormality. I like equal in a relationship. Things discussed, decisions made. That said, I can't do anything repair wise. I did replace a few knobs and dead bolts at that house I owned. I could have cried. It's probably because I let myself get so upset about things instead of methodically paying attention to what I'm doing.

I won't be on the road without care service. I have to pay for what I can't do.
 
Remy said:
I grew up in absolute abnormality. I like equal in a relationship. Things discussed, decisions made. That said, I can't do anything repair wise. I did replace a few knobs and dead bolts at that house I owned. I could have cried. It's probably because I let myself get so upset about things instead of methodically paying attention to what I'm doing.

I won't be on the road without care service. I have to pay for what I can't do.
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I can do a lot of those manual things now which I missed out on learning at school..having watched my husband do them... I'm by no means an expert but I can at least change plugs.. decorate, etc... I just wish I'd learned a lot earlier and I'd be even more competent today
 
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Packerjohn said:
My girl friend and I have a partnership. I believe in equality. She is good in certain things and I am good in other certain things.

However, when she asked me if I wanted to go with her to that new movie, "BARBIE" I said ABSOLUTELY NO! I do not care to follow any sort of media trend or anything the media is shoving down my throat. At my age, 77, I have earned the right not to follow the weekly hype what what is "in" on the media. Far as I am concerned, "Barbie" is in this week and it will be out next week as the media will be pushing something else. They always do.

Last movie I watched was "Billy the Kid verus Dracula." That's silly you say? Sure! But really not more silly than Barbie!
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I watched "Barbie" and the first few minutes, thought it was silly, but as it progressed, I became very engrossed! There is a deep message here. It's about women and men and their place in society. Barbie came from a female dominated society where the Kens were second class citizens. When Ken goes into the real world, he sees how it really is and returns to Barbieland to claim his rights. Humor your girlfriend's request to see Barbie. I don't think you will be disappointed. :giggle:
 
Serenity4321 said:
For years men dominated because women had little power and opportunity to be independent. I think that is changing. The extreme is demonstrated in the portrayal in ads of men as weaklings needing a woman to save them. Perhaps this is all just a swinging of the pendulum from a patriarchal society to a more balanced one?
How was your relationship?
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It's hard to generalize when it comes to something like this. It all depends on the dynamics of the marriage. In some marriages, the husband is dominant and in others, the wife is. I have seen both examples during my lifetime. I prefer when both are equal and don't dominate each other (as in my late marriage).
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I never thought in terms of domination. She was quite capable of opening her car door. She drove, or I did- didn't matter. We both worked. So, when we ate out, I better see some cash when the bill came. She was like any other human being.
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Are you saying then, when you went out for a meal, your wife was expected to pay half?
 
All I can say, one smile from my Mother and my Father was
putty in her hands!
I learnt well from watching my Granny and Grandpa and my parents'
interactions with each other.
The words dominance, control or any other similar does not exist in our home. Just love.
 
I think it depends on the what the issue is. When I was married my wife never argued that she should get to change the oil in the cars also. And she left the investing to me, with the proviso that I keep her completely informed. I left things to her that she did better than me like make Thanksgiving dinner and choosing my wardrobe. We divided housework, caring for the kids, grocery shopping, etc. It was a very workable marriage and partnership.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
We worked at the same hospital, and made exactly the same, so why should I be the one who always paid. We usually split it down 50/50, regardless of who ate what. You can't want 'equality', and not pick up your share.
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Hmm... not getting at you fuzzybuddy... interesting.
Since you both worked and were paid the same did you help out with the domestic chores?
 
timoc said:
We've all heard the saying..... 'The pen is mightier than the sword' ....... well, I have met more than a few ladies whose tongues are sharper that razors, and lungs that allow them to talk constantly for 6 hours without taking in air, so with this in mind, I usually steer well clear of engaging in arguments with them, and, if a lady hones in on me with those blazing eyes that ladies have, I offer them a licorice allsort. šŸ˜Š
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It's better not to argue with women. --Vladimir Putin
 
I think young people are wrestling with this even more, but today men are expected to be women but also men at the same time. It's a little weird and a lot confusing and probably even easier to be misunderstood and know where to tread than ever before.

I keep thinking of that truly awful CW series where Kal-El was pretty thoroughly deballed.


Its theme song probably should have been "Under My Thumb" by the Stones.

 
dilettante said:
I think young people are wrestling with this even more, but today men are expected to be women but also men at the same time. It's a little weird and a lot confusing and probably even easier to be misunderstood and know where to tread than ever before.

I keep thinking of that truly awful CW series where Kal-El was pretty thoroughly deballed.


Its theme song probably should have been "Under My Thumb" by the Stones.

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I agree with you. My adult grandkids talk about this sometimes and it's jarring to me that they ignore or know nothing about gender-specific physiological differences.
 
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